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Original poster

Would you block her in?

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awaywiththefae · 05/07/2021 14:03

I’m WFH and just taking my lunch so thought I’d also whip the bin out. As I do, a car crawls past and then reverses into our parking spot. (It’s our private spot and has our number sprayed in it as well as a sign saying ‘Private parking for number 30’) A woman gets out so I said “Excuse me, sorry you can’t park there” she looks and me and just wanders off up the street.

I mean, I get she might not have realised (although the sign is big and prominent) but to be told and then still walk off without moving - the cheek.

I was a bit taken aback if I’m honest so went back in the house and then I thought, no sod this and I went and knocked on the door of the house she went in, I waited a bit but no one answered!

I wouldn’t mind as such if someone was quickly dropping something off but she’s obviously stopping for a bit. The annoying thing too is the house she’s gone in has a driveway and there’s room for this visitor on it. So I’m a bit Confused to why she’s parked in our private bay.

Grrr, I can’t keep knocking as going back to work (WFH) in a bit, so would I be unreasonable to just block her in with my car? Blush I feel like I need to make a point Grin

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SixesAndEights · 05/07/2021 15:05

He left them blocked in for three days.

A true master of the craft!

DavidTheDog · 05/07/2021 15:05

On a (semi-) serious note, I don't like the outrage and anger that often happens these days (speaking generally not about this thread as such). People do crappy, thoughtless things. Sometimes they absolutely need calling out. Sometimes (I think) we should let it go.

I agree with this, sometimes people just enjoy a good hanging.

I can't picture how you could block someone in anyway. I'm picturing two parallel parking spaces in front of a house, facing the road.

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awaywiththefae · 05/07/2021 15:06

What I don’t understand is… she has a drive. Right there. Why isn’t parking woman parking on her drive it’s insane 🤣

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Bargebill19 · 05/07/2021 15:06

Maybe the neighbour will also tell cf to move or block her in. Might just get the message that they are being unreasonable?!
Do not feel worried.

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awaywiththefae · 05/07/2021 15:07

@HeidiHoNeighbour

Either block her in or slag the tyres but only like this
Love it. 🤣
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EarringsandLipstick · 05/07/2021 15:08

The woman needs teaching not to be a CF.

I am aware I'm sounding quite pious and holier-than-thou (sorry) but this attitude is one I really hate.

No. It's not our job to go around 'teaching' others to be better.

It would be great if everyone would follow our moral code. But they don't.

When it's an issue, sure, we need to address it.

But not for the sake of YOU ARE WRONG. AND I WILL TEACH YOU A LESSON because I am so GOOD AND NOBLE.

(Here endeth the sermon & my input on CF! Good luck OP (secretly hoping you are working away & no cars have been moved 😜)

Rhiannon13 · 05/07/2021 15:08

I'd put an invoice on her windscreen for use of private parking space.

PuppyMonkey · 05/07/2021 15:09

Okay, OP. You've no choice now - time to slash her tyres. Grin

EarringsandLipstick · 05/07/2021 15:09

Cross-post OP.

You are totally entitled to feel cross at this point. What an odd, rude reaction from your neighbour.

People are odd.

StayOffYourPhone · 05/07/2021 15:09

Just parking here for neighbour updates.

woodhill · 05/07/2021 15:09

I would leave her a note but not block her in. I don't understand why she ignored you when you spoke to her

Etinox · 05/07/2021 15:11

@OhHeyItsSaturday

I'm intrigued to know how someone can 'whip the bins out'. It's putting the bins out, surely? Or is there some kind of weird whipping thing you do inside the bin?
Whipping because she’s wfh and you can’t leisurely potter about doing random life admin if you’re wfh.
DavidTheDog · 05/07/2021 15:12

I'm with you @EarringsandLipstick sometimes we all make a mistake or do something stupid or pointless. A bit of kindness and forgiveness go a long way.

HaveringWavering · 05/07/2021 15:15

@TheSecondMrsAshwell

My cousin had this once with someone who parked in his DM's parking bay (she was disabled, so needed the car there). He saw the people parking and told them it was a private parking bay. They just shrugged and went off to do their shopping or whatever. So he parked his car across the end of the parking bay, blocking them in. The bit of pavement next to it didn't have a yellow line.

