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Original poster

To take an iPad to a Nice Meal on Sunday?

335 replies

EngSun · 09/07/2021 19:01

Football related, obviously.

We've got a very fancy day planned on sunday.

It's not changeable.

We will most likely be eating at kick off time, not quite sure of timings.

Even it we're not eating at that time, we're at the table till 9.30.

Wibu to take some means of watching the game?

I'm sure many of the other people in the room will have some means of following the game, so it would be impossible to hide from any scoring. I think it'd be impossible to just record it and watch it at home at 10.30ish.

We'll be discreet as possible, and obviously not the only people at the meal interested.

Wibu?

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MrsSkylerWhite · 09/07/2021 21:13

GrandmasCat

I bet your friends are having the same conversation at home 😁“

Doesn’t matter. OE isn’t cheap. There will be people on board who have saved for this, for special occasions, no interest in football, whose experiences will be spoiled by other diners celebrating goals, however discreet they believe they are being. Not on.

Big rugby union fans: would leave the iPad at home for the Six Nations’ final and watch later.

Mandalay246 · 09/07/2021 21:17

It's rude, in fact it's beyond rude. People used to be able to manage when events clashed with sporting fixtures - why can't they now?

Shadedog · 09/07/2021 21:19

I wouldn’t, and to gauge my standards I would probably chance it at a wedding evening reception (not in the service though!).

RealBecca · 09/07/2021 21:23

The way i see it the day out had ls cost you, say £150. For £150 You could either go on the trip and have half the fun half watching the match and pissing other people off or stay home and fully enjoy the game.

The money is already spent so i think youd have more fun at home watching the football and rebooking the tickets.

Standrewsschool · 09/07/2021 21:24

I don’t see a problem. Speak to the other couple and explain how you’d like to bring a n iPad so you can keep an eye on the score. Keep the sound off, and just glance at it during the meal. You won’t be the only ones.

bringincrazyback · 09/07/2021 21:24

It's my SomethingZero birthday.

I was all set to vote YABU, but IMHO that puts an entirely different complexion on things, as you can legitimately play the 'but it's my SomethingZero birthday!' card. Grin

TakeMe2Insanity · 09/07/2021 21:25

Aside from what your host of thinks, please please TAKE HEADPHONES some people might have gone out to avoid the football or want to enjoy the wedding/restaurant/themed event etc.

EarringsandLipstick · 09/07/2021 21:26

@Mandalay246

It's rude, in fact it's beyond rude. People used to be able to manage when events clashed with sporting fixtures - why can't they now?
This.

I don't think it makes any difference that the event is booked by OP & is for a celebration for her & friend.

It's the wrong place for it.

As you say, watch on catchup. It's a pity there is a clash but there is, and you'll have to go with that.

Also, you didn't book this experience expecting to be half-watching a soccer match on an iPad. Just enjoy the experience fully as originally planned.

user1471453601 · 09/07/2021 21:26

My DD is fanatical about "her" football club (though not england).

She definitely would not do this. She may check her phone a couple of times, but that's it. She's in her 50s and I know, for a fact, that she wouldn't do it because we once were invited to a meal at sisters house when her team was playing. She did just that.

It's rude to do anything other

Subbaxeo · 09/07/2021 21:26

Yes, I would echo the check the vibe on the day. I can’t believe people would seriously be going on a train trip expecting to watch the game on catch up later if they’re fans! if they’re football fan enough to watch it later, they would be delighted to have some means of following it live-so don’t worry about that. If you get tuts and looks, maybe just put it away or watch in the loo😊

Dentistlakes · 09/07/2021 21:29

@Tulips15

At my brothers wedding a few years ago, there was a big rugby match on. It was obvious 4 guests were listening -during service. After the service but before the meal (Same venue) the guests got out an ipad and watched. It was rude and disrespectful and all the guests commented disaproovingly. It is rude, regardless of event tbh
I’ve heard of similar, but it was the Grand National. The groom’s family had a horse running and I don’t think it was during the service, so mildly more acceptable. During the ceremony is incredibly disrespectful though.
MrsSkylerWhite · 09/07/2021 21:31

Subbaxeo

If you get tuts and looks, maybe just put it away or watch in the loo😊

I would expect more than tuts and looks. I Imagine staff will ask for it to be put away, you’re impacting on other guests.

