Do You Serve Yourself All The Best Bits?

[SmidgenofaPigeon]

I do.

I made a bloody amazing lasagne this evening. When I was dishing it out, I noticed DH’s bit had a particularly nice bit of bubbling mozzarella on it so I took it for myself before I took it through to the table. Since I do most of the cooking because I like it and I’m good at it, I do this quite a lot. I’ll take the juicier bit of chicken breast or the nicest looking roast potatoes for example. I don’t serve myself more than DH, I just take what I consider to be the choicest bits.

Then I started to think about my dear (now sadly dead) gran who would be horrified at this behaviour she would ALWAYS give the best bits of meat to my grandad or my dad, even if it meant everyone else had gristle. I remember on holiday once the women and children got fish fingers and the men a prime bit of cod loin which she fried up in some batter. She’d also buy steak for the men and a cheaper cut for the women.

I was just musing over whether I do it to rally against her strange ways (she always said the men deserved the nice bits more because they worked hard) or do I just think I deserve all the best bits because I’ve cooked it 😂

So do you serve your partner/children the nicest bits first or are you selfish like me and keep them for yourself

I was talking with a colleague about this and she used the expression… ‘mammy always gets the crusts’ to mean that she is always left with the odds and ends and off cuts for lunches etc…. I dutifully agreed because I’m trying to impress! Internally I was like… nah! Fuxk that! Mummy always gets the best bits 😂😂😂😂

Martyr here - I give my DC and DH the best bits!

I can't believe I've been doing it wrong all these years!

I don't know why but I always give myself the worst bits!

What an idiot...

I always serve myself the best bits. DH would always give them to me. He is genuinely a better human being than me!

I give all the best bits because I'm addicted to praise so I milk it for all its worth

Best bits are mine!

I give the best bits to my dh and kids. I even plate ther food up nicely. Mine just get chucked on no presentation 😂
Dh tend to prefer everything crunchy/well done so I guess I do end up with nicer bits anyway

If we are all eating together, I give the best bits to ds, no question.
Dh and I have very different ideas on what the 'best bits' are so it's never really an issue between the two of us.

Absolutely I do. Benefit of being the chef.

When it's something yummy like roast whoever didn't cook will always come and help draining veg, carving meat etc. We then choose roasties by turn - it's a bit of a game for us now trying to pick strategically to get the best ones. I'll normally serve myself the best meat though

Did no one ever call your gran out on that OP? I’m trying to imagine the women in my family reacting to being given worse food than the men and I think plates would have flown!

I plate up equally (most of the time!).

Of course I do, can't bear all the mummy martyrs .

When serving I am scrupulously fair about the best bits (taking into account complementary preferences).

After the meal is over I will quite happily scrape out the lasagne dish, or mop up a bit of gravy that's not worth keeping, or pull off a tempting edge of chicken breast, or eat all of the dripped cheese in the grill...

I give DH the best bits, he gives me the best bits so it’s all good

@Just10moreminutesplease my mum did! But then my parents got divorced so she wasn’t with us after that when we went to my gran’s. So I was the only other woman and I was only a child- funnily enough my brothers and my dad never complained about getting all the best bits, the buggers.

They always got to rest after lunch too when I’d be summoned to the kitchen to help clean and tidy. I used to rant to my dad about it all the way home and just get gold that was her way of doing things

I was just musing over whether I do it to rally against her strange ways (she always said the men deserved the nice bits more because they worked hard) or do I just think I deserve all the best bits because I’ve cooked it
In her day most men were sole breadwinners and worked physically demanding manual jobs and the family probably couldn't afford enough meat for everyone. So the husband got the rasher of bacon while the wife and kids just got to wipe it over their bread. After all, if the husband wasn't strong enough for his job, the whole family would starve.

Times have changed now; the coal mines have shut, meat is cheap, and most families have two breadwinners. So while a man does still need more calories per day to sustain a larger frame, it's nothing like the differential which once existed.

I do a worse thing. I dish up out of view and all the plates look equal but I’ve actually scoffed loads of the best bits secretly. I’m a size 18 now though so I don’t actually recommend this…

Have you posted this before? I'm sore I've seen this and it descended in to a big argument of horrified martyrs. I'm with you though.

DH and I have very different ideas on what the best bits are so it works well for us. If it didn't and I'm cooking, I’d give myself the best bits of the things I really like and the best bits of what I know he likes more.

Not a martyr here at all! For a good five years my family never questioned where the Chicken skin was when I roasted one on a Sunday, as I’d slice it and pop in a serving dish on the table, eating the skin as I finished off the side dishes. I eventually got busted but I have no regrets!

@cocoloco987 no I haven’t, although now you mention it I might have read something similar years back!

I give my partner the best and biggest bits so he will enjoy it more

So glad to read this.
I do this.. I love food and csnt help myself from doing it.
I've felt guilty for years... Reading this its eased a bit

I try to share them equally, but sometimes I make things that I like and he doesn't really care for...

What counts as "best bits" can differ from person to person. I like the crispier pieces, and he doesn't, so we're a bit like Jack Sprat and his wife.

I take most of the best bits but justify it on the basis that I get far more enjoyment from the nice bits than he does!