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AIBU to think this is workable?

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lockdownwithwhoresdrawers · 04/07/2021 22:32

Well, just about!

Desperately need extra ££ to fund last bits of a house renovation and the extra to cover for a garden studio. I currently work PT in the NHS in an admin position (2 days at home, 1 day in office) but have just been offered a 30hr nights role at Sainsbury's. My week would look like this.
Sunday 9pm-7am
Monday 8-4
Tuesday 8-4
Wednesday 8-4 then 9pm-7am
Thursday 9pm-7am
Friday - off
Saturday off
Sunday 9pm-7am again.

AIBU to think I can cram it all in as a short term solution? My 2 kids are at FT nursery and primary school, wraparound begins in September again so husband/me can drop from 7:30/8am.

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lockdownwithwhoresdrawers · 04/07/2021 23:32

I've just gone through our terms and conditions, interestingly nothing about working in a second job but the usual stuff about being fit to work so it could fall under that category.

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lockdownwithwhoresdrawers · 04/07/2021 23:32

I wouldn't be doing this if I didn't have good reason of course. I would much rather be going out for lunch/gym than sleeping off a night shift !

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lockdownwithwhoresdrawers · 04/07/2021 23:35

@katie2812

If you think you can do it go for it. But it just looks like you're heading for a massive burnout. Nights aren't easy, they really take it out of you. I understand you want the money, I'm currently trying to save for a house and I'm doing loads of bank but I couldn't mix up days and nights. You need to think of your own mental health and sanity and the tax man!

Hope you raise the funds OP but don't sell your soul for it. 💞

Grateful that I at least have a house but needing to try and make it bearable to live in is yet another story! Hope your bank work is ok though.
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ilovepixie · 04/07/2021 23:37

@OhHeyItsSaturday

A neighbour of mine works for them and says they give a warning for any sick days taken, so might be worth taking that into account in case you do get exhausted and ever have to phone in sick (if the warning thing is true, that is!)
They only give sick warnings if you exceed your sickness allowance. The nightshift is quite hard work. Once your fully trained your expected to pack out a certain number of cases an hour. Although depending on your team you can have a laugh while working.
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lockdownwithwhoresdrawers · 04/07/2021 23:37

Also don't want to muck up my main job. It's intense at the moment and can be quite demanding (or has quite demanding tasks at times).

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hellywelly3 · 04/07/2021 23:45

I think it will be very dangerous working those hours. Are you going to be driving with so little sleep? Could you get a weekend job instead

FizzyPink · 04/07/2021 23:46

I once hired someone who was working as an Uber driver at night (obviously I didn’t know this at the time). It was totally obvious that he couldn’t stay awake during the day and he quit after 2 weeks. Plus he was a young single man so didn’t even have children to look after

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lockdownwithwhoresdrawers · 04/07/2021 23:48

I doubt they'd be open to me doing less hours, worth an ask I guess ?

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lockdownwithwhoresdrawers · 04/07/2021 23:48

@hellywelly3

I think it will be very dangerous working those hours. Are you going to be driving with so little sleep? Could you get a weekend job instead
Drive is extremely short so would be fine. Can walk or cycle too
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hulahooper2 · 04/07/2021 23:49

No , totally I doable on Monday and Wednesday , sorry

youvegottenminuteslynn · 04/07/2021 23:49

I think the risk of you losing your day job through it affecting your performance is greater than the benefit of accepting the role, so I wouldn't take it.

Peoniesandpeaches · 04/07/2021 23:50

I know when I worked in the NHS I had to run any additional jobs I wanted to take on past them and you would be unlikely to be allowed to work this pattern. Also saints burns if they knew would also not let you work it as it isn’t sustainable. There are rules for night workers that, as far as I’m aware, you can’t opt out of. See this link for more: www.crunch.co.uk/knowledge/employment/working-time-regulationsworking-hours-rest-breaks-holiday-entitlements-working-time-directive-and-bank-holidays/

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lockdownwithwhoresdrawers · 04/07/2021 23:57

I think I had an idea that I would work the Sunday night and then be awake all day Monday and power on thorough until bedtime a bit like when you are coming off nights and readjusting.

