How old were you when you left home?

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i was 18

11

Left for uni in 1999 aged 18, didn't return. Recently my mum was awful to my tween DS and it reminded me of my childhood and why I left. I hope DS will feel like he can stay here for as long as he wants...

18 though stayed with my parents for a few weeks here and there in uni holidays.

18

18 and 3 weeks. August birthday

Times have changed haven't they! We have two twenty somethings here currently

28! My mum asked me to buy my own house and leave. It hadn’t occurred to me until then. I paid my way and cooked and cleaned etc but think mum wanted her space back

22

18 semi moved out, 19 fully

Left for university at 17 but I still went home for the holidays. When I was 20 I moved away for good.

28! My mum asked me to buy my own house and leave. It hadn’t occurred to me until then.

@pinkstripeycat Not sure if you were being tounge in cheek or not but I had to laugh at "It hadn’t occurred to me until then."

28. Uni was a stone throw away from the apartment so it made sense to stay put. Family relationships were always good, so there was no problem on that part. Later, I graduated right on time for the 2008 financial crash 😔 and finding a place of my own in Stockholm on a mix of internships, childminding and the occasional project wasn't an option. I left when I emigrated to UK.

Some of your responses going '27 comfortable with mum and dad' , '25 was saving for a deposit' don't realise how privileged you are and were and are missing the point... we didn't leave young by choice so stop being so braggy and disrespectful

@maddiemookins16mum it was 2016

@Themeparklover. Why are they being braggy and disrespectful? They are just answering a question posted on a public forum

@Lemonwoe Many of us had expressed hardship and difficulties surrounding having to leave at a young age and people commenting older ages on here implied they waited because it was 'the wise thing to do' and made digging and implicationally negative comments stating why they had waited not factoring in that waiting is a privilege in itself and not everyone gets that

@lemonwoe for example @3catsandcounting implied most people they knew had the privelege of moving in with a partner young and that was somehow easier and that they were independent etc because they bought alone not comprehending most young people are entirely along and in fear.

alone*

But for them waiting was the right thing to do... they were just sharing their situation: not everyone’s situation is the same.

I left home at 17 in the late 90s, but I have no idea how easy it would be for a 17 year old to move out of home these days

27 officially/ for the final time.

But Uni 18-21, then lived with a boyfriend from 22 to 24 and had a job where I was away in the week while I was 25. As soon as my work became settled I saved for a deposit and bought a flat myself

20 but I moved in with my nan as there was 6 of us in a 2 bed house, got my current rental flat when I was 21

@Themeparklover

I think it works both ways though. Often on mumsnet there's a great deal of contempt to people living at home past certain ages. There can be a real "i moved out at 17, i didn't have the luxury of staying at home, people need to try harder and if they can't its because they are spoilt privileged and lazy". Some of the people that left later might be looking at the people who left earlier and thinking man I wish I had that opportunity

I had just turned 17 but my now husband was 19 so we rented in his name.

30 - which I can see here is not the norm.

We had a good relationship, I was saving for a house.

I was the oldest of my siblings to leave, but the only one not to boomerang back - and whilst never say never, still the least likely to ever - as My home isn’t financially tied to anyone but me.

Moved out at 17 into a private rental with my 2 week old baby.