Does anyone here actually like their husband?

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Yes=yabu
No=yanbu

Seems to me there's so much husband bashing going on on here, makes me wonder why some people are even together!

I'm shocked at how bad at parenting DH is.

I adore mine but if you’d asked me a year ago the answer would have been very different. Marriages go through good times and rough patches, some people appear not to weather the rough bits very well.

Thankfully, I don't have one anymore.

Mine is lovely. Sometimes he irritates the hell out of me but I'm probably hard work at times so it evens out.

He's a decent man, amazing dad and really good at DIY. What's not to love?

I wouldn't put up with the lack of respect and shitty treatment I read about so much on here though.

Just because I love my DH does not mean I can overlook the stupid or immensely annoying shit he does.

I moan about his noisy sleeping habits, his performance sneezing, his "I'm so poorly" shuffling if he so much as contracts a pimple, the fact 99 out of 100 cups of tea he has ever made taste like absolute crap and he's got a memory like a broken sieve with a side order of occasional ignorant bugger but yes, I still love him.

I don't usually put the nice bits on here as I don't want anyone rolling their eyes and getting the urge to puke if they read my post.

But...here are a few...

He walked to some quite distant shops on his only day off for me today to search for several things I have had a hard time getting and went all over the place till he found them before buying enough to last me a while.

He is making me a sandwich as we speak.

We were watching videos about conspiracy whack jobs and he was cracking jokes to make me laugh earlier.

He would clean up anything gross if I was ill and say, "never mind, it's only whatever".

He offers to sleep in an uncomfortable chair so that I can a good night's sleep without disturbance if I have had a few rough nights.

Most reviews are negative on Trust Pilot, for instance. That's because people like to moan and warn others while doing it. Positive moaning isn't really a thing. Mumsnet should sometimes be renamed myblokereview.co.uk and I think similar patterns apply to those seen in other online reviews.

Loving someone does not mean they never piss you off and people come here to vent about it often. It doesn't mean they are saying everything about their partner sucks.

That's enough waffling from me.

Yes, I like my husband (and even my MIL) and I've passed the 10 year mark on more than one occasion

You only have to look at the snark on this thread to see why people don't start positive threads, unfortunately.

Mine's a pain but not that bad that I have to leave. He has some good points I suppose. I just pick and choose the amount of time I spend with him.

Yes; mine is lovely.

@maddiemookins16mum

It’s MN, thousands of women on here HATE all men, husbands included.

Oh, here we go. It's not as if women don't have good reason to be upset, yknow.

I do, though I have incredibly high standards and waited a long time to make sure he was one of the few good ones. Unfortunately so many women are willing to run away with the first man who gives them a bit of attention whereas it should be one red flag and he's in the bin.

My view is that 95% of men are utter pricks and you're damned lucky if you manage to snag one of the 5%.

I love my dh, he is honestly my favourite person but of course he does things that piss me off and I’m sure I do the same.

That said, I don’t judge anyone for having a bit of a moan on a site like this, and I certainly don’t think that defending and supporting women who are actually being abused in their marriage makes one a ‘husband hater’.

Many posts on MN are endless litanies of dislike, discontent, dissatisfaction and hatred of husbands.

Well to those people- you married him, and no one forced you to.

I'm not sure what the point of this thread is? I assume you're referring to the many threads on here started by women whose husbands are not treating them as they deserve to be treated.

Would you prefer silently accept poor treatment, abuse or neglect? If you think its "husband bashing" to seek help when our significant other isn't treating you well I would suggest you might need to raise your standards a bit.

If you expect people to show up and tell others why their husband is wonderful I would suggest that they (largely) don't do that because a) its not very interesting for other people to read b) there's absolutely no point telling strangers on the internet you love the person you're married to and c) its a bit smug and tactless to do so on a talkboard which is in large part designed to provide an advice forum.

I like mine but he’s not a porn obsessed man-child like people sadly post about so often on here.
Even just in my group of friends, it seems like mine is a rare gem.

Yes my Hubby is great but my in-laws are awful.

I like my husband!!! And love him more than words can even describe. 11 years together, and he's my best friend. We'd spend every second together if we could. He recently asked me to work with him because he misses us working together but I wouldn't want to do his job. He's an angel honestly don't think there's a better guy in the world lol.

Yeah I like dh and sometimes instead of saying I love you we say I like you. We are friends as well and enjoy hanging out together.
I moan about him occasionally we annoy each other sometimes but that’s normal.

He’s cooking steak and onions ( nuggets for the kids) I’m sat at the table with a glass of wine. What’s not to like?

I like my DH a lot. My absolute best friend.

His is the only company I never tire of.
Plus he's bloody lovely and IMO super hot.

My DM can't stand my DF however and I'd never put up with that life.

I've been very lucky. My DH is a gentleman and we are best friends. However my own mother (like so many other women) was not so lucky and married an alcoholic brute.
I would not judge any woman for ranting here. When MN becomes a space that does not support women in abusive relationships then I will leave.

Husband review. Excellent. Would marry again !

Most of the time I do. Not always.

Yes, I love my husband. He is my soulmate and best friend. I wouldn’t mention it on mumsnet though because it sounds incredibly smug, especially when so many women come here as a safe space to share their relationship problems.

Imagine women starting a thread, “I think I made the right choice by marrying my husband, he does 50% of the childcare and housework, is emotionally available, he always puts my feelings first, we share all our hobbies and have fantastic quality time together each week, he doesn’t use porn, he’s physically affectionate, our sex drives are perfectly in sync, he’s great at dealing with the in-laws and doesn’t leave it to me, he sorts the World Book Day costume without asking, he always makes me feel special on my birthday and mother’s day……” etc etc etc!!!!!!

You can assume that all the women who aren’t posting these types of threads aren’t having these problems. But as we know, men can change. It’s no special achievement to have a fantastic relationship and lovey husband, it’s often just sheer luck. So we count our lucky stars and keep quiet.

Yes I both love and like mine very much. Thats not to say we both don't get on each other's tits every now and then but he really is my best friend and he makes me laugh every day. We're a team and he makes me feel loved and secure. I feel incredibly lucky.

I love him very much, he's my best mate, my partner, my lover and my life is dramatically improved by his presence in it. He knows me inside out.

Of course being as close as we are means he is uniquely positioned in being able to find my last nerve and dance on it.