To think this isn't concerning?

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I've name changed for this as I'm looking for some opinions.

DS is 15, he's sensitive, quiet and well behaved most the time! He's very interested in true crime although he's also interested in other things like football etc.

Ive never thought this was concerning as he also does want to be involved with the police as a job, but he's not decided if he wants to be a police officer or something else yet.

His girlfriends mum messaged me earlier, saying her DD is upset because of DS. He told her to watch something about a serial killer on Netflix (he didn't force her, he told her to watch it ‘if she wanted’). She then started saying how she doesn't want her DD anywhere near DS as it's very worrying him watching things about serial killers (he doesn't just watch these things!) and that he could be dangerous.

Aibu to think that this isn't worrying at all? Or am I not paying enough attention to it? I could do with some outsiders opinions apart from hers.

Your not sure of your own son?

The mother sounds demented tbh! Take no notice.

Unless there’s some behavioural issue I wouldn’t worry. Like others say it’s Netflix and mainstream so lots of people like them. I do like true crime docs myself but I sometimes feel conflicted about using such tragedies as entertainment and whether it’s healthy especially when you have some biased doc maker but that’s another discussion.

True crime is something I’m very interested in. I watch documentaries, listen to podcasts, read true crime books and even watch true crime YouTubers. Nothing wrong with it at all.

Watch ‘A mothers Son’

On Britbox

It might depend on what he recommended she watch.
If it was a run of the mill documentary, then they’re over sensitive.
If it’s 18 rated, heavily sexualised and about mass murdering teenage girls, I can see why they were concerned.

I’ve liked true crime from the age of ten. I’m not a criminal in the slightest. My 13 yr old watches some of the police / crime programmes with me. There are entire channels dedicated to true crime.

Its just an interest of his…
His allowed them, he isnt hurting anyone
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As long as his not sitting in a dark room, with no friends, no interests and looking at violent porn for example then im sure he is ok :)

My DS (now 16) was telling us he watched some of this sort of thing a few years ago.
To me its a normal curiosity of teenage years so unless there are any worrying signs I wouldn't worry about it. His GF obviously has different tastes.
As a teenager I loved horror movies and read plenty of James Herbert and Stephen King books

She's absolutely crazy
Many people are fascinated by true crime look at the shear number of true crime channels there are and all the books, news reports and movies then add all the fictional crime books, TV programmes and movies you'd have to lock up most of the world 🤣
Now if you said he wets the bed and likes to torture/kill small animals I would be concerned but an intrest in true crime and a desire to work in law enforcement in some way is not a problem

True crime programmes are immensely popular. It's quite normal and natural to wonder how the minds of criminals work and how the police outwit them. Not a sign of weirdness at all, unless he is excited by them or admires and identifies with the killers.

Was it ‘don’t fuck with cats’?? That’s the only thing I can think of on Netflix that could be so upsetting?
I think it’s fairly normal that’s why it’s such a huge genre

Is it "The Serpent" on Netflix?

If so, it's bloody fantastic!! And I'm not a serial killer either.

Crikey, l loved true crime stories at that age and bought magazines and everything. I am perfectly normal

My MIL has shelves of true crime books. Can probably give you details of every UK murder in the 20th century.

dds mother sounds a bit hyper to be fair , its not like her daughter is saying your son is fixated on talking about murder ! , i love true crime docus and i dont think about murdering people and i havent been told im strange or come accross as dangerous either , its just fascinating

The girlfriend sounds very sheltered and the mother sounds bonkers. It's 2021, have they never come across true crime on the tv before? It's practically the most popular genre there is!

There is nothing wrong with 15 yr olds watching true crime programmes.

I think the mother is overreacting and also extremely rude. She actually told you that she doesn't want her DD "anywhere near" your son? That's pretty uncalled for. I'd be worried about what she was saying to her DD, or to anyone else for that matter.

I think you and your DS are best off stepping away from this pair of drama llamas .

Its not worrying at all.

I like to watch true crime, and also medical programmes where they do surgery. I find it very interesting. I’m not in a related profession at all but if I had my time again I’d train as a coroner. I do watch other things as well though. So I think as long as your DS isn’t obsessed with that stuff and watching it exclusively then it’s fine.

I'd consider it a lucky escape he's had from two drama llamas.

Nothing wrong with that at all. The whole topic is very interesting. I would find a passion for Love Island and not a lot else more worrying!

@BigBitchyBertha

Your son is insane.

@BigBitchyBertha

Your son is insane.

What?

@5foot5

But for both of them to be upset and for her mum to think your DS could be dangerous, surely there has to be more to it than a simple Netflix recommendation.

Nah. Just means the DD takes after her daft mother and they are both silly drama llamas

Yeah I would say the same if it was my DS in this situation.

But for the OP to lack the confidence and just roll her eyes, makes me think something is niggling her.

Otherwise why ask the internet for thoughts?