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Original poster

To want to punch my husband

100 replies

paulhollywoodshairgel · 03/07/2021 21:38

Husband watching football. That's fine. I got on my soap box a bit about how it's unfair that these events can go on with thousands of spectators. Then when the match is over will all pour into the pubs and streets. BUT we can't attend our kids sports day, our LG year 7 transition day has been cancelled, proms and end of year trips/parties cancelled. It's just so unfair. Because none of those things make money they aren't important. Anyway. He speaks to me like I'm a child and about how these events are important to the nation. Fuck that. Our kids and the shit year and a half they've had are important. I feel like punching him.

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Longestfewdaysupcoming · 03/07/2021 21:39

Seems a bit extreme.

I would have left him to watch the football if I was that upset by it.

WithLoveFromMyselfToYourself · 03/07/2021 21:40

To be fair, your timing wasn’t the best.

He’s probably having similar thoughts about you.

gamerchick · 03/07/2021 21:40

Can't talk to anyone watching an 'important' football match.

Try tomorrow.

AnneLovesGilbert · 03/07/2021 21:41

None of it’s his fault. And you’re right, it’s been handled terribly by the government.

Does he usually speak down to you? Try and tackle that calmly rather than getting violent.

Macncheeseballs · 03/07/2021 21:41

I agree it's shit, although I don't think it would make me want to punch him

Passingahat · 03/07/2021 21:42

I dont think its your husbands fault and I wouldn't take kindly to my spouse wanting to punch me, especially not because of a government decision

I agree with your annoyance but not with directing it to your husband or into threats against your husband

Blue4YOU · 03/07/2021 21:43

You feel like punching him for slightly disagreeing with you?
It’s not his fault that the idiotic rules and decisions are as they are…
I’m assuming you are being flippant but it’s not any one individual’s fault that matches go ahead while various things in school life don’t.
Children are highly adaptable.
They won’t care about a sports day or the prom when they are graduating, falling in love, having children and so on.
It’s been a tough time with covid but we are coming out of the worst of it.
Try to remember that maybe?

Sparklesocks · 03/07/2021 21:43

I understand the frustration but think it should be directed towards the policy makers rather than the fans.

Dillydollydingdong · 03/07/2021 21:44

It's not actually his personal decision, is it? We're winning 4-0 atm, so he would have been in a very good mood afterwards except he'll have you to face, raging.

Ginger1982 · 03/07/2021 21:45

What if he wanted to punch you?

MoiraRose4 · 03/07/2021 21:47

Good god, just let him enjoy the match in peace and get off your soapbox.

StMarysKettle · 03/07/2021 21:49

Do you get on your soap box a lot? That would get boring very quickly not least when he's trying to enjoy a football match without you blethering on... And on... And on

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paulhollywoodshairgel · 03/07/2021 21:49

I wouldn't actually punch him!! The discussion was had in half time.. I'm not that much of a wench. It's not that he disagrees with me. He can do that all he likes. It's just that he speaks to me like I'm a child and does this a lot. Maybe tonight was just a last straw (for this week) I just feel so bad for the kids (all of them) I don't blame him for that. I blame him for being a condescending twat

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LindaEllen · 03/07/2021 21:50

Of course it's shit, but if your husband enjoys the football why try and spoil it for him?

FrankButchersDickieBow · 03/07/2021 21:50

Most of my family have had covid. I've done more isolation than Charles Manson. My husband and daughter have both just had it.

My nephew has been hospitalised with covid that turned into pneumonia, my sister is suffering with long covid.

My dd started high school this year and missed her transition day.

I have been wfh for over a year which I hate.

Dd has been affected and is currently undergoing counselling due to her mental health.

Missed family fortieths and fiftieths

But fucking hell, I wouldn't begrudge anyone getting excited for the footy. And I actually hate football.

People are dickheads and don't follow the rules. What can you do apart from try and protect your nearest and dearest?

But people are also fucking fed up to the back fucking teeth of being told to wear masks and stay in whilst watching matt hancock tongue fucking his mistress on cctv.

I'm annoyed as we have all been following the rules, but wanting to push my husband cos there is finally something the nation can get excited about.

Nah - yabu

FrankButchersDickieBow · 03/07/2021 21:51

*punch not push

MatildaTheCat · 03/07/2021 21:52

Is your ‘D’H Matt Hancock? If so YANBU at all.

If not, it’s not really his fault is it?

Chloemol · 03/07/2021 22:07

Well for a start tonight’s match is in Italy, so different rules

As to Wembley next week they have to prove double jab or clear test

So if you want your kids to do the same so they can have thier proms, etc etc then suggest it to your MO, get the kids vaccinated

Or better still quit moaning

BastardMonkfish · 03/07/2021 22:08

As long as you don't actually punch him YANBU.

HappyWipings · 03/07/2021 22:17

Calm down.

Yes everything has been handled poorly in the last year and a bit , but I agree with your dh. Sport is important , having some kind of normality is important. I am very much looking forward to the Olympics and was gutted when it was postponed last year.

VeniVidiWeeWee · 03/07/2021 22:19

@paulhollywoodshairgel

I wouldn't actually punch him!! The discussion was had in half time.. I'm not that much of a wench. It's not that he disagrees with me. He can do that all he likes. It's just that he speaks to me like I'm a child and does this a lot. Maybe tonight was just a last straw (for this week) I just feel so bad for the kids (all of them) I don't blame him for that. I blame him for being a condescending twat
You Ok hun?
beigebrownblue · 03/07/2021 22:26

I'm on your side.
Why on earth men (and it is usually men) consider a football match more important than a child's education is mystifying and selfish at the same time.

It is not the government's fault entirely.

they shouldn't be attending.
The absence of football is not life threatening.

Shoot me down mumsnet.
I'm ready.

Ugzbugz · 03/07/2021 22:31

Sports day are allowed but everyone is to shit scared

StartingGrid · 03/07/2021 22:33

@MatildaTheCat

Is your ‘D’H Matt Hancock? If so YANBU at all.

If not, it’s not really his fault is it?

I don't think he's at home with the wife...!

It's understandable to feel as you do OP, but pretty pointless to express that. Your DH was hardly likely to turn the TV over in way of protest, it's an opportunity for life to "seem" normal for a couple of hours, escapism if you will, and you probably spoilt the illusion for him so YABU, sorry

mn2022 · 03/07/2021 22:34

Hahahahahahahahah

Imagine

Just imagine

If a man on here joked about punching his wife