To be scared of my neighbour? Weird noises at nights...

[Mikadua23]

So this is going to be very messy and long..
We moved here 2 years ago, we live in 2 semi detached house and our neighbour is on our right.

We live in cul de sac and the area is very quiet and peaceful.
I dont work right now due to taking care of our young child and being pregnant with our second so I am home all days.

My neighbour is a man in his ( I believe 50s)
He is very shy when you try to say hello but usually kind, we don't have problems and never had.
He lives alone and have no family or friends, nobody ever visited him for the last 2 years..
He was always alone on christmas, easter or other celebrations..
We would check on him through the covid situation when he would not leave his house for few days at all and we would do some food shopping for him, he was very happy with the help.
I would give him christmas cards but never had one back (not that I expected him to give one! I have purerly felt sorry for him)
I would also give him a portion of christmas dinner last year and he was very happy although never really came back with dishes , he just left them outside our door 2 weeks after..

Our landlord did say to us when we first moved here, that our neighbour is weird and nobody in the road likes him but I never asked questions.

I wouldn't care about the way He chose to live if not the fact that he works night shifts every other week and every time he leaves the house, you can hear noises from his house like someone is still inside which is odd because he does live on his own.
As I mentioned before...
He never even had a friend coming over...

We share walls and it usually takes about 5 mins after he leaves around midnight and then you can hear someone coming down the stairs inside his house .

I dont know why, I am scared of this man and always find him a bit weird, it shouldn't really be in my intesrest whats happening inside his house but the whole thing is just odd.

Despite all this..

He never goes anywhere except his job where he works 12 hours shifts around 4 times a week.

I also never heard them walk down the stairs when it's rooms, not hallways joined

I personally think this is the most entertaining thread that I’ve read in a long time.

@Poorlykitten

I personally think this is the most entertaining thread that I’ve read in a long time.

Go over to chat and read the 'odd diet' thread, I was even more entertained by that one 😂

@Poorlykitten

I personally think this is the most entertaining thread that I’ve read in a long time.

Not yet. Wait when the discovery of furniture made from human skins arrives😉

@ObviousNameChage

It's a strategy. You feed them so they don't eat you😂

Just like with cats.

Or trolls? 😂

@McdonaldsMilkshake I can't find find that thread. Is 'odd diet' the full title?

I was intrigued until OP's "petrified with fear" comment. Sounds like someone with a penchant for being overly dramatic.

[quote dexterslockedintheshedagain]@McdonaldsMilkshake I can't find find that thread. Is 'odd diet' the full title? [/quote]
Here you go www.mumsnet.com/Talk/_chat/4279410-I-m-trying-a-really-odd-diet-and-hope-it-works?pg=1

Anyone remember the Jaycee Dugard case? She was kidnapped and held hostage for 18 years. She had free roam of the house and garden after the first year or so and as time went on was out in public too, but fear meant she never ran, she never tried to escape.

I don't for a second think the neighbour has a hostage, my neighbours house and mine make all kinds of strange noises, when we are here and when we aren't - we've both commented on it to each other. However you honestly never can be sure, there are some terrible people in the world and they look just like everyone else.

@McdonaldsMilkshake you were right - that thread is indeed something else! 😂😂😂

Knock on the wall, see if anyone knocks back!!

I don't think he really lives alone.

