... to not consider vibrators "mainstream"?

[PavlovsDoggie]

In the sense that most of us have them, etc.

They're advertised on MN, but the reality is you never see them mentioned in mainstream books, movies, TV, etc.

Silly thoughts on a train passing time on a Friday evening!!

YABU - no of course they are mainstream, most of us have them

YANBU - yes, they are niche, just see ads for them on MN, but not much out there in the team world

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@Pinchoftums

It would take me ages of hand action to come otherwise and neither I nor DH can be arsed. If you can do it quickly lucky you, crack on but it's 20 minutes of slog on the old clit (after a bit of foreplay and sex) or 3 minutes to heaven. 😁

Basically this! Both have merits and flaws and the boyfriend loves watching

They're advertised on MN, but the reality is you never see them mentioned in mainstream books, movies, TV, etc

Women’s sexuality has never been mainstream, I mean women actually used to be sectioned for a bit of self pleasure! And that’s because men have always held the narrative - doesn’t make them right.

I’ve read in some classical Greek play (5th century BC-ish) of ‘ladies’ six inch leather comforters’ so hardly a new thing,

It was a comedy (forget which) and in case anyone thinks I’m bragging about my language skills, I read it in an English translation.

Not that I’m saying that every other woman has one in their bedside drawer, probably far from it.

I think @Naunet makes a very relevant point. In porn, and I’m no expert, it seems that the cumshot is what it’s all about. There is little attention to the female experience, and that often extends to female sexuality in popular books and movies too.

First I'd ever taken note of them was with an episode of sex in the city. After that I'd assume they were fairly mainstream, if you were of a certain age.

It's also not always a solo thing either. While since partners might feel threatened, some just love to watch.

What's mainstream changes over time. If you are 20, 30, 40, etc then i think you might see things differently.

When my dsis had a girlfriend, it was a really difficult time for her. Now she is happily married, times had changed but she has not.

Lots of sex related topics would have been niche 30 years ago are part of mainstream now.

1. I've seen a few posters over the years on MN where partners did not like them using vibrators.

1. It's acceptable that all men masturbate. It seems much less acceptable for women? (But I'd assume we all do so in private)

Both these points relate to @naunet post above on lack of attention to female sexuality in media.

They are absolutely mainstream. But something being mainstream media doesn't necessarily mean widespread use.

For example, while I'd assume that basically all women masturbate (age limits of course), we are aware of vibrators due to mainstream media, but not so many people use them in reality? That could also be the case.

My adverts are for videogames....

I think fairly mainstream. Got first one in mid 20s on advice of my physio as I was having pain during sex (thankfully mostly sorted now).

Tbh now married and don't tend to use them as vibrstors. But I do have a g spot one and it is such an amazing deep tissue massager. Great for getting under shoulder blades!

You can buy them in Poundland so definitely mainstream

Mainstream for sure. But that doesn't mean that something happens or is used all the time.

I have a coffee machine, and use it a few times every day. I have scented candles and use then every few months. I have a Hitachi magic wand and won't share what I do with that

Definitely mainstream. I did have an advert for one the other day though and thought wtf?

My husband has a website selling them.

Very mainstream I'm pretty sure all my friends have them!

Mainstream 100%

I had one and used it twice a day for several months a few years back. My DH used it on me too.

I should clarify that was in relation to a shoulder injury for cycling.

The shoulder is much better now :) But DH still likes to use it with me

I think they’re mainstream. Most women will have a vibrator in this day and age! Judging by the 82% vote I think this illustrates the point nicely

It is mainstream in that they are sold and marketed to us and generally available.

While all women masturbate, I'm not so sure most have bought or used a vibrator. Maybe that’s the limited aged 50s perspective. Might be different for the younger crowd?

Culturally they are mainstream. Most people would have purchased and tried it, as part of experimenting.

Lots of gadgets are inclined to be under used and gather dust.

However, our hands are always there, no batteries required, etc. It something we all discovered as teens, and know how to do.

I would have thought they are fairly mainstream. If its not your thing that's OK.

I had one and used it twice a day for several months a few years back. My DH used it on me too.

You must have been worn out by the time the shoulder healed 😁

@OverByYer

They are selling them in Sainsbury’s now. I was looking for Sudafed the other day and looked up and saw some on the top shelf next to the condoms. I was a bit shocked if I’m honest

The sainsburys ones are awful. Don't buy them!

Ann summers on every high street, I search for halo top ice-cream on Tesco and a gal bullet vibrator is a returned result. It's mainstream, I can say Ann summers rabbit, or Hitachi wand and a lot of people know the reference

I wonder if this is what it means when young people say they are vibin?

Like all things, they only seem mainstream to you if you and your immediate peers have one!

I've had one for years!!

My friend used to sell them online. They sold LOADS. Like, amazing business - constant high demand. So yeah, I'd say they're mainstream.

FOMO, Fear of missing out, after a quick research, I've taken the plunge and just ordered the magic wand.

It doesn't look like I expected actually but will see. It does indeed look for like something for sports injury.

Amazon Prime, DH account :;