Does anyone here actually like their husband?

[Womendohavevaginasnick]

Yes=yabu
No=yanbu

Seems to me there's so much husband bashing going on on here, makes me wonder why some people are even together!

I love DH but he is a very difficult person who causes me a lot of problems. I think he has a good heart but he can be hard to live with sometimes.

As for husband bashing I don't really agree as people come on here to ask advice on relationships and they don't often come on if all is fine. MN might be a bit uncompromising about abuse and be more likely to advise you to LTB but that is because people don't often change even with counselling and abusive people are even less likely to change. That said in cases where it's a problem that isn't abuse you may well get good advice on sorting out the problem.

There are a lot of problems in my relationship at the moment. There are times when I seriously consider whether we should separate. But even when I’m mad with him, if I see or hear something funny, all I can think about is sharing it with him because I know how he’d also find it funny. So even at our worst moments, he’s still my best friend.

Found it!

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/4013448-What-small-dull-mundane-things-make-you-love-your-DP

Well obviously OP people tend to make posts about issues they're having. NO one is going to make a post saying my marriage is going well and we have no particular problems.

I like mine. I suppose I don’t have anything really to post about him though - if someone is posting on relationships or aibu then then probably have a problem with their DH. I don’t think anyone would be interested if I posted AIBU to go for a walk with my husband who I like.

I am sometimes shocked at some of the things people will put up with though. I see some aibu posts and I think how can you cope living with someone like that it must be soul destroying.

He can be a prick at times but yes I do like him as well as love him

I rather like mine, but there are a few irritating things he does. I rarely post about the good things he does, because that sounds smug and bragging when other people are complaining that their husbands don't do the same things. Sometimes I might post about the annoying things he does, because they're bloody annoying!! But the good stuff outweighs the annoying stuff most of the time

I both like and love my husband but I reserve the right to have occasional annoyances?

Generally people come onto a discussion forum to discuss something they need outside perspective on, or because they want a moan or a rant. People don’t generally come on discussion forums to make statements about how wonderful their other half is.

I think what you want is a bulletin board.

yes. I like him and I love him.
fab husband & best dad ever.

of course he can be a dick, but so can I. married for 21 years, it all comes out in the wash

I do think there is a lot of husband bashing on here. The truth is nobody is perfect and relationships go through ups and downs. Sometimes they need to be worked at and compromises reached. Everything doesn't have to be exactly 50/50 every week, but it needs to balance out over time.

There are also plenty of posters who imo like to see themselves as screen writers in other posters lives. They seem to forget its real life for the person seeking advice, not some dramatic episode of a soap.

I do, he's my absolute favourite person to spend time with.

Very much so!!

Love mine to bits. Has just moved my chair round in from the window so I can read in the sun whilst poorly. Didn't even have to ask. I get annoyed when he leaves mugs in the living room though!

Not my husband but my partner of almost 4 years. He is my absolute world.

Yes. My husband is a brilliant man. I’m v lucky. Exh was an arsehole.

Yes, I do. Cliche or not, he really is my best friend. We work as a team and have a lot of fun, too. It's like having a sleepover with my best friend every night

Mine is fabulous. Almost perfect. not quite, but almost.

@LemonJuiceFromConcentrate

I like and love DP very much anyway, but reading on here about what some women put up with makes me extra grateful for how lovely he is.

My views on him are far too soppy for MN though and it would seem smug, so generally I don’t post about him. I imagine it’s the same with the rest of the husband-likers.

Exactly this.

Mine is my favourite person to talk to. He is not always my favourite person to live with. I think if we had staff I could be happy without reservation, as it is there's a lot of resentment as I am left in charge of so much.

That's a bit dumb, you're hardly likely to come on a parenting forum asking for advice about how happy you are with your dh

40 years later and still going strong. We/ he must be doing something right

@Womendohavevaginasnick

Yes=yabu No=yanbu

Seems to me there's so much husband bashing going on on here, makes me wonder why some people are even together!

The 'husband bashers' are a self-selecting sample. Logically, is anyone going to start a thread on how everything is hunky dory? No, they start a thread to vent. Ditto 'MIL bashers', complaints about employers, neighbours etc.

Many people come on here for help with bad relationships so obviously you will see an above average number of women complaining about male partners (usually M:F I mean) - and sometimes MN has sown me how a relationship should be, opened my eyes. How come this isn’t obvious to others?

I love him and he is a really good guy, bit he makes my life more difficult than jt needs to be, and he is extremely lazy when it comes to any house work, looking after the kids or any DIY. He's also a terrible wind up merchant, but he can't really help his problems, it all stems from his upbringing which wasn't good. He could have turned put a lot lot worse. His siblings did.