He left them blocked in for three days. Would have been longer but he had to use the car.

But what did the disabled Mum do during the time he was blocking them in?
ThePluckOfTheCoward · 05/07/2021 15:15

God, people are weird. If I visit a friend and she has a driveway that I can park on I park on it, or at the end of her drive. What I would never think is acceptable to do is go and park on someone's private parking space, I mean that takes some entitled CF attitude.

CuriousaboutSamphire · 05/07/2021 15:17

@awaywiththefae

What I don’t understand is… she has a drive. Right there. Why isn’t parking woman parking on her drive it’s insane 🤣
Probably because her DH DC is due home at some point and she wants her drive left free for them!

I work all over and often see really inviting, empty driveways, if I parked in them my life would be much, much easier.

Reading some of the replies "Oh, you aren't using it, what's the problem?" I am starting to rethink my working day. I may start parking in anyones drive, private space, etc. And if/when they say "Oi, clear off", I shall refer them to some of the posters here and, leaving my car where it is, shall waltz off and do my job!

Fuck 'em. My convenience is more important than theirs, according to some here.

HarebrightCedarmoon · 05/07/2021 15:17

Please update when neighbour comes comes, if CF is still there.

Providora · 05/07/2021 15:20

Whipping because she’s wfh and you can’t leisurely potter about doing random life admin if you’re wfh.

OP seems to have plenty of time!

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awaywiththefae · 05/07/2021 15:22

@ThePluckOfTheCoward

God, people are weird. If I visit a friend and she has a driveway that I can park on I park on it, or at the end of her drive. What I would never think is acceptable to do is go and park on someone's private parking space, I mean that takes some entitled CF attitude.
I know, I don’t know who is worse tbh the CF Parker or the CF neighbour who is allowing it
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LookItsMeAgain · 05/07/2021 15:22

@HarebrightCedarmoon

Please update when neighbour comes comes, if CF is still there.
This please ^ *
Bluetrews25 · 05/07/2021 15:23

If I was brave / stupid / malicious and she hadn't moved it, I would jack it up and put it on bricks.....or wedge a screw where she will drive over it.
But that would be criminal damage, so can only be a dream......
Or just throw birdseed all over it?

DynamoKev · 05/07/2021 15:26

I was afraid I was going to get kicked off when I allowed the dishwasher repair man to use my loo! 🤣
I think it's only a ban if he does a stinky dump and leaves skid marks - but then that's complicated by the loo brush and bleach convention.

Blossomtoes · 05/07/2021 15:27

I don’t know who is worse tbh the CF Parker or the CF neighbour who is allowing it

How would the neighbour stop it? After all, you couldn’t.

catmandont · 05/07/2021 15:27

I hate the fact that CF visitor didn't park on neighbours drive, originally or after you spoke to them 🤬

Someone once parked across my drive, and when I told them to move they tried to justify it by saying they were visiting a neighbour over the road.

I'm afraid I did not keep my cool, and I asked him why he wasn't parking across their f*ing drive then, I stood their like a loon with my arms crossed saying MOVE YOUR VAN, repeatedly until he did. Not my finest moment, but I was not in the mood that day 🤣

WeBuiltThisBuffetOnSausageRoll · 05/07/2021 15:28

She is being an arse. Sure. But I wouldn't let it affect me. It's not my job to correct other's moral failings.

Where it's actually causing a problem, then I'd feel differently.

The thing is, though, that the main benefit of having private property - whether a house, a garden, a drive, a parking space - is not just that you can ask to use it whenever you want to, but that it is there exclusively for you to use at any time you want to. If you've paid extra to buy or rent that private property, it's not OK for somebody to just help themselves to it.

It's not the same kind of violation as if somebody let themselves into your house and sat on your sofa watching your TV - although what about if you'd left the door open for a moment to hang out some washing or whatever and so they just walked straight in without any force necessary? - but if you can't guarantee that your private property is always available for your own free use, there's no point in having it.

You might as well live on a road with plenty of on-street parking, where the neighbours tend to leave a space near your house free for you - but if somebody had a party, multiple guests, workmen, wanted a skip or just fancied parking there for a change, they would be entirely within their rights to do so - as it's nobody's private property - so you would be in a permanent state of probably getting the space for your own use, but with no assuredness until the last minute.