To ask how much child maintenance you receive.

[Sailingthroughtheweek]

I’m wondering where DC and I fit on the spectrum, just out of interest.

I receive £300 per month for one DC.
He lives 100 miles away and does no childcare at all, so that pays for breakfast/ after school clubs, holiday clubs and a bit towards her hobbies.

I’m very, very glad to be in my current position and not still married, so I’m not moaning at all, and also, I earn more than him so I don’t need more, but a £300 contribution to our DC seems low.

My husband paid 4.5k for 2. It’s just ended, thankfully. It was a ludicrous arrangement. Plus we had to buy all of their extras, she fed them and that was all. I admired her in a way, I used to hope my husband would call her bluff and let her carry thru with a threat to send them to school in a too small uniform or whatever, but he never would. She was iron and played a blinder. Maintenance ended in June, her next marriage announced in July.

@Phillipa12

Its supposed to be a % of the NRPs wage. I get a substantial amount because my ex is a high earner, does not hide his earnings and is not a financial arsehole. I count myself incredibly lucky as many parents see nothing.

This is the same for me. My ex also offered to pay above what the minimum was (because he was feeling guilty) and I took him up on it. He will also pay it directly to our children from when they turn 18 until they finish their first university degree.

It may change if he went to have another family or if his circumstances changed but that is what we agreed.

He sees his kids one day after school and one night a week.

£175 for my 14 year old.

I have a friend who received 2k a month for 2 dc until they went to uni when he diverted some of that to the child/ren but still paid a percentage for when the child was at home. All arranged amicably and he paid extra for various things like trips and unexpected expenses.

I also have a friend who rigged his business so that he only had to pay a fiver per child and even then he didn't bother half the time or would "fine" my friend for perceived infringements of an undefined moral code he had in his warped imagination so would only pay half.

So, it depends on the earnings and the person I suppose.

I think it's perfectly acceptable. I got less than that during the whole 18 years.

Another one here who gets nothing. 2 dc. He doesn't have them over night, has only seen them twice in the last 18 months. Doesn't pay for any extras. The one time he took them on holiday I had to send everything. Including toothpaste, suncream and ice cream money

1 dd he pays £0, use to be £40 a month but text a few years ago to say he couldn’t Ford it (but can afford, holidays,tattoos, new cars and very expensive trainers)
The best of it is when it was dd birthday she was given £40 from his mum and dad she spent £6 an he actually asked to borrow the rest 🤬, that was 2 years ago and she’s still waiting

Depends what his salary is as to if it's low or high.

I suppose the amounts vary as wildly as the salaries of NRPs do.

£200 for DS aged 11, my ex is unemployed so wouldn’t have to pay but always has (his family support him financially). Sounds like I am lucky - I’ve alway thought I was fair enough as ex has serious mental issues & can’t work. He spends time with DS about 1 weekend in 2 months when he stays at ex’s mums as he can’t cope with him on his own (he has ASD).

Court ordered to get £900 a month. He’s paid £450 in a year.

£120 / month for 1 DD who has one overnight a week at her dads

If I went through CMS I could probably get another £40-£60/ month

DD dad earns not much more than national minimum and I work 30 hours with government benefits

My yearly take home all in is about £21000 DD's dads would be less than that about £18000 I think

I only earn ) £12,500 per year 30 hours term time no tax

So additional £9000 from government/ DD dad and statutory child payment (£82/ month)

Also get free prescriptions and dentist

£20 per week for 3 kids, used to be £100. He's a self employed welder and is a high earner.
He's gone on to have more children and has some step children so CMS say £20 is all we are entitled to

@jimmyjammy001 what a horrible thing to post.

£500pm for one child plus half of school trips, half towards DS's expensive hobby and half for school uniform. I don't think I'm "lucky" that he contributes to his child's upbringing, his salary is £55k. He is involved but works long hours including weekends so has DS about 2 or 3 overnights per month.

Not a lie at all but I just can't believe how little some men pay! My DC father high earner but I got £700 pcm and he paid my £500 mortgage and £300 pcp car payment, insurance and road tax. We would also go 50/50 on seasonal wardrobes. He would do about 25% childcare and would give spending money if I took her on holiday.

I feel really lucky financially in comparison...

Why don't men want to provide for their kids a decent amount?

DemBonesDemBones
Totally agree with you, mind you there is always some vile idiot sitting anonymously behind a computer on mn talking total drivel.

Because some of them don’t even want to see their kids let alone pay for them 🤷‍♀️ When I asked my ex for maintenance he said “you don’t have kids to get paid!”

Why do you think if it’s low if he earns less than you and you say you don’t need the money. It’s relative to what he earns surely.

Around £200 a month. Lives 10 miles away, we never hear from him or see him.
For the first 2 years of her life I didn't receive a penny but for the past 4 years £200 a month.

Nothing for 6 years
Then I went to cms and he gets £350 taken out of his wages
He hasn't seen DS since the first payment
He lives rent/mortgage free in his late mums house and has a good job
Twat

20% of their father's net pay for two DC. I think that's fairly standard.

Obviously the payments will vary hugely from person to person depending on the income of the NRP and other factors.

I had to work four jobs but never for a second have I regretted being single.

My ex pays £540 a month and we split the cost of extra curricular clubs, school trips etc. That’s for 2 kids. He was incredibly financially controlling when we were together and I know he hates “giving” me that money every month, but he faces his responsibilities which I am grateful for. Has them eow and one school night every week too.

£1,200 a month but no contact. 1 DC

£25 a week for one child, and that's if he hasn't got something more important to spend the money on.

I'm sure he's meant to pay more - he has a second job on the side - but I can't be bothered to fight for it, DS will be 18 soon and I have no doubt he'll stop paying as soon as he can..

I'm a high earner and he isn't so he pays half of childcare which is 80 then 50 towards food and bills etc so 130 a month. He also buys some toys and clothes, we do it all quite informally but I pay the lions share which is fair given my higher income. Our child is only 3 so doesn't really cost much. He has him one night a week.