To be scared of my neighbour? Weird noises at nights...

[Mikadua23]

So this is going to be very messy and long..
We moved here 2 years ago, we live in 2 semi detached house and our neighbour is on our right.

We live in cul de sac and the area is very quiet and peaceful.
I dont work right now due to taking care of our young child and being pregnant with our second so I am home all days.

My neighbour is a man in his ( I believe 50s)
He is very shy when you try to say hello but usually kind, we don't have problems and never had.
He lives alone and have no family or friends, nobody ever visited him for the last 2 years..
He was always alone on christmas, easter or other celebrations..
We would check on him through the covid situation when he would not leave his house for few days at all and we would do some food shopping for him, he was very happy with the help.
I would give him christmas cards but never had one back (not that I expected him to give one! I have purerly felt sorry for him)
I would also give him a portion of christmas dinner last year and he was very happy although never really came back with dishes , he just left them outside our door 2 weeks after..

Our landlord did say to us when we first moved here, that our neighbour is weird and nobody in the road likes him but I never asked questions.

I wouldn't care about the way He chose to live if not the fact that he works night shifts every other week and every time he leaves the house, you can hear noises from his house like someone is still inside which is odd because he does live on his own.
As I mentioned before...
He never even had a friend coming over...

We share walls and it usually takes about 5 mins after he leaves around midnight and then you can hear someone coming down the stairs inside his house .

I dont know why, I am scared of this man and always find him a bit weird, it shouldn't really be in my intesrest whats happening inside his house but the whole thing is just odd.

Despite all this..

He never goes anywhere except his job where he works 12 hours shifts around 4 times a week.

@Mum233 I’m not sure if we are ever going to find out lol

OP, as my Nan used to say, don’t keep us in suspenders!!

I am just watching out for news report on neigbour breaking into a house because "had a gut feeling, you know" 😂

Any news OP????????

He sounds creepy. I wouldn’t interact with him at all - xmas cards and xmas dinner etc are kind but not appropriate if he’s truly a weirdo. Stop reaching out to him he doesn’t sound like someone you want to reach back.

As to the noises, pick an option:

1. the noises are not a person. They are a pet / creaking pipes / tv etc.

1. The noises are a person, he doesn’t live alone, that’s just a rumour.
2. He claims to live alone but does not not, in which case pick one of:

A. He has a dependent he’s ashamed of eg agoraphobic/schizo/depressed mother/sister/wife. B. He’s keeping someone prisoner. This is a scary thought and it does happen. Would be a bit strange that they had free range of whole house tho. C. Someone lives there without him knowing. D. He is being regularly burgled.

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He sounds creepy.

Gordon Bennett.

What for?
Living alone, working nightshifts, & being shy?

I don't think he sounds creepy but it seems likely there's someone else living there who may wait until he's gone out to enjoy the whole house! Someone elderly and/or someone agoraphobic? Maybe their routines are synched to sleep during the day so that the person remaining at home doesn't disturb the other one who works nights? But their 'day' is during the night?

Reminds me of the time though that I stayed in an ex's flat overnight (I'd been out and their place was closer to where I'd spent an evening out). I had a set of keys but they were away on holiday. I felt a bit as if I shouldn't be there though and spent the whole time being as quiet as I could be. However, it was a semi to flats conversion so I'm pretty sure the downstairs neighbours must have been able to hear me! Goodness knows what they thought!

@cherrytree63

Anyone remember the drama series about people living in a huge house divided into flats? Think it was called What Lies Within, one of the tenants gets murdered and dumped in the lift. Anyway, a retired school teacher has the garden flat, and an ex pupil of his lives there in secret. I think she'd committed a minor crime but he'd convinced her she needed to remain hidden. Maybe it was based on your neighbour

That's all a bit far-fetched. Remember Occam's Razer- the simplest explanation is likely to be the correct one. It is probably just his evil twin, he keeps him in a cage when he is there and let's him out when he has gone out for the day.

Little update .

Thank you everyone for your ideas and concerns. I got really scared to the point where I have contacted admins to take the thread down as I was scared that he will find it then murder me 😀😪

We started a "log book" and I also reached out to previous people that lived here (yes I went that far) they have shared similar corners and thoughts with us.
I started a log book with any mysterious activities that take place next wall and realised that there is an actual pattern 😳

I have then contacted police anonymously and explained my corners but they have rejected to do anything about it with lack of an actual proves.

I spoke to my partner and decided to just move out of this place and leave this problem behind as I am not feeling safe anymore living here.

Cheers to England winning again tonigh👏🙌👍👌😀😎

Sorry but it doesn't sound like your neigbour is the weird one...

I think you’ve made the right decision to move out.. bless your heart! So damn creepy

@SchrodingersImmigrant

Sorry but it doesn't sound like your neigbour is the weird one...

This. You think he's going to track down your MN post and murder you? Really?

Sounds very odd…especially that the previous owners/renters shared your concerns!

Socalledfriend that picture is brilliant

@SchrodingersImmigrant

Sorry but it doesn't sound like your neigbour is the weird one...

Quite.

@Mikadua23

Little update .

Thank you everyone for your ideas and concerns. I got really scared to the point where I have contacted admins to take the thread down as I was scared that he will find it then murder me 😀😪

We started a "log book" and I also reached out to previous people that lived here (yes I went that far) they have shared similar corners and thoughts with us.
I started a log book with any mysterious activities that take place next wall and realised that there is an actual pattern 😳

I have then contacted police anonymously and explained my corners but they have rejected to do anything about it with lack of an actual proves.

I spoke to my partner and decided to just move out of this place and leave this problem behind as I am not feeling safe anymore living here.

Cheers to England winning again tonigh👏🙌👍👌😀😎

You have issues....

Keeping a log book on your neighbours, contacting ex neighbours etc probably comes under harassment. You'd do as well to read up on cases where neighbour vigilantism has very adverse consequences.
I hope the police have logged the behaviour. Yours.

In all seriousness OP, exactly what are you scared of? You've built up a few noises into a massive ridiculous thing. What if you move and your new neighbours are creepy and weird and scary, are you just going to keep moving or do you think it might be beneficial to accept you are the problem and seek help?

@Chikapu

In all seriousness OP, exactly what are you scared of? You've built up a few noises into a massive ridiculous thing. What if you move and your new neighbours are creepy and weird and scary, are you just going to keep moving or do you think it might be beneficial to accept you are the problem and seek help?

It's MN innit? Everyone is default terrified of their neighbours. Though bizarrely, there's a thread about a vomiting abusive drunk lying on an OP's doorstep (so legitimate fear I'd say) and she's getting all kinds of grief for not, as a woman alone, wanting to go out and take him tea, cakes and a paracetamol.

Goodness me OP. Please make an appointment with your GP to get some help with your anxiety.

If this is real, you've switched from blithely providing shopping services & hot dinners to an able-bodied, working adult (as if his single status made him a charity case), to worrying that he will somehow "find this thread" (how?!) & murder you.

I have then contacted police anonymously and explained my corners but they have rejected to do anything about it with lack of an actual proves.

How frustrating. Must be a bit like being in the Scooby Doo gang. Except without the Evil Caretaker posing as a ghost.

I started a log book with any mysterious activities that take place next wall and realised that there is an actual pattern
OMG. My neighbours tend to have "a pattern" too!
OMFG - so do I!! Fingers crossed I don't suddenly find out I'm a murderer.

I spoke to my partner and decided to just move out of this place and leave this problem behind as I am not feeling safe anymore living here.
& did your partner talk you through your fears & suggest you ring your GP to get signposting toward mental health services?