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To want to punch my husband

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paulhollywoodshairgel · 03/07/2021 21:38

Husband watching football. That's fine. I got on my soap box a bit about how it's unfair that these events can go on with thousands of spectators. Then when the match is over will all pour into the pubs and streets. BUT we can't attend our kids sports day, our LG year 7 transition day has been cancelled, proms and end of year trips/parties cancelled. It's just so unfair. Because none of those things make money they aren't important. Anyway. He speaks to me like I'm a child and about how these events are important to the nation. Fuck that. Our kids and the shit year and a half they've had are important. I feel like punching him.

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Obbydoo · 03/07/2021 22:36

Have you addressed this with the school? The examples you gave of sports day, school trips etc are individual school decisions, not government ones. It is very clear that a number of schools are using covid as an excuse not to hold the usual events. Plenty of schools sports days are going ahead. Punch the school head, not your husband. (Obvs don't actually do that but you get what I mean!).

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paulhollywoodshairgel · 03/07/2021 22:41

Can I just reiterate. I in no way would ever punch my husband. I might imagine it when he's being condescending and patronising. I never asked him or made out he had to turn off the football. It was a conversation we had in HALF TIME. He spoke to me like shit on his shoe and annoyed me!

I have made my voice heard at school re possible lateral flow testing so these things can go ahead.

By the way I said the same thing about Wimbledon which I love!!

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mn2022 · 03/07/2021 22:45

So you got annoyed with your husband for enjoying something, all because you can't enjoy things yourself? All whilst knowing that everything is totally out of his control.

No wonder he didn't turn it off if it meant having to listen to you moan

Buddrinker84 · 03/07/2021 22:46

Hmmm, yeah it's not exactly fair, and probably not right, but am I the only parent that finds sports day mind numbingly boring. 😫🤣 Having to sit and watch over 100 other kids do the same thing as the last 🙄 and then have to go back in the afternoon to watch the other child in a different year do the bloody same 🤣🤣

pilates · 03/07/2021 22:47

You need to calm down

FrankButchersDickieBow · 03/07/2021 22:47

@paulhollywoodshairgel

Can I just reiterate. I in no way would ever punch my husband. I might imagine it when he's being condescending and patronising. I never asked him or made out he had to turn off the football. It was a conversation we had in HALF TIME. He spoke to me like shit on his shoe and annoyed me!

I have made my voice heard at school re possible lateral flow testing so these things can go ahead.

By the way I said the same thing about Wimbledon which I love!!

To quote a PP "u okay hun?"
Seesawmummadaw · 03/07/2021 22:49

You sound more charming with each post.

ViciousJackdaw · 03/07/2021 22:52

our LG year 7 transition day has been cancelled

What on earth is that? Is it to do with washing machines and third spaces?

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paulhollywoodshairgel · 03/07/2021 22:53

I feel like Ross in friends

The football was ON A BREAK! When we talked. I don't blame him for the state of affairs. I do however don't like being spoken to like a moron when I'm expressing an opinion. The anger comes from him being patronising and condescending.

Don't worry he thoroughly enjoyed the footy. I even made him a snack and a brought him a beer 😂

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paulhollywoodshairgel · 03/07/2021 22:54

@ViciousJackdaw

our LG year 7 transition day has been cancelled

What on earth is that? Is it to do with washing machines and third spaces?

No it's a day when they get to look around their new high school and get used to it. LG - washing machine = 😂
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paulhollywoodshairgel · 03/07/2021 22:55

@Seesawmummadaw

You sound more charming with each post.
I am actually very charming I just don't take to being patronised by my husband.
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Travis1 · 03/07/2021 23:00

And I’m sure he’s not keen on his wife wanting to punch him. Joke or not. @mn2022 beat me too it but yeah imagine this was a male op 🙄

Mammyloveswine · 03/07/2021 23:08

Omg could not be arsed with you getting on your high horse!

Let's just enjoy the bloody moment!

GravityFalls · 03/07/2021 23:11

I watched and enjoyed the football AND had a bit of a moan about the stupidity of current Covid rules - because they are nonsensical and the football crowds basically sum it up! You can enjoy the game and be glad it went ahead and think it stupid that we can’t go to Sports Day while these massive events are on.

LibrariesGiveUsPower45321 · 03/07/2021 23:24

YABVU to joke about domestic violence. Any man saying what you said would get rightfully ripped to shreds.

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paulhollywoodshairgel · 03/07/2021 23:37

A poor choice of words on my part. I would never hurt anyone and didn't threaten him or even say it out loud. My point is that he is very condescending and it gets very wearing. I think it's sad that I can't have an opinion without being talked down to. But hey ho. I can take criticism and opinions. Thanks to those who have chimed in. Smile

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Blue4YOU · 04/07/2021 00:08

If he’s condescending then OP why are you with him and making him snacks and getting him a beer?
He spoke to you “like shit on his shoe”???
I’m not sure your concern is about your husband thinking it’s ok for football to go ahead..

Briarshollow · 04/07/2021 00:12

There’s always someone who wants to suck the joy out of something.

Everyone’s had a shit year, not just the children so it’s nice to have something to focus on and to get a bit excited about.

I’m talking the Euros, not your kid’s sports day…

MiddleParking · 04/07/2021 00:15

You both sound intensely grating. What a horrible atmosphere.

WorraLiberty · 04/07/2021 00:15

You pissed on his chips during half time and he spoke to you in a condescending manner.

Sounds pretty even to me apart from one wanting to punch the other one.

EmeraldShamrock · 04/07/2021 00:16

My OH wouldn't even hear me if I was ranting during the football.
It's out of his control.

EmeraldShamrock · 04/07/2021 00:18

If he regularly dismissive towards you
that is not okay, sounds like he is.

Katekarate · 04/07/2021 00:19

You probably ruined his vibe since they were winning and it was half time, maybe he was listening to the commentary. He's not responsible for the crowds. Maybe he needs the mood lift of the euros as many of us do.

Speak to him another day about his being rude which you shouldn't accept. As for the crowds you've got a point. Write to your MP

FunTimes2020 · 04/07/2021 00:21

Horrible thing to say

IdblowJonSnow · 04/07/2021 00:23

Yanbu. It's shit than thousands of kids are missing school and all their end of year stuff, when most of them won't even have covid but yet for these grown men the rules don't apply, because well, football.

So yeah, I totally get your annoyance op. Just don't actually twonk your DH.