Original poster
EngSun · 09/07/2021 21:32

I've just done some research.

This is how the tables are set up, but this isn't the train company we're using.

If the table acrossthe aisle look like they're interested in the football, AND we can be discreet in our reactions, then I think it would have very small impact on the rest of the carriage, iyswim? 🤞🏼

To take an iPad to a Nice Meal on Sunday?
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Lolamambam · 09/07/2021 21:32

Like you have said OP, judge the vibe. I hope you can watch it. No sound on, and no making a fuss about what’s on the screen, I think it’s reasonable. It’s your table to do as you please! People should be enjoying the scenery and the company of those they have gone on the trip with, not worrying about what you are silently doing! X

ancientgran · 09/07/2021 21:34

It is difficult, I know people who are keen on football will want to watch but I am really sick of hearing about it and I either have to put up with it or miss the news. It seems to dominate everything so unless you keep it really low I'd find it annoying and I'd be fed up that even paying loads for a lovely trip can be dominated by a game.

Having said that I was in hospital when Torvill and Dean won with their Bolero routine. I quite liked watching iceskating but having the ward TV on from 6 am with Bolero on non stop drove me mad and I hadn't paid anything for that experience.

EarringsandLipstick · 09/07/2021 21:34

Seeing your photo OP, I think it's doable, as you suggest.

But will you really watch it with no volume, and in silence? Will you not spend the whole time trying to muffle a shout or cheer?

Forget the etiquette? I think you are ruining a lovely special treat for the 4 of you, notwithstanding the excitement of the match (I'm Irish, in Ireland but I am delighted for England and loving watching how happy its made people!)

Jenasaurus · 09/07/2021 21:35

I could see an issue with the other people in the carriage, imagine if they are going out to escape the football or if they are fans and planning on watching it on catch up later but you give away the score, it could ruin it for others, however if its a private carriage with just you and your guests and you asked if they are OK with it and got permission from the train (would the train need a licence to show TV on a train?) Then OK but it is a little odd to spend a lot of money to sit and watch an IPAD

EarringsandLipstick · 09/07/2021 21:35

Forget the etiquette?

I didn't mean to have a question mark here.

Puzzledandpissedoff · 09/07/2021 21:36

I'm hoping it might be some common cohesive experience for a good propagation of people on the train ... But also not intrusive on those who are not fans

With the (known) poor signal on trains, it's likely many will be there precisely because they're not interested, but if even just 10% are, there's no way that won't intrude on the experience of others during any exciting moments - or even all through if you're really avid fans

You mentioned if "others on the carriage appear to be watching it", but how would you know unless they're being thoroughly indiscreet (not doubt after also insisting they wouldn't)?

LH1987 · 09/07/2021 21:36

I think it not okay because even if you have on silent your whole table will be cheering and talking about it which isn't really in keeping with a luxury train ride. Which for some people may be a once in a lifetime experience.

Chloemol · 09/07/2021 21:36

YABU and very rude

MrsSkylerWhite · 09/07/2021 21:37

Just accept it’s rude and stay home.

Original poster
EngSun · 09/07/2021 21:38

I'm.not staying home. As I said in OP, it's not changeable.

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Itsprobablynotcominghome · 09/07/2021 21:40

It’s got 0-0 written all over it.

Get the train to pull over for the pens.

MarshaBradyo · 09/07/2021 21:40

@EngSun

I've just done some research.

This is how the tables are set up, but this isn't the train company we're using.

If the table acrossthe aisle look like they're interested in the football, AND we can be discreet in our reactions, then I think it would have very small impact on the rest of the carriage, iyswim? 🤞🏼

What do you mean by look interested in football?

How will you know?

I’m very interested in the final but still wouldn’t want to see a screen giving away results where I couldn’t enjoy it properly