I’ve never heard anyone making that assumption 🤷♀️ Not all women use sex toys, not all women masturbate, that’s fine. But saying you don’t need one or you have a man so don’t need one is a bit insulting
Insulting? What a bizarre take. And it's not bragging. It's a fact - I don't have one because I don't need one. Is it insulting to say you don't have a dishwasher because you don't need one? Or a tumble dryer? Because you prefer to wash your dishes by hand as you live alone for example? Or you have a heated airer instead?
It’s literally been said on this thread, I don’t think anyone commented personally about not having one until people said they would be surprised if someone under 45 didn’t have one/ would find it odd/ weird
This precisely the reason I felt I needed to
say why I didn't need one. Because those of us who don't have one had comments made that it was odd never to have owned one and asked how we could possibly know what we preferred. There was an assumption that we didn't know there were different kinds of sex toys. Then there was an assumption made that I could only have clitoral orgasm and that there are some types of orgasm you can only get with a vibrator...which, in my personal experience hasn't been the case. Hence "I don't need one", not a "brag", a factual statement.
And "I prefer the real thing" is all very well but what if you cant have the real thing? Either through relationship issues, ED or simply being single?
I've been single on and off throughout my life for really long periods. I only have sex within committed, loving relationships so that means long periods without a man. That doesn't mean I go years or days even without orgasms. I just don't need a sex toy to achieve that. Same result...different method and I'm happy with that. The very last thing I'd want would be to become de-sensitized and have a poorer sex life as a result. Also, when it comes to ED, or even disability, most women don't climax from PIV alone anyway and it can be empowering and help already fragile self esteem in a partner who cannot manage PIV to be able to sexually satisy their partner without. Sure,
for some a vibrator may be one of or even the only way to achieve that but for others, they may not need that or prefer their partner's touch to a vibrator.
Like I said, I don't have any problem with people needing to use a vibrator. But I do take massive issue with people assuming we all have/want/prefer/need them, that we can't possibly know what we prefer unless
we've tried one, that we are odd or uneducated or deprived and unsatisfied if we don't have them or even that we need to be bought one.
Maybe lets all just trust individual women to know their needs and preferences and stop trying to insist that there is a one size fits all approach and that every woman will own a vibrator and that those who don't are somehow odd for not wanting/needing/personally liking them.