Was DH right in saying this?

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I'm just wondering what others think of this

DS 21 went out for a walk for about 30 minutes, he normally takes his phone with him when he goes out but on this occasion he left it on charge at home as he says it was nearly flat. While he was out, DH saw his phone was on charge and when DS returned DH gave him a mini lecture on how silly and potentially dangerous it was to not take his phone with him as he could have tripped and fell over and hurt himself or been attacked.

I'm just wondering whether DH was right in saying this or is he treating DS as a child.

He's treating your adult son like a child.

Does your DH not remember life before mobiles?

I often don’t take mine when I go for a walk. I’m an adult, as is your son, and I’m often in charge of a toddler. It’s my choice whether or not to take anything with me, no one else’s.

Tell DH to calm the fuck down.

What DID we do in the millions of years before mobile phones.

Your DH is being very dramatic!

Is your DH generally anxious?

Of course he's not right.

Lol he was being ridiculous.

Bit weird. unless theres a whole backstory

Unless there's a massive drip feed coming that your DS has some kind of condition which makes him likely to suddenly collapse or need emergency care or similar, your dh is being ridiculous.

Tripped and fell over? Really?

He's overreacting unless there is some reason why your son is more likely to come to harm than normal people. Eg if he's likely to get attacked because he has grassed some local thugs to the police, or he has a condition that causes him to pass out randomly. But you'd probably have mentioned if that was the case.

Wow! That’s nuts. Your DH needs to take a chill pill!

Its really difficult one.

We may survived without them before. But what does that matter. There's loads of stuff we survived without before and we don't now. And also you son is an adult.

Buts its only out of concern. Sometimes parents tale a whole to realise their kids are grown up. And parents still worry, not matter how old someone gets

I am almost 40 and have to give me mum 2 rings when I get home when travelling a long way.

I never take my phone when going for a walk. I go for a walk to have some time alone, to clear my head and process my own thoughts. The last thing I need is my phone. If I severely injured myself or was attacked (unlikely on the popular route I take) I probably would a) not be able to use my phone or b) would have had it stolen by the attacker. I hate this idea that everyone (adults) has to be contactable at all times - it’s not healthy.

DH is being totally ridiculous. Unless DS has done kind of condition making him fall over a lot

He’s 21!

Unless you live in the wilderness or your DS is vulnerable that is a bizarre comment by your DH.

Ffs how did we manage to leave the house in the 80's???

What's the backstory?

Your DH is being weird and controlling over an adult (actually even if he was a teenager it's a bit OTT

It sounds like your husband has anxiety.

I am just wondering is there is a backstory too. My DS1 is 35 but because of mental health and anxiety issues l would worry if he went anywhere with his phone.

Does your adult son have form for randomly falling over and hurting himself?!

If his battery was flat it wouldn’t have been much use if he took it anyway, would it?

Unless there's a backstory then no your husband needs to unclench.