Don't you feel bad for only sending over one Christmas dinner now
😜

@Babyjune21

I worked for a care company doing home visits we used to go into a woman’s house lets call her mrs Jones … mrs Jones stayed alone in a huge 5 bedroom house she was in her late 80s and her family that stayed else where were very controlling they said she was losing her mind so she was treated as such even by us … she wasn’t allowed in the up stairs of her house and she had had a nasty fall coming down the stairs and her son and daughter locked the rooms up stairs so she couldn’t get into them and installed I toilet with a bath in it down stairs well Any way she used to accuse all the care staff of eating her food and drinking her whisky things like that (and of course we weren’t) she wasn’t allowed to bath alone as she slipped and nearly fell so we were to help bath her and dry bath down before we left so if the care staff came in in the morning or in another point in the day we would know if she had bathed alone and we would need to remind her not to … we would go in in the morning and see a wet bath we would say to her and she would swear blind she wasn’t using the bath alone at night …. She used to put pen parks on her whisky bottle before we would do her tuck down visit to prove someone was drinking her whisky … we assumed it was her and she was forgetting bare in mind we had to report this all back to family witch just fulled the thoughts that she was losing it … anyway the family were trying to get her out into a home so lawyers came out and social workers she told them there was a squirrel living in her loft and she could here it ! She said the squirrel stole her jewellery things like that so this even more made us all think she had to be put in a home (no one had heard said squirrel nor thought to check in loft ) anyway it was winter and mrs Jones asked if I could take her up stairs into her old bedroom to get one of her fur coats as it was getting colder of course I agreed I got the key out the lock box and took her up stairs I unlocked the door and we went into her old bedroom and into her built in wardrobe for a coat she was upset as her old bed was unmaid (I never though anything of it ) I just assumed her son had stayed and left it like that I helped her make it and we went back down stairs I 200% made sure I locked bedroom door behind me I got a call from the office the next day saying the son was extremely angry the found the bedroom door laying open the night I went in I explained I locked it but of course no one believed me I was really upset 2 weeks before this all happened the son had got cctv installed at the front and back door because of cold callers ( she had signed up to a feed the tigers thing ) and he wasn’t happy anyway 2 days after the son called the office me and the 3 other care staff that attended her visits got called into the office the son had checked the cctv the night the door was left open there was a man seen leaving the house they asked us if we had ever seen him before (there was no footage of him entering only leaving ) none of us had seen him any where in or near the house before … anyway it turned out the man had been living in her loft !!! We don’t know for how long the family assume he was waiting till a few hours after the care staff left ( she was given a sleeping pill to help her sleep) and he was coming down stairs having a bath or shower (that’s why bath was sometimes wet even low she had swore she hadn’t used it ) he was helping himself to her whisky and food (found dna on whisky bottle) they found some of her stolen items in loft in and old bread packet that he had left behind it turned out that the wardrobe I was in getting the coat out of was the crawl space to the loft !!! The unmaid bed she was upset about ??? He had been sleeping in it (found his hairs on the pillow) they assume that when I went up stairs to get the coat that I spooked him and he choose to leave because of it (that’s why bedroom door was left open) could only be locked by hand from the inside of the room ! The key had to be used on the outside so yeah … these things do happen I have never felt so guilty in my life ! The poor woman wasn’t nuts

😱 Like the film Parasite!

Op in a few years being interviewed on TV about her psycho kidnapping neighbour

"Have you suspected anything odd going on in that house?"

"Yes, I literally heard someone walking around the house while the guy was at work"

"Why didn't you try to do anything?"

"Because mumsnet told me that would make me a nosy cow!"

He could be illegally subletting it out to someone who works during the day and is there at nights?

Why are people leaping to thinking someone is being held hostage or even illegally subletting when from reading the thread it seems that this man has never actually told the OP he lives alone or doesn't have visitors.

If the OP is friendly enough with him to message asking if he wants shopping why not just bloody ask him?

Shamelessly marking my place here 😂

Just go and tell him (as he arrives home) that you heard some footsteps and noises coming from his house when he went to work and it's freaked you out... Does he want your husband to come in and have a look around the house with him? (he might then disclose someone else living there)
Or just call the police for a welfare check...

He lives alone and have no family or friends

Yes I wonder where we got that impression from......🙄

I'd find that unnerving, OP.

Although I do think it is most likely pipes making the noise, or a relative living with him.

Have you checked the electoral register? That might give you an explanation.

Has he got sloth from goonies in his basement?

Maybe throw a couple of baby ruths through an air vent?

@NewLifeInTheSouth

All these people trying to shame the OP for being curious and concerned, and telling her she's the weird one who should keep her sticky beak out, you are the reason why things like Victoria Climbie and Baby P and Joseph Fritzl happen. And the reason why vulnerable people are cuckooed by drug dealers or are found dead in their houses after laying there for a year. People either don't care or they are too frightened of being seen as interfering.

Seriously? There’s a vast difference between those hideous situations and that of the OP ffs. There’s nothing to suggest that the secret inhabitant is incarcerated and held against their will. If OP was seriously worried surely she’d have knocked on the door either when the gentleman is at home or after he’s left for work with some excuse.

May be he has an agoraphobic relative living with him. Check the electoral role

Shameless placemarking! My moneys on someone in his loft that he doesn’t know about or odd noises that houses make!

could he be a carer for someone?

May explain why he works nights as he cares for the person during the day?