would you do this for your DH?

[LittleGoldfish]

My DH has managed to get 9 points on his drivers license for speeding offences, I however in my 36 years have never managed any.

He asked me if I would have the next set of points put on my drivers license otherwise he will lose his license (in other words say it was me driving). I told him to f off and to learn how to stick to the speed limit- I can managed it so why can't he?

AIBU about this, he reckons 3 points on my license wont make much difference but I am in the process of having a CRB check done (applied to study nursing) and don't want any criminal offences although I know they don't take driving offences too seriously, but still.

He is in a major mood with me atm. AIBU about not wanting someone elses points on my license? especially as I haven't been the one speeding.

only read the OP.

um, if you did that, you could lose your license because it's illegal.

then you'd both be fucked.

no, i'd have told him to get to fuck with that.

but they take YEARS to get off your licence. I'm still paying for those in 2005 - they only go off my licence THIS YEAR. I've been bloody lucky not to get any more tbh and I am a reasonably careful driver, I don't mean to imply I drive like a maniac but sometimes I do go over the limit.

irrelevant if they are revenue producers or not. There are speed limits, people are meant to stick to thme

I do as well, and am aware I have been lucky.
Can do 30 easily enough, but find it really hard to stick to the 30 kmph speed limits that we have around here. (around 20 mph). my foot is just not light enough on the accelerator. I wish I had an auto cap on my speed to switch on, tbh.

no, what am I on about, they were 2004!But to not have got any others in 3 years, oh no I lie, I got another on the Swainswick bypass in Bath, I was doing 35 in a 30 with SCREAMING children in the back so I am damn close to 9 and not a mad driver. And I've driven prob 60,000 miles in that time so proportionally not sped really. Or been caught speeding.

It's hardly the point www.

speed limits changing and unsignposted limits on roads dont account for that many speeders. Newer cars have sat-nav which tells you where speed cameras are, and also have overspeed warning systems that you can programme.

If he's not learnt his lesson after 3 previous set of points, then there really is no excuse. If driving is that important to family life - then perhaps alarm clocks should be set earlier, routes planned better, and more care paid to reading road signs. Yes, that's sanctimonious. But having had a friend who was knocked down and killed by a driver on a ban doing 70mph in a 30mph zone - I have absolutely no sympathy.

I have NO sympathy for 70 in a 30, none at all. I guess I'm pissed off with tickets for 50 on a motorway (I know, roadworks but midnight, no-one there), 35 in a 30, etc. I know, where do you draw the line? And the logical answer is with speed limits. I just know how ridiculously easy it is to drive very safely and reasonably carefully most of the time and STILL end up with 9 bloody points.

Both my father and brother do a lot of driving through work & don't rack up the points. After his first and last ever set of points, my brother just resolved to drive at the speed limit as he doesn't want ot see a well paid career go down the pan.

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How can you manage to speed in a roadworks zone???

You do realise that they do cumulative speed checks now, dont you?

WWW, do you accept that by doing 35 in a 30 you are putting pedestrians at a seriously increased risk?

Hang on, hang on, before you have a go at me, BOTH my speeding tickets were at MIDNIGHT, in a sleepy Devon area - roadworks on the M5 at Exeter, few years ago and there was no traffic and I did over 50. And 35 in a 30, again, Totnes, nearly midnight, NO-ONE around, I was stone cold sober and had just driven back from Bristol. I didn't feel like I was driving fast (look at your speedo next time you're doing dead on 30) and I was doing 35. There's really not a lot of difference betwen the 2. (5 miles per HOUR in fact, not fast, if you consider how slow 5 miles per hour is) It really was not putting lives at risk in my situation. There's no way it was. But hey, I paid the price: £60 x 2 and six points plus increased insurance.

It's quite easy to speed in a roadwork zone tbh.

Seriously www - they do cumulative speed checks now.

If you get from point A to point B quicker than they estimate you should whilst driving at 50mph - you'll get a ticket. You dont need to be driving excessively at one point as such.

Not having a go - just letting you know

WWW has a point. I'm not a big fan of speed cameras on their own since they are, in some areas, less about safety than revenue raising. I am all for traffic calming and good road design in concert with cameras.

Yet, I still agree with the OP - her hb is being a daft git on this one.

no VVV, this motorway one was THREE years ago and it's still on my licence. I know about cumulative, I do the M1 sometimes, thanks though

I am aware that morally I'm defending the indefensible but there you go, it's Friday, I'm drinking wine, what can I say Be impressed that my typing's still this good!

Wine is fine. I hope you arent planning on driving though

I joke. But actually, drink driving isnt funny............

Points will clear soon and you can send your licence off and get it back clean.

Is it 4 years the points last?

I'm not trying to accuse you of deliberate recklessness, and I'm not claimimg that I've never exceeded the limits. I just feel strongly about the 30 limit: I think it's the one that everyone should observe (fell much less strongly about motorway limits, for instance). Just because it's the middle of the night, doesn't mean there won't be any pedestrians - and of course you're less likely to see them in the dark.

I can quite see how someone can rack up points fairly easily. What I don't understand is a) whinging when you're bang to rights (not you specifically), and b) failure to realise that, when you've got six or nine points, you just HAVE to start sticking to the limits even if it means attracting derision from fellow motorists.

if you don't want to you don't have to.
he chose to drive like that - it doesn't matter if he thinks you are being unreasonable, this is not your responsibility.

i suppose you will be his chauffeur for the foreseeable future - will you be calling him unreasonable when he asks you to drive???

I really really do think it's HIGHLY unlikely that there will be any pedestrians in the middle of the Devon countryside at midnight. Really, I know the area.

YANBU,
tell him to learn to drive, speeding is dangerious
whatever he is asking is wrong, dont do it, he may speed again.

Little goldfish tell him I'll gladly arrange a visit to a mortuary to see the results of an accident at speed,(& I'm talking stupid fast here not 5miles over the limit) think it should be compulsory viewing for persistant offenders IMHO.

Except the tax-payer would probably get done for compensation for mental distress

Can't believe some people on here are treating this so lightly-like the old advert says SPEED KILLS, taking points for someone else is ILLEGAL,not up for discussion!

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Thanks for your replies. I personally stick to the speed limits since having children- admit I never used to although I have never been a fast driver just a few miles over the limit. I am a nervous driver tbh & hate driving on motorways.

Anyway, I have told DH if manages to rack up another set of points & loses his licence it his problem.

YANBU - totally stick to your guns.

I have a family memeber who farms out points for speeding.

your DH needs to learn responsiblity for his actions.

It is a little difficult if his job needs a car but how long can anyone go on taking points, soon you will both end up with no licence.

Not to mention the criminal record you will get if you are found out taking the points for him.