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To take an iPad to a Nice Meal on Sunday?

335 replies

EngSun · 09/07/2021 19:01

Football related, obviously.

We've got a very fancy day planned on sunday.

It's not changeable.

We will most likely be eating at kick off time, not quite sure of timings.

Even it we're not eating at that time, we're at the table till 9.30.

Wibu to take some means of watching the game?

I'm sure many of the other people in the room will have some means of following the game, so it would be impossible to hide from any scoring. I think it'd be impossible to just record it and watch it at home at 10.30ish.

We'll be discreet as possible, and obviously not the only people at the meal interested.

Wibu?

OP posts:
RaspberryRoyale88 · 09/07/2021 22:59

Yabu! It’s so rude.

Mangozesty · 09/07/2021 23:04

@thecapitalsunited

How are you going on the Orient Express when you can’t enter France except for essential reasons? Or if you were doing the other way you’d have to quarantine for 10 days in Italy.
Didn't the OP say like the Orient Express...
Dyrne · 09/07/2021 23:07

If you’re into the football enough to want to take an iPad along to a posh train meal to watch it in real time; then are you sure your reactions will be muted enough to not impact on other passengers?

I’m just trying to imagine a scenario where you watch a goal or a close save or a dodgy penalty giveaway, and you’ll just sit there in silence???

MrsTrustice · 09/07/2021 23:13

This thread is batshit!

England getting in to the Euro final is once in a blue moon territory! Unless the other couple are complete arseholes then they’ll absolutely understand and maybe they will want to watch the match as well.

DirtySofa · 09/07/2021 23:16

My view is that if you didn’t care enough to check the dates before you booked - you don’t care enough to watch the match.

NuffSaidSam · 09/07/2021 23:24

It sounds like the worst of both worlds really.

You won't be able to properly enjoy the dinner because you're watching silent football on train WiFi on an iPad, unable to react.

And you won't properly enjoy the football because you're watching it silent, on train WiFi on an iPad, unable to react.

Lockdownbear · 09/07/2021 23:34

I highly doubt at train like that will even have WiFi. Why on earth would people need WiFi when out for dinner on a posh train.

I think you should double check the Ts&Cs because I'd think, phones, radios etc are requested to be on silent.

omgthepain · 09/07/2021 23:43

If I owed a restaurant and people had iPads on with volume especially loud football in a nice restaurant I'd be asking them to turn it off or leave

The other diners won't want to listen theyve maybe gone out to avoid the football

Have some consideration for other people and either go minus the iPad or cancel if you're that bothered

Nanny0gg · 10/07/2021 00:04

@Wtfdidwedo

We went out for my birthday during the knockout stages and had it on a phone in a very crowded restaurant/cocktail bar on a Friday night. The waiter seemed to think we were a bit odd but noone batted an eyelid otherwise.
Yes. That's absolutely the same as a trip on the Orient Express 🤦‍♀️
museumsandgalleries666 · 10/07/2021 00:07

Yes of course it's OK. Your party your choice. Have a lovely day and don't forget your charger👀

Mamajunebugjones · 10/07/2021 00:44

Do people imagine everyone else is going to eating in reverential silence or talking in subdued tones, wary of offending others? That would be so tedious. OP already said she plans to be discreet.
A wedding is a communal celebration- completely different scenario.
OP - perhaps you could use your phone’s hotspot if the train’s WiFi is poor 😜
There are so many killjoys on this thread

MrsTrustice · 10/07/2021 00:44

OP is the host, so it’s not rude to the other couple who may also want to watch.

OP is also a paying customer. If she wants to watch the match on an IPad then that’s her prerogative as long as she isn’t cheering etc.

Lockdownbear · 10/07/2021 01:10

@MrsTrustice

OP is the host, so it’s not rude to the other couple who may also want to watch.

OP is also a paying customer. If she wants to watch the match on an IPad then that’s her prerogative as long as she isn’t cheering etc.

