Do You Serve Yourself All The Best Bits?

[SmidgenofaPigeon]

I do.

I made a bloody amazing lasagne this evening. When I was dishing it out, I noticed DH’s bit had a particularly nice bit of bubbling mozzarella on it so I took it for myself before I took it through to the table. Since I do most of the cooking because I like it and I’m good at it, I do this quite a lot. I’ll take the juicier bit of chicken breast or the nicest looking roast potatoes for example. I don’t serve myself more than DH, I just take what I consider to be the choicest bits.

Then I started to think about my dear (now sadly dead) gran who would be horrified at this behaviour she would ALWAYS give the best bits of meat to my grandad or my dad, even if it meant everyone else had gristle. I remember on holiday once the women and children got fish fingers and the men a prime bit of cod loin which she fried up in some batter. She’d also buy steak for the men and a cheaper cut for the women.

I was just musing over whether I do it to rally against her strange ways (she always said the men deserved the nice bits more because they worked hard) or do I just think I deserve all the best bits because I’ve cooked it 😂

So do you serve your partner/children the nicest bits first or are you selfish like me and keep them for yourself

I try and share it out so we all get some of the best bits I would take some of the really crispy bits of bacon for myself though.
If I broke an egg while frying it or burnt something I would serve that to myself as it was my fault as the cook.
I give DH and DS larger portions than myself and DD because they are both over 6 foot and need more food I normally give them extra potatoes or pasta rather than meat.
DH is not allowed to dish up food even on the rare occasions he has cooked it as he doesn't cook enough and over people especially DD go short, he seems to think she is still a toddler rather than an adult woman.

Yep and my partner has caught me doing this. Asks if I chose that bit because it's better and I just go 'yep!'. He teases me for it, but doesn't mind.

hehe same here@SmidgenofaPigeon i like to call it"chefs privilege"😉

I eat the best bits in the kitchen before shouting it's ready. Just to be on the safe side.

Believer in cooks perks here. But DH and I differ on "best bits" so it works out!!

It honestly never even occurred to me that whoever was cooking wouldn’t get the best bits. I love my husband but the crispiest potato is mine!
(In my defence if he cooks then he definitely takes the best bits too- unless I ‘check on’ the potatoes whilst they’re cooking and one of them accidentally jumps into my mouth 😂)

I clearly had a worse gran than all of you. More than once I heard her say "I'm not giving it [the good bit] to that miserable old bugger!" [my grandad]

I always give DP the best bits (we don’t have dc yet) but that makes sense because his serving is 2x mine so more likely to contain the best bits anyway

@PattyPan

I always give DP the best bits (we don’t have dc yet) but that makes sense because his serving is 2x mine so more likely to contain the best bits anyway

Or you should get the quality, he can have the quantity 🤭

@SmidgenofaPigeon

YES I definitely take the cheesiest slices of pizza to be fair if DH is watching he will just let me take them anyway. He knows cheese is very important to me.

“He knows cheese is very important to me.”

This is the basis for a solid marriage. Mine, too is built on blocks of cheddar and runs on wheels of Brie, and the fact that my first love is respected, nay, encouraged, by my husband.

Chef's tax.

I also have a "pocket tax", I do most of the washing. The family know they need to empty pockets before placing in basket.

They don't. So anything I find I keep. Found a $100 note once. That was nice. No whining is allowed. They all have options that don't involve me taking a pocket tax.

No pocket tax here, I don't want there dirty tissues and used face masks.

This too happens in my house!!! I call it chefs perks.

The little crispy roast potatoes - Mine

The biggest Yorkshire pudding - mine

Nicest looking steak - mine

It's the rules.

I'm also a chef by trade and will always snaffle the nicest looking scone, cake, bit of bacon etc for myself and then take pictures for the website before eating them!!

Depends what it is and how I feel. Sometimes I give to DH. Sometimes I take for myself, especially if it's something I appreciate more.

Usually (if it's the exact same thing) one plates up (evenly sharing the best and worst bits) and the other blindly chooses a hand.

I hadn't thought of this before but I do always make sure my OH and the kids have the best bits. I wouldn't go as far as your gran though. I admit that I do tend to eat a lot of the crispy cheese off the pasta bake before the kids get it though, but I know they don't care.

Always the best bits for me - I do the cooking and my husband wouldn't care anyway. I even take the better potatoes off his plate whilst at the table if they look better. But then again, I can rarely finish a big meal and he then scoops up the 'rewards' from my leftovers (and probably gets his potato back!).

The best bits go in this order - dc's, me, dh.

Nah I take the best bits, because DH would eat shite on a stick and I'm a fussy cow. The kids have whatever I give them because I'm obv training them not to be as fussy as me

I give my DS the bits he likes best and buy something for him if he likes it or I think it's nice looking. My bf always give me the nicer looking chips etc as it means more to me than him!

The opposite. I give the people I'm serving the best bits. They usually tadtd the same (I imagine) but it's more about presentation.

I will give DS the best bits if he wants them otherwise I will eat them. DH does the same too. Chef’s privilege!

@MooChops89

Nah I take the best bits, because DH would eat shite on a stick and I'm a fussy cow. The kids have whatever I give them because I'm obv training them not to be as fussy as me

haha, same! I'm not exactly fussy but DP is the least fussy person imaginable. I could serve him up any old crap and he'd eat it all and declare it delicious. I have a more discerning palate and do 90% of the cooking so yeah, I'm taking the best bits for me.

I'm currently teaching DS (13) to cook and he likes to make meals for the family sometimes. His delighted little face when I explained about cook's privilege (nibbling ingredients as you cook, serving yourself the best bit) was an absolute picture! He loves to make us toasties as he knows he'll get first dibs on the escaped, crusty bits of cheese

MOST of the best bits. Cooks privilege and all that...

I would be more likely t o give them to my children than my husband though, if he could find his way into the kitchen and cook then he could keep the best bits. In all honesty though he is an eat to live rather a live to eat type, so probably wouldn't notice anyway!

I give DW the best bits. Its just always seemed like the polite thing to do, like holding a door open to let someone go through ahead of you.

I eat the chicken skin and the crispy ends of a roast before it even hits the plate. Not sorry. Apart from this, I do often give DH the best bits. I don't know why. I think it must be deeply internalised misogyny. I have a bigger glass of wine to compensate though.

If we have guests (remember those days?) they get the best bits.