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Would you block her in?

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awaywiththefae · 05/07/2021 14:03

I’m WFH and just taking my lunch so thought I’d also whip the bin out. As I do, a car crawls past and then reverses into our parking spot. (It’s our private spot and has our number sprayed in it as well as a sign saying ‘Private parking for number 30’) A woman gets out so I said “Excuse me, sorry you can’t park there” she looks and me and just wanders off up the street.

I mean, I get she might not have realised (although the sign is big and prominent) but to be told and then still walk off without moving - the cheek.

I was a bit taken aback if I’m honest so went back in the house and then I thought, no sod this and I went and knocked on the door of the house she went in, I waited a bit but no one answered!

I wouldn’t mind as such if someone was quickly dropping something off but she’s obviously stopping for a bit. The annoying thing too is the house she’s gone in has a driveway and there’s room for this visitor on it. So I’m a bit Confused to why she’s parked in our private bay.

Grrr, I can’t keep knocking as going back to work (WFH) in a bit, so would I be unreasonable to just block her in with my car? Blush I feel like I need to make a point Grin

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SixesAndEights · 05/07/2021 14:57

Totally block her in!!!!

TheSecondMrsAshwell · 05/07/2021 14:57

My cousin had this once with someone who parked in his DM's parking bay (she was disabled, so needed the car there). He saw the people parking and told them it was a private parking bay. They just shrugged and went off to do their shopping or whatever. So he parked his car across the end of the parking bay, blocking them in. The bit of pavement next to it didn't have a yellow line.

He left them blocked in for three days. Would have been longer but he had to use the car.

roguetomato · 05/07/2021 14:57

If it doesn't affect me, I would ignore it. I don't understand the point of causing trouble.
If her car is still there when DH came home, then you have reason to be annoyed.

HermioneKipper · 05/07/2021 14:57

100% block her in. Cheeky cow

HarebrightCedarmoon · 05/07/2021 14:59

Someone the other day parked across the bottom of my drive, with the car in it and everything, and they were there about half an hour.

They were lucky that I'd gone out in the other car (parked on the road) and hadn't wanted to use the one in the drive, but I was astonished. There was loads of room, including the spot I vacated with my car when I'd gone out, but no, right over the bottom of the drive. No harm done, but why would you? I'd understand it if it were an emergency and there were no other spaces, but it wasn't and there was tons of room, including just behind where they actually parked. Just bloody ignorant, I think.

Nocutenamesleft · 05/07/2021 14:59

Could she be deaf? If she didn’t answer. Then hasn’t answered the door?

igelkott2021 · 05/07/2021 14:59

@DancesWithTortoises

Yes, block her in. And don't answer the door when she comes knocking.
Yes! And have a glass of wine (or two, or three) so you sadly can't move until tomorrow morning anyway Grin
LadyDanburysHat · 05/07/2021 14:59

Oh I would absolutely block her in

EarringsandLipstick · 05/07/2021 14:59

[quote mn2022]@EarringsandLipstick

Please explain to me how me sitting in your garden would impact you if you weren't there Confused[/quote]
You're v tedious - I offered my opinion on the actual situation OP posted on.

Why exactly you think it's relevant to post fictitious entirely different scenarios that you think prove your point (they don't) is beyond me.

  1. If I genuinely wasn't there, I wouldn't know you'd arrived & sat there, so nothing I could do.
  1. If you were sitting in my front garden it would be for no discernible reason, so I'd ask you why.
  1. If it was my back garden, you would have broken in, as there's a locked gate.
  1. If you sat vacantly and ignored me, I'd probably think you were a bit odd, had some issues maybe. And what would I do? I'd wait. I'd hope you'd go soon. If you didn't, and it started to become a problem, I would address it then.

So while it's a completely different scenario to the parking situation, I'd approach it broadly the same way. When it impacts me (like a break in) I'd take appropriate action, probably police. If they were oddly hanging out on my front lawn, where it would be odd but not immediately impact me, I'd wait & see.

Hope I've answered your hypothetical scenarios to your satisfaction 🙄.

HarebrightCedarmoon · 05/07/2021 15:01

Isn't there a parking warden patrolling, OP, or who you could alert? I'm sure they love giving tickets.

