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To think this is just ridiculous?

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findingsgone · 23/06/2021 19:59

A child at the local primary school has a sibling a few years below.

Found out from the mum today that because she was born in December, they celebrate her birthday twice. Presents and party in July and then a normal birthday with family in December. She sends out birthday invites saying 'Please come to my 7th birthday party!' The child isn't 7 until December.

AIBU to think this is entitled and ridiculous?

OP posts:
Ponoka7 · 23/06/2021 22:50

Half Birthdays and Christmas in July, both things some people do. My Birthday is sometimes on Mother's day, so I have a celebration with the family and one later on for me. I don't see why anyone would have anything to say about other people's celebrations.

Whysolong7 · 23/06/2021 22:56

It’s a great idea,

I think it’s better to bill it as a birthday party rather than making out it’s the birthday itself but wants the problem? You’re not being asked to buy two presents what does it matter to you how close the party falls to her actual birthday?

HalzTangz · 23/06/2021 23:16

@findingsgone

A child at the local primary school has a sibling a few years below.

Found out from the mum today that because she was born in December, they celebrate her birthday twice. Presents and party in July and then a normal birthday with family in December. She sends out birthday invites saying 'Please come to my 7th birthday party!' The child isn't 7 until December.

AIBU to think this is entitled and ridiculous?

Depends when in December. My friend's son was born on Xmas Eve and has a July birthday where the attention is on him. Prior to July birthdays, On his actual birthday all people did was be a cheap skate, giving him one gift and telling her it was joint birthday and Christmas gift
withgraceinmyheart · 23/06/2021 23:19

YABU. We do this for my kid and it’s so much better than trying to squeeze a party in Christmas hols when no wants to come to one. I honestly can’t see what’s entitled about it?

londonscalling · 24/06/2021 04:38

I've always thought of doing this as my dd's birthday is at Christmas and it's always difficult to get their friends along to parties as they go away etc.

Remoulade · 24/06/2021 05:08

It's not entitled, what an odd thing to say.

Why should a Christmas baby not also get to celebrate their birthdays with their friends and get gifts?
I wouldn't have time for birthday parties in December as it's usually back to back Christmas parties from late November around here.

Eatingsoupwithafork · 24/06/2021 05:43

I don’t know actually, I think it’s a good idea. One of my siblings were born very close to xmas and I feel like their birthday is never celebrated quite the same as those whose birthday is not near xmas.

Saoirse82 · 24/06/2021 05:50

YABU. My due date is 20th November and if it was a few weeks later I'd be doing the same thing as this mum. I think its a great idea and I don't think its that uncommon either. All children deserve a special day and especially as this child was born on Xmas eve then that wouldn't be special and nobody would come to her party. You're being mean OP. Why would this be entitled?

IDontReadEyebrows · 24/06/2021 07:21

Not entitled at all, why are you such a misery bum? It means the child gets a birthday party that more children can attend (weekends in December get booked up with family stuff in my experience and the month itself just flies by) and doesn’t have an influx of loads of presents right before or after Christmas. Win win.

HoppingPavlova · 24/06/2021 07:55

Amazing how this is hard for you to understand and no idea why you believe it’s entitled.

A child born on 24/25/26 for example has no chance of a party with their friends. It’s one thing for mum, dad, granny to make time to sing happy birthday and have a little cake but would you take your child to their friends birthday party on 36th December or indeed likely anytime between Xmas and NY? Of course not, you would advise a polite decline.

I have a young family member (not one of my own) , who was born on 24th. They get wished happy birthday by mum and dad, a phone call from grandparents, a small token gift from mum/dad and a small token cake or cupcake. Their Xmas gifts the next day from everyone are Xmas gifts, they are not bday gifts. Then in July they get birthday gifts from parents and relatives and have a party with school friends. No idea how this is ‘entitled’? The only difference to the situation you describe is they work behind, not in advance. So if they turned 7 in December they would have their 7th birthday in July.

NeverTrustaRabbit · 24/06/2021 10:48

I used to throw my nephew a happy half birthday in June (my SIL was totally ok with this) as his birthday falls between Christmas Day and New Year.

We'd go somewhere special and then either have a party with a few friends and padding pools/water fights etc. No presents required just a chance to have a bit of fun with friends.

His parents would do a family celebration for his actually birthday .....it worked well. My new partners sister does something similar for her child born on Xmas Eve.

DifficultPifcultLemonDifficult · 24/06/2021 10:55

Entitled?

Someone is trying to make sure their child has a party and a bit of fuss that isn't lost in the midst of Christmas.

It sounds lovely but you sound miserable, are your judgy pants giving you a wedgy or something?

I'm not sure many people could bring themselves to complain at a a child being happy for an extra day a year.

Posieandpip · 24/06/2021 11:45

YABU. It's not entitled at all. I say this as someone with a December birthday, which im guessing youre not.

dorathyparker · 24/06/2021 21:35

completely OTT.. bdays are overrated..

BigfatJ · 25/06/2021 09:31

completely OTT.. bdays are overrated..
Well yeah from an adult perspective...a 7 year old isn’t likely to agree

44PumpLane · 25/06/2021 09:38

YABU provided they aren't expecting gifts twice.

I have end of Nov twins and it's a rubbish time of year for parties, people are always busy with Christmas parties, everything is decorated for Christmas, it's the run up to the busiest time of year at work for me and to be honest it makes gifts quite hard for Christmas with 2 of the same sex at the same age to buy for when you don't want a house bursting with crap!

We didn't do anything for their 3rd birthday other than a bit of family fuss, intending to do "Very Merry Unbirthday" end of May last year (covid kaiboshed that) and same again for their 4th!

So for their 5th we will be having a big indoor thing for all their friends and then just have a summer party in summer, and in future years have family birthday and friends half birthday.

No expectation of gifts ever but spread about the joy a bit!

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