To be so enraged over a wine glass!!

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I recently won a voucher in work for £50. I rarely treat myself to nice things so decided to spend it all on lovely things for myself.

I went to TKMaxx and bought pretty cushions, plant pots and two beautiful iridescent wine glasses.

I have taken care of them, washing them carefully and not putting them in the dishwasher.

DH asks if I want a glass of wine and I agreed, said to use my lovely glass. It was towards the back of the cupboard so impatient DH who is always heavy handed anyway, rather than moving other glasses to extricate it carefully obviously pulled on in and snapped the stem in half.

Oh well he shrugged and chucked it in the bin! I feel so upset over a glass!! I told him he needs to buy me another one. He’s always the same, no patience so will pull and push things until they give. He broke our new sensor bin by pressing the sensor in rather than pressing the open button.

Bloody oaf!!! I’ve told him he needs to buy me a new one. Sick of having stuff destroyed. He can’t see why I’m making a big deal over a £3 glass. AIBU?

Indeed, there was no need for your nit-picky, snippy attitude. Pleased you've recognised that.

It's a conversation FFS. Conversations flow. They synthesise. They move onwards.

Indeed, there was no need for your nit-picky, snippy attitude. Pleased you've recognised that. It's a conversation FFS. Conversations flow. They synthesise. They move onwards

I've literally no idea what you're talking about.

Anyway, move onwards, excellent idea. Enjoy the rest of your evening.

Uh huh.

Neither my DP nor myself is particularly clumsy, but we got so fed up of proper glasses cascading on to the tiled kitchen floor/paved patio and shattering into a thousand pieces that we invested in some seriously nice plastic glasses. Can't tell the difference, except for they really do bounce. And no worries about glass shards in the house or garden......

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Neither my DP nor myself is particularly clumsy, but we got so fed up of proper glasses cascading on to the tiled kitchen floor/paved patio and shattering into a thousand pieces that we invested in some seriously nice plastic glasses. Can't tell the difference, except for they really do bounce. And no worries about glass shards in the house or garden......

Have you got a link please? Sounds ideal!

I understand op. One of the many many reasons I left my ex and one of the many many reasons life is nicer without him! I would actually see him being rough or stupid with my stuff and careful with his own. It may not have been conscious but it seemed like passive aggressive nastiness. Once he stacked a beautiful mug that dc had given me on top of another mug on a shelf, precariously balanced. I took it off and said he must be able to see it wasn’t safe like that, he totally denied it and got shitty with me.

I now have a teen ds who is clumsy but the difference is if he breaks something he’s genuinely apologetic, and listens when I tell him how to care for stuff. It makes all the difference.

I love pretty homeware things even if they’re cheap and cheerful. I get how you felt about your glasses!

I have some plastic wine glasses too - though I do have glass ones as well. Rice melamine do fab ones.

Over something that cost £3 I probably wouldn't be too upset over. It's likely the stem was thin and would've been a matter of time before it broke

Dogscanteatonions - Look online, you can get nice plastic wine glasses from the White Company or Lakeland. Costco too. I've got some good pint and half pint plastic glasses from IKEA too. They're usually not dishwasher proof though, or if they are they go a bit misty after several washes. Since we are saving so much money on real glasses not being broken, I can afford treat myself to new ones each summer if needs be, they usually go on sale with the picnic stuff.

I'm very clumsy. It runs in my family. My dad and my son have both been diagnosed with something with a Latin name, but it means 'incredibly clumsy'. It has to do with proprioceptors, if you want to look it up.

The life expectancy of a wine glass in our house is about six weeks. It drives the Beloved nuts. Physical things matter to her - not their value, but what they represent in terms of associations and memories.

Perhaps because of this genetic clumsiness, I've never got very attached to things. My feeling is that things get used, get broken, wear out, get lost and that's the way life goes happily on.

I have to make a real effort to be aware of how attached the Beloved is to objects - mugs, vases, cocktail shakers, some tatty postcard from Morocco. There are things that I simply won't use, or even move, because there'd be real dismay and a sense of loss if anything happened to them.

On the other hand, don't put a delicate stem-vase on the table right outside the bathroom if you live with a short-sighted klutz with an oversize bathrobe.

I mean, that's just asking for grief.

He sounds like a twat.

A disrespectful twat.

I would be very upset at someone being rough with my things and they would know about it.

And I would be apologising for being VERY upset about it either.

A rough thick twat is what he sounds like.