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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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To think this isn't concerning?

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plasmocy · 09/07/2021 22:54

I've name changed for this as I'm looking for some opinions.

DS is 15, he's sensitive, quiet and well behaved most the time! He's very interested in true crime although he's also interested in other things like football etc.

Ive never thought this was concerning as he also does want to be involved with the police as a job, but he's not decided if he wants to be a police officer or something else yet.

His girlfriends mum messaged me earlier, saying her DD is upset because of DS. He told her to watch something about a serial killer on Netflix (he didn't force her, he told her to watch it ‘if she wanted’). She then started saying how she doesn't want her DD anywhere near DS as it's very worrying him watching things about serial killers (he doesn't just watch these things!) and that he could be dangerous.

Aibu to think that this isn't worrying at all? Or am I not paying enough attention to it? I could do with some outsiders opinions apart from hers.

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OppsUpsSide · 09/07/2021 22:56

Could be either to be honest, the fact you’re not sure is more prescient than anyone else’s opinion surely

LimitIsUp · 09/07/2021 22:59

Mad as a box of frogs. Lots of people have an interest in true crime - the vast majority are not psychopaths

MarcelineMissouri · 09/07/2021 23:00

True crime can be fascinating!! When I was about that age I collected a magazine series on true crimes (even had the binder to put them in) In hindsight I’m surprised my mum let me get it as some of the pictures were actually quite graphic but it was genuinely just really interesting to me. I am perfectly normal and haven’t killed anyone yet.

A lot of the Netflix series have been really interesting, like Making a Murderer. I’m sure my teenage dsd has watched a fair few of them.

ThursdayWeld · 09/07/2021 23:02

It's on Netflix, not some part of the dark web!

theemmadilemma · 09/07/2021 23:03

I've been interested in all things crime, serial killer, forensic etc. since I was around that age. I'm a perfectly normal adult!! It's not weird at all
If you have no other concerns.

MotionActivatedDog · 09/07/2021 23:03

True crime shows have become very trendy recently. Lots of them all over Netflix and normal TV. I wouldn’t be concerned at all and they’re really not my cup of tea.

IsItMeOrIsItYou · 09/07/2021 23:05

Used to watch forensic detectives and FBI files with my dad at that age. Loved it. Haven’t started killing folk yet.

Warrickdaviesasplates · 09/07/2021 23:06

There's some great true crime documentaries on Netflix at the moment.

I really wouldn't worry about a teenager being interested in it, I've had a fascination with true crime cases since childhood, I remember buying a book about the Amnityville house and other backstories to supposed haunted properties when I was about 8 and I was just obsessed.

I haven't committed any crimes yet and still have a keen interest in most things gory.

Also the GF sounds a bit over sensitive if she's getting genuinely upset over someone suggesting that she might like to watch a documentary, is the mum quite over protective? It all sounds very strange on their part.

HollowTalk · 09/07/2021 23:06

Oh god, my son would have a warning stamped on his forehead then, as would I.

WorraLiberty · 09/07/2021 23:07

Hmm normally I'd say she's massively overreacting, and so is her daughter.

But for both of them to be upset and for her mum to think your DS could be dangerous, surely there has to be more to it than a simple Netflix recommendation.

I wouldn't leave it there OP. I'd do a bit of digging/think about it a bit more.

For you to start this thread instead of eye-rolling at them, indicates you do have some sort of concern yourself.

Macncheeseballs · 09/07/2021 23:07

The mother is nuts

bonnieliesovertheocean · 09/07/2021 23:07

Loads of teens and in fact all age groups have an interest in particularly horrific crime - perhaps because it is so unthinkable to the average person. Why are you wondering if you need to be concerned? How has your relationship been so far with this person who is accusing your son ?

5foot5 · 09/07/2021 23:07

Your DS sounds perfectly normal to me. I was recently talking to my very well balanced and lively adult niece who also loves these documentaries. The girlfriend's mum sounds as mad as a hatter. Ignore.

Elune · 09/07/2021 23:08

True crime is a massively popular genre on Netflix and across media generally. I love it and listen to loads of true crime podcasts, and I'm normal, honest

SnipSnipMrBurgess · 09/07/2021 23:08

I remember being around 10 or so reading the true crime magazines (I'm sure we had a binder too!) I vividly remember one story where the killer made a lamp out of the victims skin, I was horrified and fascinated. But it didn't turn me into a killer, I'm probably over sensitive to people's feeling really.

I would say pay no mind but this will affect your DS if the mum wants him kept away. Maybe give it a day or 3 and call, try to have a rational conversation but ultimately it is her daughters decision.

Summerleaves · 09/07/2021 23:09

I knew a lad in my year about that age who was interested in similar, he had magazines etc. as before the days of internet and streaming.

It seemed a bit weird but he said he's just interested not obsessed. He was a nice lad.

I was interested in all stories about witches when I was younger. Not now though, it was a phase.

I also like police shows, like SVU. I like them to get the crime out of the way as it can be grim but I do like the procedural part.

5foot5 · 09/07/2021 23:09

But for both of them to be upset and for her mum to think your DS could be dangerous, surely there has to be more to it than a simple Netflix recommendation.

Nah. Just means the DD takes after her daft mother and they are both silly drama llamas

Cam2020 · 09/07/2021 23:10

Blimey, half the people I know must be psychos. Neflix has loads of true crime documentaries 🙄

RaininSummer · 09/07/2021 23:12

Probably not that worrying if he watches other stuff too but maybe not the healthiest for a young man as

DrNo007 · 09/07/2021 23:12

Yes when I was a kid I loved reading my dad’s true crime and forensic psychology books about serial killers and the like. I still like watching documentaries about murders. I am perfectly normal and have never killed or harmed anyone or anything!

RaininSummer · 09/07/2021 23:13

Posted too soon... Was going to say that aren't the majority of these serial killers busy massacring women.

CurbsideProphet · 09/07/2021 23:15

Lots of my friends listen to true crime podcasts (eg All Killa No Filla) and chat about them regularly. My DH has loads of docs about serial killers on his Netflix list. He just finds them interesting 🤷🏻‍♀️

Aquamarine1029 · 09/07/2021 23:16

Her mother is absolutely ridiculous. I've been reading and watching avidly about serial killers since I was a teen, and at 48 I haven't killed anyone yet. I don't even kill insects. Except for mosquitoes because they're horrible, obviously.

tobedtoMNandfart · 09/07/2021 23:19

Just scroll through all the Sky channels and you will see he is FAR from alone.

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plasmocy · 09/07/2021 23:19

No, there's nothing I'm concerned about. I just thought her reaction was a bit odd as she's only met DS once and she said he's very nice and polite. So Im not sure why she thinks he's ‘dangerous’ he isn't violent at all or anything like that.

He's always been interested in the police from when he was very young, and he still is. But he's also interested in football and other sports so its not just crime.

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