Trigger warning: To think most women have experienced sexual assault?

[Pattypans]

Name changed, regular lurker and poster.

I am a mum of 2, married for 15 years and a month back, while in quarantine returning home - I was sexually assaulted by a staff member of the hotel.

I was alone traveling back from seeing my sickly parents and I just never thought I was “at risk”.

As a child I was sexually abused and told my parents who did not try to protect me from my abuser. He remained in our life in the same way. I was raped as a teen with my mom in the next room and and in my early twenties had my drink spiked and was raped again. Since then I steadily gained weight and in many ways felt like my weight protected me.

My AIBU is I’ve come to realize most of my friends and most of the women I’ve spoken to over the years - they all seem to have their own story.

So AIBU -

NO - means you haven’t been sexually assaulted or abused.

YES - means you have been sexually assaulted or abused.

I am in trauma counseling, involved police, been for STD checks and other help.

I don’t know any woman that hasn’t been sexually assaulted in some way. It’s just the varying degrees that we minimize it to make it tolerable and explain it away that make the difference. In the meantime, if you want to educate young boys and men… here’s a start:
www.boredpanda.com/man-advocates-woman-rights-equality-healthy-masculinity/?utm_source=google&utm_medium=organic&utm_campaign=organic

I’m mid 40s now but in the past i have been very inappropriately touched by my GP & once by another older man in a position of trust. Both when I was in my 20s/30s and alone. Both were much older than me, probably in their 50s at the time.
I’ve been leered at and had my bum grabbed as a younger woman more times than I could count. In the street, pubs, clubs mainly.

Boyfriend-wise though I’ve never had anything other than proper gentlemen. For which I’m thankful.

So sorry to those who have suffered serious sexual abuse

I think most of the posters who said yes, have given clear cut descriptions of what happened and how they categorized it. To add a little gray ...

In my teens I lived in Cork Ireland and there was a local GP that had a "bad reputation". His nickname was "stripper". Most of friends also went to him (there was little choice). And looking back his exams were certainly intrusive, but I certainly knew no better at that time. Given that his reputation was public, it's amazing he had a business.