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To be so enraged over a wine glass!!

86 replies

Warwicks · 02/07/2021 19:13

I recently won a voucher in work for £50. I rarely treat myself to nice things so decided to spend it all on lovely things for myself.

I went to TKMaxx and bought pretty cushions, plant pots and two beautiful iridescent wine glasses.

I have taken care of them, washing them carefully and not putting them in the dishwasher.

DH asks if I want a glass of wine and I agreed, said to use my lovely glass. It was towards the back of the cupboard so impatient DH who is always heavy handed anyway, rather than moving other glasses to extricate it carefully obviously pulled on in and snapped the stem in half.

Oh well he shrugged and chucked it in the bin! I feel so upset over a glass!! I told him he needs to buy me another one. He’s always the same, no patience so will pull and push things until they give. He broke our new sensor bin by pressing the sensor in rather than pressing the open button.

Bloody oaf!!! I’ve told him he needs to buy me a new one. Sick of having stuff destroyed. He can’t see why I’m making a big deal over a £3 glass. AIBU?

OP posts:
KingdomScrolls · 02/07/2021 19:15

It must've been pretty shoddy to be able to pull the stem off! Yes it would be nice to get another one of you like them but it's £3

BingBongToTheMoon · 02/07/2021 19:15

YANBU it’s your stuff he’s destroying with nary a backwards glance.
How would he react if you smashed his stuff on the regular?

fingersdoublecrossed · 02/07/2021 19:17

I bought myself a beautiful and intricate vintage glass bowl that I put on the kitchen island. I was so pleased with it, it was beautiful.
Less than 24 hours later, my OH decided to saw a piece of timber on the island and the vibrations made it bounce off the edge and it smashed into a million pieces. I was absolutely fuming. It would have taken him two seconds to move it and why was he even doing that job in the kitchen?!
I made him source me an identical one and it cost him a fortune.

dudsville · 02/07/2021 19:17

I can't vote on this, I absolutely get it though, my oh is also heavy handed. I gave in last year and sectioned off glasses that he can use from the ones that he's not allowed to touch. I buy mid century stuff that might be relatively cheap, but it's special to me. They don't make these designs anymore. The last time he broke one I calmly reorganised the cupboard. He sticks to his section. I hope your oh buys the replacement.

Arbadacarba · 02/07/2021 19:19

It doesn't sound the most robust of wine glasses if it broke being taken out of a cupboard by the stem.

It's always disappointing when something you like breaks - I broke a favourite bowl just this lunchtime Sad - perhaps that's making you unreasonably annoyed with your husband.

Replacing it would be a nice gesture, but not the be-all and end-all.

RedLemon · 02/07/2021 19:20

Rage! He needs to replace the wine glass and buy you some very nice wine to put in it in order to atone for the distress this has caused

SummerHouse · 02/07/2021 19:22

Also can't vote. Because we love the person they are right? Although if you'd asked me right after DH decided to put the slow cooker ceramic pot on the ACTUAL hob, oh yes, I could vote alright then!!!

osbertthesyrianhamster · 02/07/2021 19:23

He'd be replacing every single thing he breaks.

Arbadacarba · 02/07/2021 19:23

If it makes you feel any better, my foolish husband smashed an antique statue that I'd paid about £100 for and which I'll probably never find another one of.

It was on a windowsill and he tried to drape an item of damp washing between it and a chair Confused ... it fell onto a tiled floor and shattered into tiny, unrepairable pieces.

I forgave him. Life is too short to bear a grudge over these things.

rainyskylight · 02/07/2021 19:24

He should have taken more care. But it doesn’t sound like it would have lasted very long either.

Original poster
Warwicks · 02/07/2021 19:26

I feel ridiculous when I consider it only cost £3 but it was SO pretty! I was thrilled to bits when I had them. I don’t remember seeing any more on the shelf in TKMaxx so no doubt he won’t find another.

Swine!!

OP posts:
Aquamarine1029 · 02/07/2021 19:30

It's not really the glass that you're upset about. You're so angry because this a pattern of thoughtless behaviour from your shithead oaf of a husband. I'd be furious, too. Carelessness and roughness make me see red.

speakout · 02/07/2021 19:31

I can imagine your upset, but I can't get distressed about something like that.
I am old.
I have owned many beautiful glasses, teapots, crockery, serving dishes.
Stuff gets broken.
I regularly used it will get broken eventually. Enjoy things while you can- if you don't wan them to get broken then put them away- but what is the point in that?

Bksjshsbbev2737 · 02/07/2021 19:32

I often feel it’s my stuff that gets easily broken while DH is careful with his so sometimes it looks like I over react to things but it upsets me

Fivetimes · 02/07/2021 19:32

I'd take a back to TK Maxx and ask for a refund. Have you kept the receipt?

IMNOTSHOUTING · 02/07/2021 19:35

Yanbu it's not the glass itself but the lack of care with your things.

speakout · 02/07/2021 19:43

Yanbu it's not the glass itself but the lack of care with your things.
Nah.

Some glasses are more fragile than others.

I have been through loads. Some sets from 1910 glasses that my grandmother gave me are very robust and still in use. Asda glasses are crap. Spanish glasses made from blue or green recycled glass crack very easily.
French Duralex are the best day to day glasses in our house- Ikea sell them.
Washed out Nuttella jars are also great wine glasses and very robust.

enjoyingscience · 02/07/2021 19:46

@speakout you’re a woman after my own heart. Nutella pots for wine glasses all the way here.

I bought some heavy tumblers to treat myself and to be honest I prefer a Nutella pot.

Maggiesfarm · 02/07/2021 19:47

It was just an accident, don't we all break things sometimes? You could replace it, it won't cost much.

TheFoundations · 02/07/2021 19:51

Sick of having stuff destroyed. He can’t see why I’m making a big deal over a £3 glass

He needs to pay attention to how you're feeling, rather than what physically happened. I'm sure he's got small things he loves that he'd be pissed off if you broke.

user432543424532 · 02/07/2021 19:51

@Aquamarine1029

It's not really the glass that you're upset about. You're so angry because this a pattern of thoughtless behaviour from your shithead oaf of a husband. I'd be furious, too. Carelessness and roughness make me see red.
Spot on. I'm sure you'd have had a very different reaction if it weren't part of a pattern of treating your stuff like it's worthless.
QueenBee52 · 02/07/2021 19:52

the thing is....

will there be a replacement one there..

such a shame.. I enjoy my pretty treats too OP

YANBU.. 🌸

Blacktothepink · 02/07/2021 19:54

I get it…a family member made me a lovely pottery serving spoon and rest and my dp broke it after a week…I was sooo pissed off 😤

RainbowMumzy · 02/07/2021 19:54

My husband is the same! If it's not important to him, it's not important. He doesn't take care of anything.

Mintjulia · 02/07/2021 19:55

YANBU at all. It isn't the cost, it's the fact that he has so little concern for your things and your feelings.

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