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Would you block her in?

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awaywiththefae · 05/07/2021 14:03

I’m WFH and just taking my lunch so thought I’d also whip the bin out. As I do, a car crawls past and then reverses into our parking spot. (It’s our private spot and has our number sprayed in it as well as a sign saying ‘Private parking for number 30’) A woman gets out so I said “Excuse me, sorry you can’t park there” she looks and me and just wanders off up the street.

I mean, I get she might not have realised (although the sign is big and prominent) but to be told and then still walk off without moving - the cheek.

I was a bit taken aback if I’m honest so went back in the house and then I thought, no sod this and I went and knocked on the door of the house she went in, I waited a bit but no one answered!

I wouldn’t mind as such if someone was quickly dropping something off but she’s obviously stopping for a bit. The annoying thing too is the house she’s gone in has a driveway and there’s room for this visitor on it. So I’m a bit Confused to why she’s parked in our private bay.

Grrr, I can’t keep knocking as going back to work (WFH) in a bit, so would I be unreasonable to just block her in with my car? Blush I feel like I need to make a point Grin

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Bargebill19 · 06/07/2021 17:01

It’s an art form!

Blossomtoes · 06/07/2021 17:09

The only reason I keep returning to it is because I want to know if there’s still a car with a note on it in the middle of the road. I’m kind of assuming not.

Nsky · 06/07/2021 17:23

Maybe it’s a relative visiting their loved one, who may not survive very long

Buffs · 06/07/2021 17:36

Well done

WeBuiltThisBuffetOnSausageRoll · 06/07/2021 17:38

Is the car still there, just parked in the middle of the road? Has anybody printed off a large 'Please Treat As A Mini-Roundabout' and stuck it on top of the car (hopefully by securing it to another cone)?!

quizqueen · 06/07/2021 17:40

It seems to me that CF neighbour's DH came home to find a parking situation that he had no knowledge of, but it was silly to park in the middle of the road. The nice neighbour should have blocked your original lady in though as she was the one who should have been inconvenienced rather than the household she was visiting.

SuperCooperMum · 06/07/2021 17:41

Have a skip delivered right in front of her car. It’d be so worth it 😅

SixesAndEights · 06/07/2021 17:41

@Nsky

Maybe it’s a relative visiting their loved one, who may not survive very long
You'd think they'd park on the person's drive then in case their relative passed away whilst they were walking from OP's parking spot.
HarrietsweetHarriet · 06/07/2021 17:47

Don't block her in...she might be having a really bad day. Try and let it go. If you see her say something like 'I hope we helped you out today with the use of our parking bay..maybe suggest she passes on the favour. Kindness means everything right now. Try and let it go OP x

MaggieFS · 06/07/2021 17:52

The ship has sailed @HarrietsweetHarriet

Or more like battle has commenced!

SoupDragon · 06/07/2021 17:53

@HarrietsweetHarriet

Don't block her in...she might be having a really bad day. Try and let it go. If you see her say something like 'I hope we helped you out today with the use of our parking bay..maybe suggest she passes on the favour. Kindness means everything right now. Try and let it go OP x
It was yesterday.
Loubilou09 · 06/07/2021 17:55

@HarrietsweetHarriet

Don't block her in...she might be having a really bad day. Try and let it go. If you see her say something like 'I hope we helped you out today with the use of our parking bay..maybe suggest she passes on the favour. Kindness means everything right now. Try and let it go OP x
It didn't occur to you at all to read the thread? 25 pages of it and you didn't think something would have occurred by now?
ahoyshipmates · 06/07/2021 18:01

Kindness means everything right now
Not to the CF who parked in the OP's marked space, it didn't.

nocoolnamesleft · 06/07/2021 18:02

What makes you think that a notice in the window saying it's a doctor on call makes any difference? A consultant colleague of mine parked outside A&E when called to resus at 2am for a child who wasn't breathing, and left the official notice in their car window. Still got a £70 fine.

