Is my friend being a cf

[bagpuss90]

I got a text from a friend saying she had decided to take a break from WhatsApp but would still be texting me. Okay no problem with that - except she sends me several pictures messages a day- pics of her dogs , jokes etc. I get charged for picture messages sent via text. Over the last few days it’s cost me around 3 quid a day. I’ve politely pointed this out . But the response I’ve got is that we don’t ever really meet up now due to the distance and it’s not much to invest in a friendship . I’ve not had a great year financially - trying to plan for semi retirement which has now been delayed. At this rate it’ll be costing about 100 quid a month , which to my mind is a total waste of much needed cash. She does have a history of depression. The last thing I want to do is upset her and she is very sensitive . I don’t want to block her. I’m happy to text and chat - but bloody hell

Who on earth thinks OP, is being unreasonable ?

Just Block the selfish person.

If your friend prefers a more private service, you could try Signal? I believe it has military grade encryption and it's free.

Apart from that, you are both entitled to make choices. She left WA because it wasn't working for her. The current situation isn't working for you. It's OK for you to communicate that. Signal could perhaps work for you both?

Do you reply to her messages using emojis
Op? If she has an android and you respond by sending emojis then that will be what you're being charged for. I get charged 35p per emoji to an android phone, but if I send these to an iPhone through iMessage then I don't get charged.

There's no charge to receive MMS in the UK but carry on flapping about it.

@BathwaterBaby, depends on your package. I had one that charged. You don't know everything.

[quote FayCarew]@BathwaterBaby, depends on your package. I had one that charged. You don't know everything.[/quote]
In the 1990s? It would be vanishingly rare if not impossible to have one that charges to receive messages nowadays

@GoldenBlue, no in 2021. It depends on the package.

Just because it doesn't happen to you doesn't mean it doesn't happen.

Example

[quote FayCarew]@GoldenBlue, no in 2021. It depends on the package.

Just because it doesn't happen to you doesn't mean it doesn't happen.

Example[/quote]
Thanks for the example the cost described there is to send SMS messages not to receive. Unless i'm miss reading it but I don't think I am

@GoldenBlue, it doesn't say whether or not it is delivered or sent. I don't know why you are arguing about it. I had a phone that didn't take photos and I got charged when I received them. I still have the phone but am now on a different tariff.

That's not the provider I was with, it is an example.

As I said, Just because it doesn't happen to you doesn't mean it doesn't happen.

as it stands you have 2 choice: pay or block

I'd block

actually 3rd choice: use WhatsApp between the two of you.

Friendship is a 2 way thing so if she can demand you message a certain way, you can just equally insist on the opposite.

I wouldn’t consider someone a friend who heard my they were contributing to my financial problems and then just replied with an ultimatum of sorts

Email?

I don't understand why are you sending her pictures for then, just text her and it won't cost. Only costs to send not receive.

@hellogem

I don't understand why are you sending her pictures for then, just text her and it won't cost. Only costs to send not receive.

OP isn't sending the photos..

OP's phone charges HER to open the 'received' photos .. I think it is perhaps an older phone.