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To take an iPad to a Nice Meal on Sunday?

335 replies

EngSun · 09/07/2021 19:01

Football related, obviously.

We've got a very fancy day planned on sunday.

It's not changeable.

We will most likely be eating at kick off time, not quite sure of timings.

Even it we're not eating at that time, we're at the table till 9.30.

Wibu to take some means of watching the game?

I'm sure many of the other people in the room will have some means of following the game, so it would be impossible to hide from any scoring. I think it'd be impossible to just record it and watch it at home at 10.30ish.

We'll be discreet as possible, and obviously not the only people at the meal interested.

Wibu?

OP posts:
SleepingStandingUp · 09/07/2021 20:26

Discuss it as a 4. If you all agree, do it but don't cheer or otherwise comment outloud

Nanny0gg · 09/07/2021 20:26

I wouldn't be impressed if I was on the next table

TheGlassBlowersDaughter · 09/07/2021 20:26

Can you imagine how the other guests on the train will feel? They have also probably saved and this will be a special occasion for them. The entire atmosphere will be spoilt by you watching the football.
In fact, it's so tone deaf, I don't believe anyone would be that inconsiderate. Call the company and see if you can move the date or don't go.

BeneficiaryMadness · 09/07/2021 20:26

I’d be really pissed off if I’d paid hundreds of pounds to be on The Orient Express and someone was watching football on an iPad on the next table even if the volume was switched off!

BeneficiaryMadness · 09/07/2021 20:27

I’d be very surprised if the staff allow it too, it’s very formal.

viques · 09/07/2021 20:27

@EngSun

Yes it's like Orient Express.

I've paid for 4 of us (me, DH abs another couple) to go for a special occasion that 2 out of 4 of us are celebrating.

Has been booked since October.

So I'm not being rude to the host as I am the host.

We're very capable of being discreet.

Why are you asking here? Ask the other couple.
Lougle · 09/07/2021 20:28

Isn't half of the enjoyment of the match about the commentary that goes alongside it, though? I'm not a fan, but I watched the match on Wednesday and it seemed like the debating among the commentators is what makes it interesting.

nocoolnamesleft · 09/07/2021 20:28

You're hosting. So you're not being rude to your host. Worse than that. You're being rude to your guests.

girlmom21 · 09/07/2021 20:28

@EngSun

Yes it's like Orient Express.

I've paid for 4 of us (me, DH abs another couple) to go for a special occasion that 2 out of 4 of us are celebrating.

Has been booked since October.

So I'm not being rude to the host as I am the host.

We're very capable of being discreet.

Do all 4 of you want to watch the match? If so, and it wouldn't affect any other attendee, crack on.

However If someone invited me to a meal then spent half the time we were there watching a sport i wasn't interested in I'd find them incredibly rude. Whether you're the host or not doesn't matter.

Rosebel · 09/07/2021 20:29

I never understand this. If you are a football fan why would you book anything for the time the football is on or may be on?
I'd be pissed off if I was invited out for the day and then the people I was with watched the sodding football.
If both couples are happy with it and you won't disturb anyone else then fine otherwise no.

gibbertyofah · 09/07/2021 20:30

Personally I think it's rude and honestly if you were sitting next to me in the carriage you'd spoil the trip for me. It's a bloody game of football!

gibbertyofah · 09/07/2021 20:31

Also - the fact you're asking means you do know it's unacceptable.

warmfluffytowels · 09/07/2021 20:31

Discretion is keeping the sound off and just having it within the 4 of us.

How will you remain discreet when England score or don't score and you're happy or disappointed? It'll impact other people whether you want it to or not.

Besides, will you even get signal on a train? IME the wi-fi is patchy at best and signal comes and goes within minutes.

FlyingBattie · 09/07/2021 20:32

You could always message the other couple (although it's maybe a bit late in the day!):
Hi! I just wanted to check you still wanted to come on Sunday? We have the option of rebooking*, so if you wanted to watch the football, thats fine with us, just let us know and we can arrange a new date? Otherwise we'll see you as arranged.

*obviously only if you have!

LittleBlackCat22 · 09/07/2021 20:32

I’d be furious if someone invited me to a posh meal and had an iPad. It’s so rude. Even more furious that I couldn’t get up and leave.

Tambourinetunes · 09/07/2021 20:33

Are you together all day or together for a few hours beforehand? If you just meet up then start watching I think it would be rude but if you have hours together beforehand then I think it is fine. Alternatively ask for updates and claim they are from baby sitter/concerned neighbour, budgie minder etc.

Bryonyshcmyony · 09/07/2021 20:33

God. I wouldn't go.

Ratalie · 09/07/2021 20:33

I never understand this. If you are a football fan why would you book anything for the time the football is on or may be on?
The fixtures wouldn't have been announced when this was booked (it probably wasn't even known if the Euros would be going ahead at all).

JudgeJ · 09/07/2021 20:33

@EngSun

It's on a train day trip.
So you're wanting to inflict your personal choices on your own party and the others in the carriage? I'd be furious if I were in that carriage trying to enjoy an evening out. For those using the word 'discretely', no chance if your team scores!
Lockdownbear · 09/07/2021 20:34

Op it's a no from me. Very rude to your friends, and to the other people in the carriage.
By all means keep an eye on the score, have your phone set up to ping at a change in score but not the ooooohing, and ahhhhhing or cheering during game play.

YanTanTethera123 · 09/07/2021 20:34

I think that would be incredibly rude and disruptive to others enjoying the meal. If you’re more interested in the ruddy football than a delicious meal then you should cancel the trip.
I imagine the staff serving the meal are going to be far from impressed.
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JudgeJ · 09/07/2021 20:35

@warmfluffytowels

Discretion is keeping the sound off and just having it within the 4 of us.

How will you remain discreet when England score or don't score and you're happy or disappointed? It'll impact other people whether you want it to or not.

Besides, will you even get signal on a train? IME the wi-fi is patchy at best and signal comes and goes within minutes.

Love your optimism 'when England score'!
LifeinPieces21 · 09/07/2021 20:35

@gibbertyofah

Personally I think it's rude and honestly if you were sitting next to me in the carriage you'd spoil the trip for me. It's a bloody game of football!
It's not JUST a game of football.

My DH would be gutted if I'd arranged something for this Sunday. Could you perhaps reschedule?

I couldn't watch on a train having a posh meal with other people sat close by.

DH could Blush

therearenogoodusernamesleft · 09/07/2021 20:35

If the other couple are happy with it, go for it! It's your treat and you can all spend it how you choose. Sound off is perfect.

Mamajunebugjones · 09/07/2021 20:38

I think it depends on your guests - if they want to see the match then go for it, with the caveats that the sound will be off and you’ll be discrete.
I bet most other people on the train will be monitoring what’s going on with the match as well as the staff on the train,
I couldn’t give a toss about football generally but even I can appreciate this match is a big deal.
Have a great day - sounds fab!

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