To ask how much child maintenance you receive.

[Sailingthroughtheweek]

I’m wondering where DC and I fit on the spectrum, just out of interest.

I receive £300 per month for one DC.
He lives 100 miles away and does no childcare at all, so that pays for breakfast/ after school clubs, holiday clubs and a bit towards her hobbies.

I’m very, very glad to be in my current position and not still married, so I’m not moaning at all, and also, I earn more than him so I don’t need more, but a £300 contribution to our DC seems low.

£300 for one child from one absent NRP (NRP1)
£200 for my other two from the other absent NRP (NRP2)

The £200 is ridiculous really but since that NRP2 didn't pay anything at all for years I am glad to have it. The £300 is okay I think but then NRP1 will occasionally give extra towards big things.

Mine are grown now but we received £0, he didn't see them for 8yrs either.

Best of it was he somehow convinced CSA that the kids lived with him and they totally cleared my bank without even approaching me, even child benefits were paid to him, it took me going to social services and saying you're going to have to take these 2 as I'm on my knees and can't do anymore before I got any help and his nonsense stopped.

He went on to have 2 more kids with 2 other women who he doesn't see or pay for too, I call that karma as they totally believed and aided him in crucifying me

Nothing, because it was accepted that my child's father is a violent bully, and I may be in danger to push for anything from him.
That let's him neatly off the hook.

Ex tried to tell CSA DC lived with him. Fortunately I had court papers saying otherwise. Also they accepted the child benefit as proof I was the main carer.

The CSA/CMS are utterly shit.

Nothing. Never for DD15. Limited contact, last time I questioned it, he said why would you put petrol in a car you don't drive?

Arsehole.

£100 monthly for my ds. In my experience very few get anything at all. I used to get more but the ex is retired.

I get £490 per month for one child. It should probably be more as ex is a high earner but I cba and manage fine with that. Ex has child overnight 3-4 times per month.

My 4 children receive nothing from their father.

I suppose at least I’m better off financially now I’m single than I was when I was with him.

MIL used to get £1000pcm from FIL after they divorced - plus he paid for all their clothes, school trips, extra-curricular activities, driving lessons etc. This was 10-20 years ago though, for 2 DCs.

Never had a penny in 9 years.

I've never had a penny. In fact he owes me money.

I sometimes things of pursuing him but I'm not sure I could face the stress.

£300 a month for 1 child, it's based on CSA calculations but not through them so if he decides one month to change the amount he does. He owes me thousands personally in debt he got in my name, he's never gonna pay that back.

It doesn’t matter what others get as long as £300 a month for 1 child is at least the minimum amount the CMS have calculated is appropriate. My ex is on the fiddle so the amount for our 2 children is a lot less than that. Makes no difference to what your child is entitled to though and vice versa.

£15 pw.

But ex does have dd once a week too so theres that..

Zero

Hes never paid a penny towards them.
Hasn't seen them for about 14 years
His loss

£60 a week for three kids. Though he does give them some money directly which means I end up paying less for other stuff. Plus cooks at my house when I am not there after school and contributes some food (long story).

One never stays over at his and has hardly been. The other two occasionally stay over at his every now and then.

2 dc and £0

Was initially going to give me nothing as I get tax credits .

£150 a month, one child, he has our son two nights a week.

Mutual agreement, CSA calculator suggests slightly more but he helps out with nursery pick ups and gives me extra on months our son needs clothes. I can’t complain.

£200 a month for my younger 2, he has them 4 nights a month and never shuts up telling me how to parent between times

My older 4s dad doesn't pay, he moved in with someone, she works and he looks after her kids.

I told him he needed to step up and pay towards his kids and he asked me to send my incoming and outgoings to him and his girlfriend and they could make a budget for me to help me out. Prick.

£950 for 2 children.

Zero. He moved 200 miles away, is rarely in contact, is on Universal Credit and PIP. I’m lucky in that I have a very good job and can get by without him. Hell, I get by better without him.

Never had a penny, I'd like to say I get the satisfaction of knowing I've down it alone and the kids haven't gone without. But that would be a lie, I'd rather of had some help. But I picked a deadbeat abusive loser to have kids with.

Roughly £28 a month. No contact for a year and a half. Glad about the latter. Scumbag.

@Viviennemary

I've always thought it was very unfair that child maintenance isn't taken into account for benefits. It has never affected me just to clarify. But somebody getting 1800k a month maintenance and another getting nothing or £25 a week and they get the same state benefit top ups. How can that be right.

I agree.