To want to punch my husband

[paulhollywoodshairgel]

Husband watching football. That's fine. I got on my soap box a bit about how it's unfair that these events can go on with thousands of spectators. Then when the match is over will all pour into the pubs and streets. BUT we can't attend our kids sports day, our LG year 7 transition day has been cancelled, proms and end of year trips/parties cancelled. It's just so unfair. Because none of those things make money they aren't important. Anyway. He speaks to me like I'm a child and about how these events are important to the nation. Fuck that. Our kids and the shit year and a half they've had are important. I feel like punching him.

Our school's sports day is going ahead with parents invited. The class transition days are going ahead too?

Why are so many posters purposely missing the fact that OP is angry at her DH for being CONDESCENDING!!!!!

NOT for enjoying the football!!!!!!

The reading comprehension on here is shocking

@PerciphonePuma

Why are so many posters purposely missing the fact that OP is angry at her DH for being CONDESCENDING!!!!!

NOT for enjoying the football!!!!!!

The reading comprehension on here is shocking

The inability to look at the bigger picture is even more shocking.

The OP pissed on her husband's enjoyment of a game he was looking forward to.

The OP's husband bit back.

For the OP to moan about that is a bit like moaning that someone who had been minding their own business, pushed her back after she pushed them over.

@PerciphonePuma

Why are so many posters purposely missing the fact that OP is angry at her DH for being CONDESCENDING!!!!!

NOT for enjoying the football!!!!!!

The reading comprehension on here is shocking

Your thinking is shocking.

A lot of posters, myself included, have acknowledged that they may talk down to someone intent on ranting through something they enjoy, about something that isn't their fault.

@beigebrownblue

I'm on your side. Why on earth men (and it is usually men) consider a football match more important than a child's education is mystifying and selfish at the same time.

It is not the government's fault entirely.

they shouldn't be attending.
The absence of football is not life threatening.

Shoot me down mumsnet.
I'm ready.

But what's the point in not attending something you'd enjoy just because you can't do something else? It's not about what's more important than what. The fact is that the football is allowed.

Sports days/end of year things ARE allowed anyway. I know schools that are going ahead with them. If those things have been cancelled it's the schools' choice, it hasn't been dictated by government law.

I am actually very charming I just don't take to being patronised by my husband.

He's not patronising you, I could argue you were patronising him for belittling the match because you can't go to, an unrelated, sports day. He has an opinion, you have an opinion, is your marriage so fragile that you can't have a difference of opinion without coming onto the internet mocking domestic violence for him not seeing your point of view?

She wasn't 'bitchin and moaning through the football', just half Time no? And i imagine she didn't 'ruin' it either, don't talk unless it's a subject dh agrees on?

Namechange, it's the dh who doesn't allow a difference of opinion

'Made your voice heard' at the wrong time OP, spolit the bit of entertainment, did you huff off then too and say well that's me told after your DH said leave it love, give it a rest will you, sulking at him? Blaming him? You started a conversation he wasn't into and now you are sulking and looking for others to say yeah, you're right, he's a bastard. I'm not sure he is BU.

Complain to your school - our primary sports day is going ahead.

This is getting a bit out of hand.

I am not mocking domestic violence. I chose my words poorly I've apologised.

I've just asked him if I ruined his enjoyment of the footy. He said no. The poor lamb is fine don't worry.

Our marriage can withstand many differences of opinion. His delivery of said opinions is very condescending a lot of the time. He's also not above moaning at me when I'm watching something I like.

I was simply having a rant on here like many before me. As I've said, thanks for listening and chiming in. I will take it all on board/on the chin.

@Macncheeseballs

She wasn't 'bitchin and moaning through the football', just half Time no? And i imagine she didn't 'ruin' it either, don't talk unless it's a subject dh agrees on?

No, just pick your moments.

I often disagree with DH over things but if he was watching a big sporting event I wouldn't choose that time to complain about sports day being cancelled or COVID restrictions. It doesn't achieve anything.

Thing is OP I don't disagree, it's a shambles that once again children are bottom of the pile, but I don't think that means we need to take such a black and white view that the match shouldn't be enjoyed. I'm enraged I can't go to sports day, but I enjoyed the football last night and am going to a trial event myself soon, the limbo we are in at the moment is favouring the usual people, but I'm not going to cut myself off from it (my children loved the football themselves). Just because your husband thinks the match should have gone ahead doesn't mean he thinks children don't matter, unless he has said as much?

I've skimmed just your posts, OP, from which I gather

1. You had a very minor rant about spectator numbers at the football yet a few dozen people can't gather together for, for example, child-related events, and the double standards thereof.

1. He responded like a patronising twat, as if he were some wise old sage and you were the village idiot.

1. The manner of his response infuriated you, not the content.

1. You posted on mumsnet and many people misread your OP, think you are considering assaulting your husband as you are a supporter of domestic violence, and believe football to be a religion which you have disrespected, which is about on parr with egging a granny or shagging Matt Hancock.

@paulhollywoodshairgel

Can I just reiterate. I in no way would ever punch my husband. I might imagine it when he's being condescending and patronising. I never asked him or made out he had to turn off the football. It was a conversation we had in HALF TIME. He spoke to me like shit on his shoe and annoyed me!

I have made my voice heard at school re possible lateral flow testing so these things can go ahead.

By the way I said the same thing about Wimbledon which I love!!

It doesn’t matter that you wouldn’t ever do it. You have posted a thread saying you want to. How do you think a thread about a man wanting to “punch his wife” over an Italian government decision would go down?Choose your words better, casual remarks like that normalise violence.

And you are being a bit silly and a crushing bore. I don’t like football either, I don’t really like how we have to make the rules work for a football match, but I let my husband watch it in peace and have some happiness. I ook some comfort that perhaps it is a step towards normality and if so I will take it.

I have to say I’m sure you are very charming, but calling your husband an inconsiderate wanker, stating you wish to assault him, getting on your high horse about bloody Covid during the football, then trying to throw him under the bus by shouting “well he does it too”, normally doesn’t classify as charming behaviour. 😂

@Bluntness100 agreed, the sarcasm, being patronising, condescending, they seem very compatible.

So if the football makes one person happy and another unhappy, the unhappy party must keep quiet due to the unwritten rules of football watching

@Macncheeseballs

So if the football makes one person happy and another unhappy, the unhappy party must keep quiet due to the unwritten rules of football watching

Except nobody has actually said that, lol.

I guess my point is - if watching football made me annoyed or unhappy, I would just go into another room and do something else. I wouldn't sit there and let myself get wound up by something I can't control, and then complain at someone else who also has no control over the problem.

Yeah basically put up and shut up, poor dh, not being allowed to watch his football in peace

@Macncheeseballs

Yeah basically put up and shut up, poor dh, not being allowed to watch his football in peace

Yep, that's exactly what I said lol.

@Macncheeseballs

So if the football makes one person happy and another unhappy, the unhappy party must keep quiet due to the unwritten rules of football watching

No they can fuck off and do something else. Listen to music, read, go for a walk, anything.

I get you! I’m guessing this isn’t an isolated incident. No one would want to punch someone for just this. He’s probably got a stinking attitude and this is what makes you want to punch him. I totally get it. I have covid myself at the moment and it’s no joke. Never mind though because once the restrictions are lifted and freedom day occurs, everyone who hasn’t already had it will get it. I have been vaccinated.

I hate the dreaded football too but it's giving people something good to concentrate on during what's been a shitty time.