Anyone else still feeling flat??

[Coldwine75]

I just cant shake it off, since the pandemic and all the lockdowns, the restrictions I have no motivation to do anything still. Normally love planning days out and holidays etc but just cant be bothered, is this the effect of living life the way we all have for the past year or so? Feels like every day is the same, monotone existence.

Yes. And I've found this year much more difficult than the last. Like others have said, it's the uncertainty. I was actually starting to feel okay last week and then nursery called to say my son has to self isolate for 10 days (he came in contact with someone who has covid) and I just feel like I can't plan anything. Everything is up in the air. It's hard work!

Thank you for posting! Yes, I feel the same.

Yes, but for me it's because I'm having to re-learn how to do social, normal things.

I feel a bit flat and exhausted when I stay in the house - I like our house, but I've seen enough of it. However, while I've really enjoyed social stuff being back on, I find it tiring in a way I didn't used to. Like, chilling with friends now leaves me knackered. I also have a touch of social anxiety I never used to have, like I find myself later ruminating on what I said and wondering if it could have been taken the wrong way, etc.

I'm also reluctant to plan anything more than a few weeks away and it's like I can't let myself prepare for things, so everything seems disorganised and last minute. I'm also much more bothered when things clash and I can't go to something - it seems like a much bigger deal to miss out on things now. All these little worries make having a social life kind of stressful.

I'm not too worried personally, because I can feel things getting easier the more I do them. I think once things really return to normal, I will too.

It's more than languishing though isn't it? It's The Fear.

Yes, me too OP.

I am hating work, I used to thrive on being busy and under a bit of pressure, now I just want to potter about. I WFH and rarely go out other than a quick dash round supermarket every other week, though enjoy the garden. I've tried going out a bit more, try to get back to more like normal, but I end up desperate to get back home, I'm quite anti-social now. Family want me to socialise over the next two weekends and I'm absolutely dreading it, I don't want to go out, I don't want to have to engage in social chit chat, I just want to be left alone.

Glad my post has helped others realise we are feeling the same, and it therefore must be normal? I also feel incredibly nervous now at the thought of socialising , I didn't before. I just feel ever day is the same (working at home) i like wfh but my life feels dull and uneventful?

Absolutely. Don't get excitement out of anything anymore. Used to love reading, going to art galleries, doing my gym classes and keeping up with the news, now all I do is scroll through Reddit, Facebook and Mumsnet. Feel like I don't have anything to talk to people about anymore and subtly low all the time.

So a lot of us feeling the same, lockdowns and endless life being turned upside down and restricted, not knowing what's going to happen is affecting us,

It IS affecting people and I dread to think about what the long term mental health effects of this will be, especially on young people.

We simply can't go on like this.

Sorry you're feeling so rubbish.

Have been feeling the same OP. Actually now very depressed. The one thing I had looked forward to this year (for big zero birthday) got cancelled due to restrictions being extended and I'm gutted. I've had a really tough decade and chronic pain for the last year and honestly can't summon up any enthusiasm for anything.

Feel a bit more positive this evening.

Had a very spontaneous, laid back evening with a friend and her children (and mine!). Just a picnic indoors which we were supposed to have in the park until it started to rain. Was just really nice to do the simple stuff again, rather than big days or nights out, or expensive trips.

Yep I’m exactly feeling like this !! I went London for trip came home early and has no motivation to do stuff I normally enjoy . I did go to the drs and explained how I was feeling and even thou I’m not crying or feeling upset he said I needed a little help to pick up again so prescribed me antidepressants which was a shock to discover I actually needed them I’m slowly but surely starting to feel abit like my old self again xxx

I agree OP. First time it was all new and we came together and got through looking for rainbows on windows on walks and feeling that we were doing our bit.

In the winter it was bad, but just.get through to christmas and the vaccines then January went downhill but the vaccination programme was underway.

Now it feels like the cases are rising again and the rich are getting to do what they want while the masses are threatened with lockdowns again.

I feel so despondent. Its like groundhog day.

Yes OP very much so

Same here. I feel not much point in planning ahead, when so many things have been cancelled

And, whilst most of my friends have been sensible since Covid, I feel rather differently about those that were more irresponsible. I try not to judge, but am less inclined to meet them now I feel they are more likely to spread Covid

I’ve found if I have met up with anyone it’s been a bit of an anti climax and half the time I’m counting down until I can get back home again . I am dreading going back to work after wfh I’m a total introvert and work with a lot of extroverts and I find it so draining listening to people all day . Everything seems so expensive too I keep checking out summer breaks and just can’t afford my usual U.K. holiday .

Yes agree, no motivation to see friends, socialise or arrange days out. All seems such an effort. Poor weather hasn’t helped.

Stuck in first gear is the perfect way to describe it.
Nothing feels fun and spontaneous. Technically we can do some of the things we used to do but it feels as though it will be stressful and potential subject to last minute changes, so it's easier to just not bother.

Yes. I’m calling the doctor tomorrow and asking for some antidepressants. I have moments of happiness but they are very fleeting, I have no motivation and I feel the more this drags on the worse my mood is becoming

I literally can’t stop eating

I think the long term social effects/ MH effects are going to be very bad. In the end I think we may come to the conclusion that we were better of carrying on as normal through the pandemic.

Yep. Also languishing here. Everything is meh.

Wheresmybiscuit

me too

Yes you’re post sums up my recent feelings!
I’ve been struggling to put my finger on what it is... if I have no plans I just feel myself staring at my phone, no motivation, not excited for any plans I hve. Almost going through the motions, hoping things are picking up and back to normal soon :(

I feel a sense of de ja vu with this thread...... but yes, definitely still feeling very flat, it's an incredible struggle to do stuff these days and masking how I feel because to be honest, I'm one of the lucky one who has made it out the other side of this bollocks in a reasonably OK position. I feel like I'm being ungrateful if I moan iykwim

@Sniv you summed it up perfectly, for me!