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To think this is just ridiculous?

116 replies

findingsgone · 23/06/2021 19:59

A child at the local primary school has a sibling a few years below.

Found out from the mum today that because she was born in December, they celebrate her birthday twice. Presents and party in July and then a normal birthday with family in December. She sends out birthday invites saying 'Please come to my 7th birthday party!' The child isn't 7 until December.

AIBU to think this is entitled and ridiculous?

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LindaEllen · 23/06/2021 20:38

My brothers best friend from primary school was born on Christmas Day so had his birthday on June 25th - so he could have a bouncy castle party or something outdoors. He's dropped that as he got older. I can see why they do it, as everyone's focus is on Christmas at that time of year and the child wouldn't have a truly special day to themselves.

Smidge001 · 23/06/2021 20:39

I think it's really quite common for people to do this, for all the obvious reasons already described.
I think YABVU to get on your high horse about it.

Thislittlefinger123 · 23/06/2021 20:39

It's not entitled but it is very very weird!

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findingsgone · 23/06/2021 20:39

@NotQuiteUsual

I think it's bloody mental and I say that as a parent of a Christmas Eve baby. I don't think it's that hard to make a young childs birthday special enough when it's on top of Christmas. Maybe as they get older and want more of their friends around I can see the use in it. But not at that age.

The DC was born on Christmas Eve too. Also premature so I suppose they want things that bit more special

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Tequilamockinbird · 23/06/2021 20:43

My DD went to school with a little girl who was born on Christmas Day. The parents celebrated her 1/2 birthdays in June with parties for friends. invites always said it was eg 5 1/2, 6 1/2 etc

I thought it was a good idea actually.

earthyfire · 23/06/2021 20:43

Sounds a great idea, my birthday is in December and it is dire! I've never had a joint Christmas/birthday present or presents wrapped in Christmas paper so I've been lucky there I suppose.

NotQuiteUsual · 23/06/2021 20:44

@findingsgone I mean me and DS both nearly died, but I don't think that means we need to celebrate his loveliness twice! I don't have the energy or money for that! Honestly with a bit of effort and planning I have my other kids and nephews all very openly jealous of his amazing Birthday. There's always a lot of great things on for kids on and my son genuinely believes the excited buzz in the air on Christmas eve is just everyone being excited for him!

I do think it will change when his focus is more on his peers than family though. So I'm enjoying it for now.

DroopyClematis · 23/06/2021 20:46

Bonkers and a bit too precious.

NotQuiteUsual · 23/06/2021 20:46

I just realized I sound a bit grumpy about their celebration choices in my last post. I mean it's not what I do, but I get it. There's a big pressure with a Christmas baby, to keep their birthday special. It's easy to get swept up in.

Travis1 · 23/06/2021 20:49

Good on them. YABU. If your child’s invited and you don’t like it then don’t go.

Vallmo47 · 23/06/2021 20:50

As long as they’re not also expecting kid to get presents from friends on their actual birthday, why does it matter? I have a son born in mid December and it’s absolutely rubbish. He just wants a garden party with a bouncy castle like other friends get with birthdays in other months. Really - what harm is it causing??

NumberTheory · 23/06/2021 20:53

When the kid is 1 or 2 and doesn’t even know what a birthday is, this would be ridiculous. At 7 when they want parties like their friends have, it’s a great idea.

BathshebaKnickerStickers · 23/06/2021 20:54

Our neighbours daughter was born on Christmas Day and they always celebrated it on June 25 but everyone knew it was a half birthday. Nothing was expected (except from close family))) on Christmas day

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findingsgone · 23/06/2021 20:55

@Vallmo47

As long as they’re not also expecting kid to get presents from friends on their actual birthday, why does it matter? I have a son born in mid December and it’s absolutely rubbish. He just wants a garden party with a bouncy castle like other friends get with birthdays in other months. Really - what harm is it causing??

So why don't you personally do a birthday for him in the Summer too?

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Elsielouise13 · 23/06/2021 20:55

We buy summer birthday presents for a December birthday born. Is rubbish getting outside toys as presents in December.

SaltAndVinegarSandwiches · 23/06/2021 20:57

It's definitely weird but why on earth do you think it's entitled? They're not doing two parties for friends they're just shifting it by half a year. It's odd but it doesn't impact anyone so no idea why you'd be bothered by it.

HeronLanyon · 23/06/2021 20:58

Fine to have a ‘make it up’ birthday but not at all fine to say you’re 7 early. The extra summer event/party or whatever has to be after the December birthday each year NOT before.

SorryPardonWhat · 23/06/2021 21:00

No it's really quite sane, my sister does similar.

AJ1425 · 23/06/2021 21:00

I have a Christmas day baby and we celebrate the week before and people just dont seem to get the concept or why I do it. Of course, all their children get their own special day and fuss made of them...
I think its a good idea.

Macncheeseballs · 23/06/2021 21:09

Yeah weird

Whatalottachocca · 23/06/2021 21:11

I think it’s a brilliant idea and would definitely do this if my child had a Christmas birthday.

OnTheBoardwalk · 23/06/2021 21:17

I had a friend who was born Boxing Day. Most people would just get her one bog standard present for both Christmas and her Birthday. Also no one wanted to go to a birthday party and eat cake on BD

She celebrated in June instead, we never thought it was strange

BillyIsMyBunny · 23/06/2021 21:19

It’s unusual in that most people don’t do this but actually I think it’s a really good idea. My birthday is very close to Christmas and I always hated it and I especially hated that I could never have an outdoor party or when I was older go to places like theme parks (the local ones all closed over winter) for a birthday day out.

Babyroobs · 23/06/2021 21:20

I think it's a bit odd. I have a december born child and it would never occur to me to do this !!

PiuVinoPerFavore · 23/06/2021 21:20

@findingsgone if the child is only having one celebration with friends... why does it bother you if they hold a separate one with family? I think it's fairly normal to hold a friends party and maybe see grandparents on a separate celebration? I guess different that they're 6 months apart but no more celebrating and even if it was, so what?