15 year old home alone for 2 nights

[Sunny4876]

Going on an adults only trip in September . The plan was Dds 15 and 9 would stay with their nan,my sister and brother in law mentioned their almost 16 year old Ds would probably be left home alone for first time and was I letting Dd,I really hadn't given it a thought.
I said I'd be happy for them to stay together as they are both very responsible and mature.
I mentioned this to Dd and she instantly said that she'd rather stay home alone.
I'm in a spin about it but I suffer from anxiety so can't be logical.
Nan lives 5 minutes walk away,lovely quiet street.
Wibu to let her stay alone?wwyd?

I said I'd be happy for them to stay together as they are both very responsible and mature

Who is "they"?

Your dd and their ds? It would be a hard no from me

Your dd and your ds? 9yo is too young to he left with a 15yo overnight imo.

Your dd on her own? She will be fine. Ds at the grannies.

Dd 15 just been left home.
With ds 26 staying over..

She’ll be fine, for sure, but you can’t trust her. She’ll have her BF or her buddies over.

I stayed home alone for a week at a time at 15.
If she's responsible and got nice friends who won't pressure her to have a party etc, then I don't see a problem with it at all.
I left home at 17.

Your post is confusing.

The 9 year old needs to stay with an adult not be looked after by a 15 year old.

The 15 year old can stay home alone as long as nan and one of the neighbours (who has the nan's number) are aware they are alone.

You know your dd best. I did stay at home for a week alone at this age - parents went on anniversary trip. Neighbours were aware and were happy to help if needed. Your dd has grandparent on hand. No harm done.
But - I was a nerd, not the type to have bf or others over.

She’ll be fine, for sure, but you can’t trust her. She’ll have her BF or her buddies over.

That's why you ensure a few trusted adults know they are home alone so they can just pop in during the evenings to ensure they have enough to eat, aren't scared, etc.

I trust her completely,she's what's referred to now as a geek lol,wouldn't have a problem with 1 or 2 of her girlfriends over,she has a very small group of friends anyway,no bf and she definitely wouldn't have a party.
Dd9 will definitely be at nans.

Nope
Never
PS Does being a “nerdy” 🧐 girl make you more sensible?

Sorry,yes after reading op I can see why confusing.
I meant I would be happy for Dd and nephew to stay at one house together.
They both geeks,can't tolerate each other for very long so would keep apart and probably only come together to eat.

No way!

Just 15 or nearly 16? It would make a difference to me. My DD turns 14 soon and I can't imagine her being ready to be on her own overnight in just over a year.

@Nonmaquillee ! Probably not - but for me, it did mean my group of friends were a lot less likely to drink/throw a party/ no one had bf etc. Going to a friend to study meant just that!! True it was in the days of physical libraries and not the internet though.

If her nan is really only 5 minutes away, I would let her stay home on her own. If she doesn't like it or something goes wrong, she can always stay with her nan too.

I have just started leaving (very very sensible) 16 in two months ds for a weekend with (less sensible but trustworthy) 21 year old ds.
Nah way just 15 on their own, that's too much. I would leave him for a day and come home late, but not overnight until he's 16. Just from a moral point of view, feels like a more appropriate age.

Well, I moved away from home to live in my own flat at 15 and was totally fine. At 14 my parents left me home alone for a long weekend, also completely fine although I did have a party. With my own DC though, and taking into consideration where we live, I would not have been comfortable at that age. We live in a house outside a large city and a day doesn't seem to go by without someone in our area is getting burgled. I would worry too much. That's just my circumstances though, yours is probably different.

I can totally see why she wouldn't want to stay with her cousin.

Her staying alone is entirely up to you and her in terms of what you think she can tolerate and be trusted for. But broadly, if she has trusted adults nearby and you think she's responsible enough, I think I'd let her.

It’s risk of gate crashing. Word gets out she’s alone and a few friends turn into a houseful. Nspcc guidance is don’t leave an under 16 overnight. Obviously only guidance not law but if something went wrong it could be viewed as neglect. I have a sensible 15 year old and personally wouldn’t except in an emergency.

Not a chance.
Sorry.

Leaving a 15 year olds overnight is irresponsible she is a child. If something happened social services would not be impressed. Day time/Evenings are not the same.

Aside from NSPCC guidance I think the worry I would have is not how your DD behaves but other people.

Easy to see that a young woman is home alone for those with ill intent.

Why does having anxiety mean you can't think logically?

I absolutely would, she's 15 not 5.

My mind always boggles at the amount of posters on here who'd have you believe they don't allow NT teenagers to spend more than 30 mins alone in the house. It's nuts.

@Rothko2929

She’ll be fine, for sure, but you can’t trust her. She’ll have her BF or her buddies over.

What a stupid thing to say. I have a 15 year old. She wouldn’t have people over without asking 🙄

My DD is 15band DS is 14. We are going to start leaving them home as they don’t want to come away to our caravan anymore. We have cameras at home. They are home along a lot during the day but I’ve not felt comfortable until now to leave them overnight. They’ll be fine. If your DD is happy to stay home I’d let her.

If she is sensible I'd let her, on the understanding that an adult could pop in and check on her each day.