To ask how much child maintenance you receive.

[Sailingthroughtheweek]

I’m wondering where DC and I fit on the spectrum, just out of interest.

I receive £300 per month for one DC.
He lives 100 miles away and does no childcare at all, so that pays for breakfast/ after school clubs, holiday clubs and a bit towards her hobbies.

I’m very, very glad to be in my current position and not still married, so I’m not moaning at all, and also, I earn more than him so I don’t need more, but a £300 contribution to our DC seems low.

£358. He used to pay £250 but was moaning about that, so he suggested going through cms. He must have thought he was over paying, turns out he wasn't. He was under paying so I now get an extra £108 a month more.

I'd strongly suggest you go via the cms OP. I leave my case open to it gets reviewed each year, and I don't have to discuss it with him.

Christ some of these are so low. I get £1000 a month for my daughter. He sees her the equivalent of one night a week and has had two other kids since.

@Theworldisquiethere surely they will simply get his last p60 from HMRC and take it out from source?

£100 pm for 1 DC.

Husbands friend pays 900pcm for 2 children

£378 for one son.
It used to be nearer £500 but he told them it costs him nearly £1000 a year to pick him up (no he doesn't drive a tank) and he also lied about the number of nights he has him (which is dictated by a court order) despite me providing evidence and the other.

I am currently awaiting a CMS tribunal date which I have been told is next year earliest. It won't be backdated either even if it goes in my favour.

Yes I realise I get more than a lot of people but the school bus alone is £200 a month and so actually the money doesn't go far. He pays for nothing else and has even tried deducting from the CMS money for things he has purchased for our son.

£26.88 a month...

The one getting £1800 might not have got her fair share from the sale of the marital home, or any number of other circumstances

I’m not saying it’s fair when some get nothing but I definitely don’t think it’s wrong when people get a generous amount.

@Collaborate

This is such a pointless thread. There is no standard. Everyone earns different amounts, and - wait for it - some people earn nothing. Why are people so surprised that some people pay no or next to no child maintenance? Do you always have a go at people out of work and on benefits, or earning a very low wage?

Some people earn nothing because they choose to use shitty methods to bypass CMS. My financially abusive ex goes to all lengths not to pay what he owes. He is working, he has an income but it's 'off the books' so CMS can't do anything about it.

I'm in a fortunate position that I don't need his money but there are others who do and I think it's only fair that people realise CMS isn't as straight forward in terms of being able to get that cash as you might think.

My GC's parents each give me money every month, less than £300 between them, he has no overnights with either of them and they pay nothing towards other things e.g. school trips, bus etc.

We are pensioners so it is a big commitment.

Some people earn nothing because they choose to use shitty methods to bypass CMS. My financially abusive ex goes to all lengths not to pay what he owes. He is working, he has an income but it's 'off the books' so CMS can't do anything about it.

I'm in a fortunate position that I don't need his money but there are others who do and I think it's only fair that people realise CMS isn't as straight forward in terms of being able to get that cash as you might think.

I take your point, but many of the responses have involved people comparing their lot unfavourably with others.

Some time ago now but I received £2500 a month for two children and also all of the equity of the house. He went to live abroad and saw the children once a year. Half was classed as spousal support and half as child maintenance. I started working some 6 years later and maintenance reduced as my wage grew but continued at £500 a month in addition. This stopped once the children left university ( the maintenance went to them whilst they were there!)
Financially, I was lucky.

Nothing

I receive nothing for my children and doubt I ever will. 4 kids.

I'm supposed to get around £50 a week. In reality, I get an odd few quid every few months. It's with the CMS on collect and pay. He doesn't pay when he's supposed to pay. He's built up a ton of arrears. Every few months I get a random small amount like a tenner or something.

When I asked the CMS about it, they said they can't take action as he is making an effort.

If I sent her to school in just her undies or only gave her two baked beans for dinner, do you think that would be ok as I am making an effort to clothe and feed her? No, thought not!

I take my hat off to all of you mums who are raising your kids without help from the other parent.. this thread is damming, I hope someone from CMS sees it!!! Clearly the system is a complete joke. Some of these figures are diabolical xo

@Viviennemary

I've always thought it was very unfair that child maintenance isn't taken into account for benefits. It has never affected me just to clarify. But somebody getting 1800k a month maintenance and another getting nothing or £25 a week and they get the same state benefit top ups. How can that be right.

It used to be. It was difficult though the months that he decided he didn't feel like paying because income support would take off what he should have paid even if he didn't pay. It was a very difficult year until I could get back to work.

Not had anything since CSA changed to CMS. I onl6y got £5 a week as exh is on benefits.

@GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing

The one getting £1800 might not have got her fair share from the sale of the marital home, or any number of other circumstances

I’m not saying it’s fair when some get nothing but I definitely don’t think it’s wrong when people get a generous amount.

It’s all relative though, when I was married my three children went to private school they had the best of everything, head to toe mini Boden I’ve never had to look at a bill of my card was never declined whatever I wanted to purchase. £1800 a month wouldn’t have even got close to maintaining that standard for my poor fourth child he literally received nothing relatively speaking.

He threw a pound at me and I've had nothing since
In 25 years
My eldest did find him years later and he told her he wasn't paying me anything so 'She can live off my money'
He has been known to chase me round town screaming that I'd spent his money on myself though
My dd was holding his ipad when he came up behind her and made her jump
She dropped it smashing the screen-he screamed at her that I had to pay for another ipad so she told him to fuck off and pay for it himself,with the money he hadn't paid all these years and walked out

100 pound a month for 2 kids

When he’s out of work or on the sick which is more often than not I don’t get a penny

I’d love 300 a month for two kids let alone 1! But I do appreciate it does depend largely on income etc

Nothing. NADA.

@Missillusioned

If we want to knock the child maintenance off benefits the only fair way to do it is pay the RP the full benefits and then the inland revenue claim it back off the NRP.

That way if the NRP doesn't pay the tax man takes them to court. In my experience the taxman is more persistent than the CMS

Although an old thread, this is the way forward. Non payment of maintenance would be zero.

@GilbertsLuckySocks

Lone parent with two under 2.

Zero. Their birth father earns thousands selling select electrical goods on eBay but claims unemployment benefits, so doesn’t have to pay child support as he doesn’t declare his income.

I’d never asked for it anyway as I knew he wouldn’t want to contribute.

When I read about mums on here complaining their child’s absent father is ‘only’ paying all of their mortgage plus contributing £900 a month for their kid whilst mum doesn’t work, it irks. I’ve brought mine up doing the same hobbies and expenditures as your’s most likely, and didn’t need their father to pay for them.

When I read about mums on here complaining their child’s absent father is ‘only’ paying all of their mortgage plus contributing £900 a month for their kid whilst mum doesn’t work, it irks.

Yeah cos that happens Maybe a link to the complaining post would be helpful.

I’ve brought mine up doing the same hobbies and expenditures as your’s most likely, and didn’t need their father to pay for them.

Wow hurray for you.

2 children, no contact, no payments