Anyone else still feeling flat??

[Coldwine75]

I just cant shake it off, since the pandemic and all the lockdowns, the restrictions I have no motivation to do anything still. Normally love planning days out and holidays etc but just cant be bothered, is this the effect of living life the way we all have for the past year or so? Feels like every day is the same, monotone existence.

Yup totally agree! Had no kids this morning and no work; and sat for 3 hours watching crap on tv!

Would never have done this before!

Yep can’t be bothered with much. It’s ok when I do things but overall there’s no shine to anything, no real enjoyment. It’s the overhang from how we’ve had to live the last 12 months or so. I’m not sure it’ll ever feel normal now, and I’m not being dramatic in that. I just think the after effects are going to be felt for a very long time, so much uncertainty all the time.

Feeling slight relief its not be spiralling into depression or something but normal for most of us? I just have no energy and no drive, was never like this pre pandemic.

I feel this too. I think it’s the risk life could be put on hold again. What’s the point in pushing things forward if it could all just grind to a halt.

I find that I fluctuate. Some days are better than others.
I graduated in 2020 and have WFH since September… initially I found that very very very hard but I somewhat seem to have adjusted ☺️ I hope you feel better over time as well, if it gives you any sort of reassurance that over time I have started to feel better.

I am! was starting to worry about myself - have no motivation at all- have a real sense of 'what's the point?' (not in a depression sense)

So glad it's not just me! Have bugger all motivation to do anything, feeling fat, flat and sluggish. What doesn't help is that friends have suddenly turned into post lockdown social butterflies or have gotten really fit etc, makes me feel even worse!

Yep, I feel like this too. I think I feel scared to start enjoying things again and getting back to normality in case it's just snatched away again

Yes I think the worry that everything could just stop again is the worst bit. It begins to feel like there’s no end to it, and that we can never feel normal and make reliable plans.some of us really need things to be certain to feel happy and normal.

Yes, definitely feeling some of that at the moment. I sometimes suffer from poor mental health though, so this isn't new to me, and isn't just since covid.

I wouldn't worry about it too much atm, it feels like a pretty normal response to all the shit that's happened recently. That is, unless you feel it's affecting you badly, or you just can't shift it.

When I start dropping into a slump, if it doesn't lift in about a week, I start to force myself to do one thing each day that I used to enjoy. Just little things, a workout, a jigsaw, an old favourite computer game, 30 minutes with a good book. I book it in like a chore, then make sure I do it, and once I get in to it, I start to enjoy those things again.

Yup. I have my first therapy session tomorrow because I’ve totally spriralled into deep depression, haven’t felt this low for years. I was just about coping after the first lockdown last year but the lockdown this year totally destroyed me.

I went away for a week in a lovely cottage and just couldn't be bothered to go many places - usually I would have had a jam-packed break. Sat at home in a dressing gown on a couple of days!

As other's have said, it's not being depressed or anything, I just feel I'm stuck in first gear.

Improving a bit here. Some of my social connections have eased a bit, so that's helped seeing people acting more normally. Last year was fucking lonely with friends being too terrified to meet or so paranoid about distancing that it was a toss up whether the stress of meeting was better than interminable boredom.

I spent most of Nov to May feeling numb after much of my anger imploded. All emotions felt muted and dulled down.

I'm begining to find a bit more personal confidence at stretching out and doing stuff; it was purely being institutionslised to being around home for so long and breaking that dynamic. Everything has been feeling like a disproportionately enlarged big deal, even stuff that I was doing last summer.

I'm trying to do different things to stimulate myself rather than being shallow Covid-secure immitations of what they should be.
Getting away camping and having totally different scenery topped my soul up a little.

I'm not signing up for races at present due to uncertainty about plans going ahead or the flat, quiet atmosphere. Confidence to make and carry out plans will be a big difference and my diary is still too empty.

It's natural that we're feeling bruised about so much being stripped from our lives and understandable that it's taking time to recover, especially when there is still so much uncertainty over travel and events and joy-sucking measures of places looking like crime scenes, masks and distancing.

I feel like this generally now. Family life is difficult, house is a tiny overcrowded shit tip, I was made redundant from a job I loved and now have one I hate, kids just want to stay at home, don't want to do anything or go anywhere. All in all life sucks at the moment and I can't see it getting better any time soon.

@lidoshuffle

I went away for a week in a lovely cottage and just couldn't be bothered to go many places - usually I would have had a jam-packed break. Sat at home in a dressing gown on a couple of days!

As other's have said, it's not being depressed or anything, I just feel I'm stuck in first gear.

We just stuck to naturally outdoors things. CBA with clock-watching pre-booked appointments for attractions/ eating out while on a break. We kept last summer's holiday shorter for that reason too.

Last week I thought about a day out then had no energy or motivation to pre book it etc, just stayed at home doing nothing :(

@Coldwine75

Last week I thought about a day out then had no energy or motivation to pre book it etc, just stayed at home doing nothing :(

Me too, this is exactly what I am like! I'm dreading the summer holiday , its just stretching ahead of me..

I feel like this too I suffer with mental health already but restrictions have made me even more isolated I literally leave the house for my therapy and to pick up my DD on a Friday
We have a family meal booked for Saturday and I’m dreading it
Our Florida holiday for This April was canceled and we are booked for next may I can’t even face planning anything for it I know it’s a while off but usually with things like that I go all out planning. Etc
Just no motivation put on 2 stone and chronic insomnia life sucks

@Hopdathelf

I feel this too. I think it’s the risk life could be put on hold again. What’s the point in pushing things forward if it could all just grind to a halt.

Yes. It doesn't feel worth planning anything and the fear of having to isolate because you went to the pub makes it not worth going to the pub.

I was about to post the same thread.
I feel very down, especially these past few days. Just irritated and sad/flat.

So a lot of us feeling the same, lockdowns and endless life being turned upside down and restricted, not knowing what's going to happen is affecting us, perhaps our brains are not meant for this ..................still struggling on, had to force myself to clear up and do some work, but felt like watching Location Location Location all day.............

I’m the same op.

And on top of the lockdowns we’ve all had, I’ve just been isolating for the past two weeks.
When I dropped the kids off at school yesterday on their first day back, I just came home and cried. I just felt empty and flat and should have been getting on with stuff in my first day of back to freedom, but nope I sat there and cried.

a lot of people feel like you so YADNBU

I am a mixture of couldn't wait to see people, had to organise birthday parties & meet ups and feeling unmotivated to do things.

I resent having to wear a bra again and I hate school runs even more now.
it's our 16th year at our primary school but these last few weeks feel like torture. I'm so fed up with traffic, parking, one-way system drop off & pick up, the whole thing. I hate it.
bring back homeschooling!!!

It’s being called “languishing,” apparently.

www.nytimes.com/2021/04/19/well/mind/covid-mental-health-languishing.html

OMG I am so glad it's not just me. Everything feels so 'mehhh.' We have much more freedom now, and can do stuff/go on daytrips etc, and I just cannae be arsed to plan anything.

I won't plan anything abroad as the situation can change on the spin of a coin, but I could plan stuff for this country. But I can't be arsed. Been on a couple of day trips, but it's hard to plan anything else, as I am not forking out £2,000 for a week in a caravan in Cornwall. I'd rather save it for a world cruise in 2 or 3 years when things are back to normal (God willing!!!)