AIBU to think there are right & wrong times for birthdays?

[BramStoker]

Light hearted - I obviously realise that individuals have zero control over their date of birth!

BUT hear me out

Jan - mid Feb WRONG (too soon after xmas, we're all too skint and knackered)

Late Feb - mid June RIGHT (birthday season #2)

Mid June - end of first week in Sept WRONG (summer holiday season, birthdays are superfluous)

7th Sept - 20th Dec RIGHT (birthday season #1 AKA the best time to have a birthday)

21st-31st Dec WRONG (gets lost amongst all the Xmas shit)

AIBU?

DH and I both have second week of January birthdays and celebrate together with a holiday somewhere in Europe. We’ve decided to make the best of the situation.

My daughter loves having her birthday on December 24th. She thinks it's really special. We have to put Christmas decorations on her cake and she thinks it's brilliant she ends up with twice as many presents as her siblings at Christmas time.

I only really like March-May, you want the weather but June-Aug ends up clashing with revision, exams, school hols when young.

End sep-oct could be good. A friend is the 2/09 & hates it.

Mid to late August is a terrible birthday for DC.

You invite friends before school breaks up, but they have often forgotten 6 weeks later and don't turn up to the party. OK of you have all their parents numbers, but thats not always the case.

I'm a late August birthday and I think it's great. The weather is always good, it's near the bank holiday weekend so people are always up for doing things. Never cared about being the youngest in the year, I actually quite liked it.

I'd much rather have an August birthday than a Jan/Feb/March one when it's freezing. December doesn't sound great either as Christmas overshadows it.

I’m expecting a baby in January and feeling pretty guilty about it now 😬

Best months: May, June, September, October
Ok: February, March, April, November, July
Best avoided: December, January, August

May-June is exam period and rubbish for birthdays.

Yanbu, when we were ttc ds2 I calculated the dates and decided to use protection when the dates coincided with curricula
Christmas/ early Jan and start ttc again when the due date would be early Feb.
I then conceived on the first try and he was premature
All the best laid plans and all that!

I'm 4th June and love being a summer baby!

May-June is exam period and rubbish for birthdays

Have they moved? I have an early May birthday & never had an exam in May.

June yes.

@MissChanandlerBong90

I’m expecting a baby in January and feeling pretty guilty about it now 😬

I feel the same about mine due in Dec!

I was due an October baby which would have been right but had a miscarriage.

Felt pretty fortunate to catch again so quickly but obviously baby is going to hate us now for giving them a shit birthday

You’re wrong, summer holiday birthdays are great.

And I hate the MN obsession with August birthdays being the worst thing ever. I’m afraid that if your child is a bit thick they’re still going to be a bit thick even if you hold them back a year.

Summer birthday FTW! I love my July birthday, nicely in the middle of the year, often good weather, and last year the bars reopened the week before! I'm the only member of my family who didn't have a lockdown birthday last year 🥳

I have a birthday extremely close to Christmas and whilst it is true I have had some naff birthdays due to the time of year, I have also had some great birthdays. Mum always put the Christmas tree up on my birthday which I loved and I enjoy birthday presents wrapped in Christmas paper it amuses me. I have a friend who buys me Christmas socks on my birthday as an ironic thing which is also funny.

@awaketoosoon

May-June is exam period and rubbish for birthdays

Have they moved? I have an early May birthday & never had an exam in May.

June yes.

Depends which country you're living in.

I'm in England

@JemimaTiggywinkle

You’re wrong, summer holiday birthdays are great.

And I hate the MN obsession with August birthdays being the worst thing ever. I’m afraid that if your child is a bit thick they’re still going to be a bit thick even if you hold them back a year.

Agree, my birthday is August and I've never heard how terrible it is until I came onto Mumsnet. Never met anyone who cares in real life and I never cared either!

But according to you, September 6th is perfect, which it isn't because it's ALWAYS either the first day of term or the day before the 1st, or the day after, and that's shit. Nobody wants their birthday on the very first day of secondary school.

My brother is an August baby, never any issues of being behind. He just didn't like the fact that most friends when younger were away, now we all have dc it's the same thing again.

@ShinyMe that's why my friend hates her early sept birthday.

Tbf everyone can probably find a downside to a month. I really like May personally as it also breaks up the wait for presents (highly important 😆) but a few yrs in my 20s I couldn't celebrate as I wanted as everyone was getting married in May.

@BonnyEm oh no!! Baby had other plans 😂

Disagree on summer birthdays, I think that’d be a great time to have one. You could go on a proper holiday for your birthday!

I’m an early Jan birthday and can confirm it is shit. Everyone is on diets, broke, doing Dry January or just burnt out from Christmas socialisation. When I was a student it always clashed with exams, when I was at school it was always the first week back after Christmas. Can’t really go away for it unless you can afford long haul to somewhere sunny (or you like skiing, I guess). I am v envious of my husband’s mid-Sept birthday!

Will people remember a birthday? Will someone presents or cards be different at certain times of year? Probably yes to both.

If everyone could choose, I doubt if many would have the few weeks after Christmas, as I expect people born then get more joint Christmas and birthday gifts.