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LolaButt · 04/07/2021 23:59

In my twenties I worked a regular 9-5 five days a week. Then four nights a week, 8pm - 2am.

It absolutely wrecked me. I managed it for five months and ended up really depressed and ill.

The days working all night and then all day won’t just be hard on the day. It will be the Monday night when you’re overtired and trying to catch up on a whole nights sleep.

Is there scope to do the supermarket 6 - 12?

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lockdownwithwhoresdrawers · 05/07/2021 00:01

@LolaButt

In my twenties I worked a regular 9-5 five days a week. Then four nights a week, 8pm - 2am.

It absolutely wrecked me. I managed it for five months and ended up really depressed and ill.

The days working all night and then all day won’t just be hard on the day. It will be the Monday night when you’re overtired and trying to catch up on a whole nights sleep.

Is there scope to do the supermarket 6 - 12?

Ooh 6-12 could work. Would be tight with handover time at home though.
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LolaButt · 05/07/2021 00:04

May be worth looking at it.

Please don’t wreck yourself for the sake of the garden. Your kids need you to be well.

I do get it though. I would probably try and do the same!

User57327259 · 05/07/2021 00:16

Is there any reason why you are doing all this working including doing night shifts while your DH looks to be working 9 to 5 Monday to Friday. Could he get a part time job, evenings or weekends?
I noticed you are signed up to have this extra room at your house. It might be possible to get out of that contract. Having the outside room is nice but is it really worth ruining your health for?

Babyroobs · 05/07/2021 00:38

How could you function in your day job after being up all night ?

Stompythedinosaur · 05/07/2021 01:01

That is unsustainable imo. You will make yourself ill, or crash a car driving home, or lose both jobs.

In my role you have to declare a second job, are you sure you don't? This would definitely impact your current role.

Kanaloa · 05/07/2021 01:25

That just looks horrific. I think it would be better to start looking for some weekend work, so you could get a few extra hours and save up bit by bit.

I mean how are you going to have any energy left to look after yourself and be around for your kids?

HollaHolla · 05/07/2021 02:44

In my early 20s, I did 5 months of 08:00-16:00 Mon - Fri; 20:00 - 12:00 Tues - Thurs; 20:00 -02:30 Fri & Sat; 10:00 - 18:00 Sat.
I was a wreck by the end of it - and I lived at home, with my mum cooking/doing my laundry. I was saving to go travelling, and ended up quitting one of my jobs about a month before I left. Honestly, I was starting to make stupid errors in my day job, as I was staying up too late, working in my other jobs.
I used to sleep for about 14 hours on a Sunday, and had no life whatsoever.
I’d caution against it.

Pythonesque · 05/07/2021 06:52

If your main reason for the garden room is to set up a sensory area for your children who need it, have you explored whether there are any charitable grants you could get to help towards it a little?

EarringsandLipstick · 05/07/2021 07:08

Are you going to be driving with so little sleep?

Drive is extremely short so would be fine. Can walk or cycle too

It doesn't matter how short the drive is. It's extremely dangerous to you and others.

Cycling similar.

Look, regardless of how important getting extra money is to you, this won't work. It's dangerous. You'll do a poor job for both roles & will end up sick. Everyone has told you.

You need to sit down with DH & work out a sustainable plan.

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lockdownwithwhoresdrawers · 05/07/2021 07:20

@Pythonesque

If your main reason for the garden room is to set up a sensory area for your children who need it, have you explored whether there are any charitable grants you could get to help towards it a little?
I'm currently exploring this (have been since March) but it is a very lengthy process.
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lockdownwithwhoresdrawers · 05/07/2021 07:22

@User57327259

Is there any reason why you are doing all this working including doing night shifts while your DH looks to be working 9 to 5 Monday to Friday. Could he get a part time job, evenings or weekends? I noticed you are signed up to have this extra room at your house. It might be possible to get out of that contract. Having the outside room is nice but is it really worth ruining your health for?
The deposit is barely anything but I have the majority of the money for the project, I just want to get over the hill with this extra work so I don't have to borrow from friends/PIL or use credit.
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