Does anyone here actually like their husband?

[Womendohavevaginasnick]

Yes=yabu
No=yanbu

Seems to me there's so much husband bashing going on on here, makes me wonder why some people are even together!

@Womendohavevaginasnick YABVVVU. Yeah there are husband-bashing threads, but here are a few dozen a month, out of 1000s and 1000s of threads. Also most people only post to complain and not to post positive stuff. So if there are 30 husband bashing threads a month, there are probably several thousand people reading them who are happy with their husband.

Imagine if people posted 'my lovely hubby is so wonderful and we are soooooo happy.' People would rip the shit out of them, and say 'smug much' and 'stealth brag?' And that would just be the nice comments!

And although my husband occasionally infuriates and annoys me, I annoy him too. We're none of us perfect, and we can all be annoying sometimes. And 95% of the time, we get on great, and enjoy each other's company!

I do love him, and I do like him, and I do enjoy his company, and I would hate life without him.

*YABVVVU. Yeah there are husband-bashing threads, but THERE are a few dozen a month, out of 1000s and 1000s of threads

Oh and colour me shocked. The OP @Womendohavevaginasnick has posted the first (goady) post, 3 hours ago, and has not returned to the thread since.

Sometimes I don't like him, but I ALWAYS love him and can't imagine my life without him

Today no. Selfish arse. Maybe i'll change my mind tomorrow. Chances are i'll still think he's an arse.

Marriage and parenthood is a gamble. No-one knows future circumstances, or how each partner will react to them. Don't judge those of us who got a dud (i know my husband thinks he got sold a lemonad!)

Anyone who’s generally happy with their dh is hardly likely to put a smug post about it on here.

I don’t suppose I’m the only one, but all the posts about dickhead/arsehole/useless husbands do make me appreciate my dh more than I usually do - and make me think twice before moaning about any irritating habits e.g. his explosive sneezing.

I love mine but he is an equal partner and I wouldn't settle for anything else. Some women have low standards, I don't know if that's what they witnessed growing up, societal expectations or whatever else.

I love, admire and like my DH. He's fab, really. Great cook, excellent company and we rub along really well together. We give each other space and respect that need. We have fun together and laugh a lot. He has a really quick mind and is endlessly learning things. He's very easy on the eye. I'm proud of him, which is a weird thing to say, but it's true.

40 years together and I still fancy the pants off of him. I got very lucky!

I agree OP, reading most threads here you'd wonder why they ever got married.

No, I don't love him, I don't even like him really.

I do love my boyfriend though. He's very lovely.

YABU. Tbh it's completely obvious why it feels on MN as though everyone hates their husband. People go on the Relationships board for help and advice. Nobody's going to post a thread saying "Help! My husband's really great, our sex life is brilliant and he's an awesome father tomy children! What do I do?!"

No, not really.

We have nothing to say to eachother, he is moody, ungrateful and does little to nothing to help me in the house. It's like having an over grown ungrateful child who doesn't appreciate or respect you and expects the world to revolve round them. So no. But I fully accept the blame for choosing so badly. We don't even sit in the same room to watch TV and I pray every day that he just leaves me. I left before and stupidly took him back as he promised everything would be different. I cant uproot my kids again so will live with the consequences of my own poor decision making.

Absolutely! He’s my favourite person.

Yes he's my best friend and also very kind and very patient. He is the quieter one out of use whereas I'm more outgoing and impulsive. I find we balance each other well and sometimes I need his level head 🤣 25 years this year. 3dds and 1 dgs. We've been through so so much both happy and also super sad x

Yes he’s my best friend. But I suppose nobody is going to post gushing posts about their DH but if he’s annoyed them people will ask for advice.

I love him dearly but he drives me mad at times as I do him but after 31 years together I am very happy with my choice.

At times he can annoy the bejaysus out of me - which isn't surprising after over 30 years together - but of course I like him. I love him very much too

Yes, very much. He's easy to like.

That doesn't mean I don't wish there was a handy erupting volcano around to chuck him in some days.

Yes. Love him, like him and actually quite respect him! Think those feelings are mutual! I couldn't stay otherwise. Would rather be on my own.

Not really but it’s too complicated to leave.

Covid and him wfh has taken its toll for sure.

Yeah, he's fab. I can't imagine who else would put up with me being a twat at times, the way I am. And he's a great father to our children.

He gets on my nerves at times, but if I'd had to spend the last year and a half holed up with absolutely any other adult on the planet, I'd have put them through the cheese grater attachment on my blender long before now.

YANBU

My DH is great but in a very low key sort of way. I can't describe it.

It makes it hard to respond even to the moany threads because I see lots of things through the prism of DH and me. Like I responded to a thread about a partner staying out until 5.30am with a breezy, oh it's fine, assuming he'd been out debating politics and watching wrestling like DH would have been, having stopped drinking about 1ish to get up with the kids about 9am. A big back story unravelled and "give and take" isn't a thing for some families (with good bloody reason, I gathered, because someone men often take the piss)

My DH never lets me down and we've got each others' back. I wouldn't need to write a post about it. Lots of it is luck. I could congratulate myself on choosing so well but I really didn't. It wasn't a conscious decision.

Yup! 11 years together, 5 married!
Best friends under a little strain at the moment due to working from home, covid, new baby etc. But even then, the fact we're best friends is what's getting us through it all!