They as a group might not be being rude to each other, but they'll be being extremely rude to other people in the carriage.

You don't expect to be sitting on a train or in a posh restaurant next to people ooooohhhing and arrrrrhing or cheering at a football match.
This is probably the sort of place who won't have WiFi and discourage kids from being in the place.

The Op might have the cash to repeat the experience but for others it could be a one off day out.

Mandalay246 · 10/07/2021 05:27

What on earth is the point of going on something like this, which is obviously an experience rather than just a commute, and then spending time watching football?! Seems like a complete waste of money. Just enjoy the trip- the result of the game will be the same whether or not you watch it.

strawberrydonuts · 10/07/2021 05:51

If you're going on a special trip to celebrate something then you should be present for the people you are with.

If you don't want to be present then stay home and watch the game.

It's either/or in my books.

A phone in your pocket to check the score once in a while - fine. But bringing an iPad to actually watch it whilst you are on a special trip which has been planned for nearly a year? That's really inappropriate and rude.

However "discreet" you think you can be you won't be fully present at the event.

LightAsTheBreeze · 10/07/2021 06:43

@DirtySofa

My view is that if you didn’t care enough to check the dates before you booked - you don’t care enough to watch the match.
OP booked this last October so most likely wouldn't have known
BatshitCrazyWoman · 10/07/2021 06:44

@LaMarschallin

On a train you're likely to be close to other diners who have paid for the "fancy" experience and they may object, surely?

Or is just the four of you in a carriage?

I agree. I wouldn't happy, it could be any sport - the Olympics, the Tour de France, a decent restaurant is not the place for it.
M0nkeybars · 10/07/2021 06:54

If you're going to cancel do it now! Don't leave the restaurant out of pocket 🙏

notanothertakeaway · 10/07/2021 06:54

If I was sitting near you, I'd be so cross and upset if you watched on iPad. I hope the train staff don't allow it

girlmom21 · 10/07/2021 07:44

@Itsprobablynotcominghome

I don’t get all the “some people might not want to know the score, cos they’re recording on the VCR”.

You will be travelling past houses unless it’s rural AF. Im setting fireworks off and running round my garden like a crazy if England win.

It’s not every day you get a free bank holiday.

We're not getting a free bank holiday?
rantymcrantface66 · 10/07/2021 08:55

If all 4 of you want to watch it fair enough but a phone would be far more discreet in that small space than an iPad - sound off, no shouting or raising voices, could be hard?!

nonsensenow · 10/07/2021 09:08

To those saying cancel, it's clearly a Pullman style train and cancelling means losing £100's. We've got something similar booked and it's cost £550 for two. It's a once in a lifetime day trip to us, but if I was tomorrow I'd be trying to work how to watch it too.

'Remember that fab day on the train, the food was amazing, and England won when we were pass by X!'

Hopdathelf · 10/07/2021 09:12

'Remember that fab day on the train, the food was amazing, and England won when we were pass by X!'

Or for people around them ‘Remember that day in the train, the food was amazing, but those ill-mannered people sat watching an iPad, and couldn’t contain themselves when England scored/sulked the whole time as England got thoroughly tonked by the Azure’.

MrsToothyBitch · 10/07/2021 09:12

YABVU to do this. YANBU to want to know the score, sure you won't be the only one but do it on your phone with an alert or refreshing live updates, an ipad seems v big and conspicuous for what you're going out to do, somehow.

Your guests might be gracious about it but what will you do if others do find you disruptive- no matter how subtle you "try" to be- and complain? I feel like the setting would be quite intimate and so your ipad could be noticeable.

Hopdathelf · 10/07/2021 09:14

And isn’t a big part of what everyone is paying for the old fashioned atmosphere. A group sitting with an iPad out rather jars with that.

I for one really hope the OP goes ahead with her plan then comes back to update us on how long it took to be asked to put the iPad away.

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