Do You Serve Yourself All The Best Bits?

[SmidgenofaPigeon]

I do.

I made a bloody amazing lasagne this evening. When I was dishing it out, I noticed DH’s bit had a particularly nice bit of bubbling mozzarella on it so I took it for myself before I took it through to the table. Since I do most of the cooking because I like it and I’m good at it, I do this quite a lot. I’ll take the juicier bit of chicken breast or the nicest looking roast potatoes for example. I don’t serve myself more than DH, I just take what I consider to be the choicest bits.

Then I started to think about my dear (now sadly dead) gran who would be horrified at this behaviour she would ALWAYS give the best bits of meat to my grandad or my dad, even if it meant everyone else had gristle. I remember on holiday once the women and children got fish fingers and the men a prime bit of cod loin which she fried up in some batter. She’d also buy steak for the men and a cheaper cut for the women.

I was just musing over whether I do it to rally against her strange ways (she always said the men deserved the nice bits more because they worked hard) or do I just think I deserve all the best bits because I’ve cooked it 😂

So do you serve your partner/children the nicest bits first or are you selfish like me and keep them for yourself

Definitely!

I share them out mostly but will then take the plate that looks most attractive as I care more about presentation.

Why on Earth would I give the best bits away when I’ve slaved over a meal!
I will give dh and ds bigger portions than me but that’s either internalised misogyny or that they are bigger and eat more, not quite certain. But 100% give myself all the best bits.

Absolutely. The end pieces of the roast and best roast potatoes are mine. DH gets the nicest roast parsnips. Fair is fair after all. Poor DD gets what is left. TBF, half the time it goes to waste anyway, even when I was giving her the nicest bits.

I always take the worst plate. It makes me weep inside but I just can't give it to someone else. Even down to the better piece of toast!

No, serving martyr here.
However I do buy chocolates and biscuits for the family and eat 80% myself as I'm a grown up and I can do what I like. 😜

The cook gets the last portion here, everyone else gets served first.I give everyone else the best bits so they enjoy their meal.

Definitely give myself the bits I fancy. Dishing up is a constant appraisal system of the best bits for me, not being too unfair on dh and dc. I usually give myself smaller quantity because I'm try ing not to overeat.

I like to choose the best cooked part of say the shepherds pie. Dh doesn't care.

OH and I are like Jack sprat and his wife.

We both have different views on what the "best bits" are.
I will pick out all the mushrooms from a curry while he goes for the meat. I like the burnt ends of a roast- he likes the pink middle slices.

I remember my gran giving the best bits to her beloved dog. The children got less beef than Dusky when we were visiting.

For me, it depends on my mood and how cooperative everyone is being. If they are seeming ungrateful or whiny or are late to the table, I definitely take my favourite bits for myself. Counter-productive I suppose - I should be showing them that it is definitely worth being pleasant and present.

Otherwise I try to share it out, everyone according to their preference. Sometimes it is so easy - my daughter would rather eat fish skin than fish and my husband prefers potatoes to fish, so we all get a bit of adjustment to keep everyone happy!

I either take them for myself without comment, or I give a bit to DH and make a big song and dance about it.

I give DC the best bits. DH has low standards (!) so I don't particularly fuss what I give him, and then sometimes I have what's left over, or I'll grab a nice bit for myself.

But I definitely prioritise the children!

Of course I take the best bits. Cook's perks. Martyrdom is for losers

Yeah my gran would serve the men then kids first, but as already pointed out in those days there was one wage and mainly physical work so man needed to stay strong and healthy. There was also no welfare state as such to fall back on, Dr appointment had to be paid for and so on.

DC often get the best of any new fruit or vegetables, or any new dish I’m trying them on, because I want them to like it.

Between DH and me I am scrupulously fair… I might have slightly more choice bits in my first round but he has seconds way more than I do, so I reckon it balances out.

Some things are definitely chefs privilege though - the cheesy scrapings from the pasta bake dish or the bits of crispy roast potato at the bottom of the pan. And quite a bit of the crispy roast chicken skin tends to just fall off on the way to the plate and then I have to eat it…

I'm even more aghast at people wasting the best bits on the dc than their dh. Dc probably don't even appreciate it. Mine would probably eat their roast off the floor and barely care about roast potatoes let alone how crispy they might be

Yes to a certain extent But dd is fussy so we both get some of the best bits. Dh couldn’t care less and rarely notices.

I do the same. I cook so I get most of the good bits

Chefs perks. I always give myself the best bits! Why wouldn’t I? DH doesn’t give a shite about the crispiest potatoes but I do (which is why I cook them that way!) so I get them.

Kids get what they get, they couldn’t give a toss.

Both me and Husband always served the best bits to the children . Maybe because my Mother was of the generation where Men and Boys were served the best and I did not think my lousy Brother deserved it .
However I would always serve myself last . It would just seem greedy to take the best to myself .

I always give DH and DC the best bits. I love that they love my cooking! 🥰

When they spend their time and effort making a particularly nice meal , then they get chefs perks .

Till then , I get the crispiest roasties , the best Yorkshire puddings, and the chicken skin . Oh and when the beef is nearly done , I put a slice of bread in there to soak up the juices and get crispy at the same time. Like a gigantic umami flavoured crouton. Which I will deny utterly if challenged .

I always give others the best bits. It never entered my head not to. It feels selfish and greedy to keep the best for myself.

I give the "best" bits away. But in my case is usually because I like the worst bits better.
For example if we are having a roast chicken. I much prefer the wings and picking the meat from the carcass (oysters) I find this the juiciest, much to the horror of my partner that prefers the breast.
I prefer the middle bit of the lasagne or the brownies, but my partner prefers the crispy bits.

Oh and when the beef is nearly done , I put a slice of bread in there to soak up the juices and get crispy at the same time. Like a gigantic umami flavoured crouton. Which I will deny utterly if challenged .
Does it actually go crispy? Like a beefy flavoured fried bread just a big soggy, slightly greasy piece? If so I'm wondering why it's taken 41 years to learn of this!