AIBU to think there are right & wrong times for birthdays?

[BramStoker]

Light hearted - I obviously realise that individuals have zero control over their date of birth!

BUT hear me out

Jan - mid Feb WRONG (too soon after xmas, we're all too skint and knackered)

Late Feb - mid June RIGHT (birthday season #2)

Mid June - end of first week in Sept WRONG (summer holiday season, birthdays are superfluous)

7th Sept - 20th Dec RIGHT (birthday season #1 AKA the best time to have a birthday)

21st-31st Dec WRONG (gets lost amongst all the Xmas shit)

AIBU?

@Singlebutmarried

December is fucking shite for a birthday, you only get a fecking ‘festive’ menu when you go out, everyone’s tied up with bloody Xmas dos (this runs late Nov to mid Jan) and every restaurant is packed.

Fucking awful.

This!! My mid December birthday has always been an utter let down.

Although for my 30th my lovely friends pulled out all the stops and took me to a gorgeous Indian restaurant where there was not a cracker or a bit of tinsel in sight. It was glorious.

DS's birthday is in March and it is a crap time of year for a birthday. The weather is dull and cold which means the big birthday party with a bouncy castle that he's always wanted has never happened. No point ordering a bouncy castle when it's lashing rain. One year there was a blizzard in March and another year there was an actual hurricane. A Hurricane!

My sisters kids are August and January. Mine are May and September. It's the it thing I have done better than her in our whole lives. Thankfully it is THE most important thing so I just win.

YADDDDNBU.

@ForkedIt

In what world would the 20th December be seen as a desirable birthday?! YABVVU

This^ My birthday is near this date. Probably shouldn’t give away my birthday online but especially as a kid I really didn’t like having my birthday so close to Christmas. People give you joint birthday and Christmas presents. Often they wrap presents in Christmas paper. Also it’s hard to meet up for a party as there are Christmas parties going on.

@cleocleo16

Ds birthday is 16th December and I hate it being so close to Christmas. It makes it stressful, not helped by the fact we have 6 family birthdays in November and December anyway. I never know what to get him, he gets a pile of presents and nothing for ages and then I struggle to divvy them up.

I had a friend in school who was born on Dec 24th, she had a "delayed" birthday in the summer for this reason. Depending on your sons age, he might prefer it done that way! (although it's an extra date to remember!)

Both DH and I are in the Jan-mid Feb bracket and I agree it's a crap time. DH's is early Jan so worse than mine IMO. We can never think of things we want for our birthdays and I've always used up my ideas at Christmas! Wedding anniversary is Sept so at least a chance for a small celebration then. I envy those with May/June birthdays with potential for outdoor celebrations!

YABU!

All summer birthdays in my family. Slight downside for the June birthdays was sitting exams on their birthday. Downside for August is the potential for exam results on a big birthday. Otherwise it's a great time for a birthday. School/work is a doss, everyone's feeling happy and sociable, and you're very likely to be on holiday for your birthday. Plus it's far enough away from Christmas to spread out celebrations, gifts etc.

I have two or three birthdays because my Birthday is the end of March and it's often still snowing. Every few years it's on Mother's day, so I move it to April. I think summer birthdays are perfect, there's scope to do whatever you want. My children/GC are October-December and it's a nice time to go to Egypt/Morocco etc and a break from Christmas. Or see Christmas across Europe. Amsterdam is nice in December.

Ohhh yes I (mostly) agree with your list!!

DH is February 1st -> not bad at all

DD is April 7th -> Acceptable, but the weather is still too chilly so we can't celebrate outside

I'm October 31st -> Halloween, bad bad day to celebrate a birthday

DS is November 29th -> too close to Christmas

Dtwins are December 21st -> waaaay too close to Christmas, January would've been better. They're only turning 2 this year, but I'm worried people will just ignore their birthday because it's the holiday season and everyone is so busy

September knowing your the product of a drunken new year's eve shag is a bit grim 😂

DSs birthday is in November, it's rubbish. Mine is in late May and I didn't realise how limiting having a winter birthday is and more expensive. We've got a big back garden so if his was in early summer we'd probably just have a casual BBQ , paddling pool out for the children etc. Casual, inexpensive and caters for people to drop in and out or stay for the day. Winter if you don't have room inside you have to hire somewhere, then provide entertainment, lug stuff there and back etc.

December and January - totally crap. Far too close to Christmas and in the darkest winter. November and February - fairly crap for similar reasons. March to October fine, peaking May to July for great weather and distance from Christmas.

May / early June can be a pain in exam years. August peeps are often on hols and can't celebrate with you but overall Spring to early Autumn the best birthday season!

Ah well of course this whole theory is based on the premis that the celebration of birthdays is a Good Thing. If you disagree with that basic assumption then the whole classification gets turned on its head. My birthday is in one of the OP's allocated WRONG periods but actually I think it's perfect. The fact that everyone else is generally otherwise engaged has meant that I have managed to make it as far as my mid 50s without having more than a couple of birthday parties inflicted upon me. I would say that that's optimum birthday placement personally. Party phobes would require a reverse birthday acceptability scale.

You forgot 29 Feb is a bad birthday (as Dh reminds me every year as that’s his). Dd is 20 feb so usually half term so that works well.

Rubbish.

Jan is a perfect month - something to look forward to. Sales.

Autumn cut off - Halloween.

November cut off. Any December birthday is lost to Christmas

My birthday is in the middle of summer, and it’s great. I wouldn’t change it if I could.
My unfortunate friend’s birthday is on 4th of January, which must be one of the worst dates possible. If I were her, I would insist on celebrating it on the 4th of June.

Yanbu. My 2 kids both have crap birthdays. First child I didn't think about it as I was so excited to be TTC but second child, it's really all my fault! Sorry kids!

Everyone in my house has birthdays late June / early July so we have a whole birthday season and it's fab! 🥳🥳

The best month is October imo. Older end of school year, activities still in season if early in the month, halloween parties of later in the month, not yet Christmas. Lots of nice things in the shops. Anything you don’t get you can ask for for Christmas. Perfect!

My dd was born on Christmas Day…arrived away too late! When she’s older I think we will end up doing half birthday parties in June which would be nice at end of school term here.

Or if anyone has other suggestions please share!

Late April here and usually a bank holiday weekend which is great. My poor mum shares her December birthday with her younger (by 2 years) sister, coincidentally exactly 40 weeks to the day after St Patrick’s day....yes, granddad was Irish 😂

@Namechangenumber23

Everyone in my house has birthdays late June / early July so we have a whole birthday season and it's fab! 🥳🥳

Same here … we all got the ideal birth date memo 📝🤣 Whole family have summer birthdays 🥳 within a 16 day period . One big summer event covers all and no having to go to school on our birthday 🎂 was brilliant 🤩

Only my poor mum lucked out as she is Jan ..

YABU about 20th December. 15th November is when ideal window closes.

Would also argue from experience that people who don't like being made a fuss of are better having a birthday in summer, so depends on your perspective of ideal.