Blossomtoes · 06/07/2021 18:06

@nocoolnamesleft

What makes you think that a notice in the window saying it's a doctor on call makes any difference? A consultant colleague of mine parked outside A&E when called to resus at 2am for a child who wasn't breathing, and left the official notice in their car window. Still got a £70 fine.
Bet he didn’t pay it. And I’m even more surprised there was anyone on parking duty at 2am, that Trust must have money to burn.
yellowsubmarines · 06/07/2021 18:08

allquizqueen Tue 06-Jul-21 17:40:56 It seems to me that CF neighbour's DH came home to find a parking situation that he had no knowledge of, but it was silly to park in the middle of the road. The nice neighbour should have blocked your original lady in though as she was the one who should have been inconvenienced rather than the household she was visiting.

The household Mrs. is the one that apparently told CF visitor that it was ok to park in someone else's spots. She was at least aware the visitor was doing it when the OP brought it to her attention and refused to open the door to the OP the first few times she had knocked to try to speak with her.
I have sympathy for OP's DH and her next door neighbour both of whom would have come home to their drives being blocked by an unknown car and having no knowledge of what was going on.

OP how long have you been wfh? Do you do it every week? I wonder how frequently CF has been parking in your drive without you realising it and you just happened to catch them out yesterday.

Elle2018 · 06/07/2021 18:08

Bit late to the party but I’d go and park my car on the drive at the house she is in 🤷🏻‍♀️

LauraPearl · 06/07/2021 18:08

Bizarrely - parking in someone's private space is a civil matter, and not a criminal offence. Blocking someone in (or clamping, obstructing them) actually IS a criminal offence. Makes no sense, but there you go.
In this situation I would put a note on the car telling her that you'll call the Police to get the car towed next time she does it (call her bluff) and that you are aware she went into house number X. It might stop her doing it again... although I doubt it, she's just being a CF!

Twinkie01 · 06/07/2021 18:10

Drs 😂😂😂

They only see you from fucking zoom at the moment!

Maybe CF's friends DH is a doctor and had found the perfect spot to get a good WiFi signal, right next to nice neighbours DH's car.

Bargebill19 · 06/07/2021 18:10

@nocoolnamesleft

What makes you think that a notice in the window saying it's a doctor on call makes any difference? A consultant colleague of mine parked outside A&E when called to resus at 2am for a child who wasn't breathing, and left the official notice in their car window. Still got a £70 fine.
Not the same at all.

Your scenario involves a jobs worth (a different species of cf). Plus, they may have had a lot cf trying it on to avoid parking charges.

The ‘Dr’ on here was saying it’s fine for her to park on private property/improperly in spaces unrelated to the patient she was visiting. A dr in call sign in that instance might make a difference

YouJustFoldItIn · 06/07/2021 18:12

Did she definitely hear what you said?

Maybe not. Maybe she's deaf. But are we supposed to believe she's blind or illiterate as well?

HarrietsweetHarriet · 06/07/2021 18:15

Sorry. Sick in bed. Didn't read the whole thread. Shouldn't have commented. Hope it's all sorted without recourse to physical violence / criminal damage x

ScotchB · 06/07/2021 18:16

I’d block her in, pick up my laptop and go work in my local library or at a neighbour’s. 🤷‍♀️

MrsBadcrumble123 · 06/07/2021 18:23

@EarringsandLipstick

This thread is horrible. She shouldn't have parked there & is rude. However you don't actually need the space till DH comes home, by which time she'll most likely be gone.

If she isn't, sure block her then if he needs to park.

However to go to all the effort of moving your car just to block her in is really infantile, as are the posters baying at OP to do it.

The woman is wrong. Be mildly irked. Get on with your day. If it's still a problem, in a few hours time when DH actually needs the space, deal with it then.

Jeeeez have a day off - I really cannot abide do goodery devils advocate bores! Block her in OP - hate the self-entitled!!
YouJustFoldItIn · 06/07/2021 18:23

Except this particular CF hasn’t actually inconvenienced anyone.

That's an outrageous attitude. It's a private parking bay that goes with the house and it's clearly marked as such. Just because it's not attached to the house doesn't make it okay to use it uninvited. It's no better than parking directly on someone attached private driveway.