SquirrelCrimbleCrumble · 05/07/2021 15:01

@EarringsandLipstick

This thread is horrible. She shouldn't have parked there & is rude. However you don't actually need the space till DH comes home, by which time she'll most likely be gone.

If she isn't, sure block her then if he needs to park.

However to go to all the effort of moving your car just to block her in is really infantile, as are the posters baying at OP to do it.

The woman is wrong. Be mildly irked. Get on with your day. If it's still a problem, in a few hours time when DH actually needs the space, deal with it then.

Exactly.

I couldn't get worked up about this.

If you'd been in the office today, you'd never have known someone had parked in your bay(s).

Seriously Hmm

Humpthree · 05/07/2021 15:01

Block her in, OP! You're well within your rights to do it!

igelkott2021 · 05/07/2021 15:02

I have just seen someone making a very complicated manoeuvre to get into their drive because somebody had parked in front of their driveway. It has a dropped kerb AND there is a yellow line. Fortunately the car trying to get in (or out) was very small, so they probably managed it in the end.

Unless of course they were the CF and had parked on someone else's drive and they'd blocked them in.

[shakes head]

HeidiHoNeighbour · 05/07/2021 15:02

Either block her in or slag the tyres but only like this

Would you block her in?
Greenrubber · 05/07/2021 15:02

Parking wars

Blondeshavemorefun · 05/07/2021 15:02

Def block her in

1 It said private. Your number

2 She then goes to another house number, which had space on their drive

3 And ignores the door

Unless deaf but isn’t blind so see 1

EarringsandLipstick · 05/07/2021 15:02

[quote Laiste]**@EarringsandLipstick You are obviously a lovely person :) I mean that. I can only wish to be as chilled as you.[/quote]
I am definitely not chilled Laiste but thank you 🤗

I also can be very not-lovely I'm sure, as much as I wish I could be better 😇

On a (semi-) serious note, I don't like the outrage and anger that often happens these days (speaking generally not about this thread as such). People do crappy, thoughtless things. Sometimes they absolutely need calling out. Sometimes (I think) we should let it go.

EarringsandLipstick · 05/07/2021 15:03

@beastlyslumber

Don't block her in. That's petty.

Slash her tyres instead.

😂😂😂
HeidiHoNeighbour · 05/07/2021 15:03

Slash the tyres !!

LittleMissnotLittleMrs · 05/07/2021 15:04

I don’t think I’d block her in but how about a potato in the exhaust pipe or write a note saying that she’s parked in a private space that was needed. She didn’t answer the door so you have left this polite note to inform her she’s trespassing . Then glue it to her window. Passenger side so she can drive but will look like a dick. Print stick or something that will come off but is awkward

Crowsaregreat · 05/07/2021 15:04

What harm is she doing?

igelkott2021 · 05/07/2021 15:04

The woman is wrong. Be mildly irked. Get on with your day. If it's still a problem, in a few hours time when DH actually needs the space, deal with it then

The woman needs teaching not to be a CF. You do not park in other peoples' space or on their driveways without permission.

Those of you who think the OP is being unreasonable clearly do this on a regular basis.

Lochroy · 05/07/2021 15:04

The thing about not blocking her is is that she'll think it's acceptable. And therefore on the day the OP needs the space (or whichever poor sod's drive she's used that day) it WILL be a problem. That's the thing about CFs, give them an inch and they take a mile.

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awaywiththefae · 05/07/2021 15:04

I just went around again to knock. I wanted to give the benefit of the doubt.

Neighbour answered (who I’m actually peed off with too as she’s obviously aware that her visitor is not in their drive but in someone’s private parking bay) I was very polite and breezy and said “hi I think one of your visitors in parked in our private parking spot” and she just stared as if to say “and?” so I continued and said DH will be home soon and won’t be able to park in his space”
Neighbour said “Ok… I’ll tell her to move somewhere else… if that’s ok with you?” ShockConfused That sort of got my hackles up so I said “I don’t mind as long as it’s not in our spots”

Anyway woman then moves her car out of DH’s space and into our neighbours space 🤣 so my neighbour who is it at work is going to come home to crazy parking woman in his spot. I feel so bad, I’ve caused this 😆

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SpaghettiSpoons · 05/07/2021 15:04

I don't know the answer to this as we're not in the UK but....can you have her clamped or towed?

Oh, how is love to see that Smile

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