To be annoyed at DM over DS' Birthday?

[blaisealex]

DS 3rd Birthday today. We decided in advance we would celebrate yesterday (Sunday), as DH and I both have to work his Birthday on the Monday.

As he's so young, he doesn't actually know what day is his Birthday is. So the plan was to tell him his Birthday was on the Sunday. We had a little family party. Great day. Then this morning I was speaking to DM on FaceTime and she started singing Happy Birthday and telling DS his Birthday was today.

I then took him to Nursery and he started crying and didn't want to go. Now, I feel like the shittest parent ever. And I can't help but feel it's DMs fault. She knew the plan. Today was supposed to just be a normal day, go to work, nursery, etc. And not mention his Birthday. In his mind it was yesterday. He normally has no problem going in to Nursery. But now he knows today is his Birthday and I've had to leave him at Nursery in tears.

AIBU to be annoyed?

@ZeroFuchsGiven

Why would You lie to him?

Its Your birthday tomorrow but we are having a party today covers it

This.

I think your Mum was bang out of order. As a working parent you sorted a solution that worked for all and she ruined it and by doing so upset your child. I would be allowing less face time for her.

@ZingDramaQueenOfSheeba

you could say "oops, mummy got the dates wrong, yes, your birthday is today" then give him an icelolly and a big hug.

job done

More like grandma hit the dates wrong