crying woman dilemma

[hullabaloo68]

This morning I opened the door to a distraught woman. After I'd managed to calm her down a bit it seems her Husband has told her their marriage is over because he is in love with me. This was a bit of a surprise because I don't actually know this man. She wants me to talk to him and tell him I'm not interested. What would you do it feels he's a bit stalkerish and I definitely don't want to be giving him any encouragement by speaking to him. I do really feel for his poor wife

[hullabaloo68]

@youOKhunn no idea didn't think to ask

[youOKhunn]

[quote hullabaloo68]@youOKhunn no idea didn't think to ask[/quote]
I know but I'm saying if it was a scam then she wouldn't have known your name. I'm assuming, but I don't know for certain, that the scams are somewhat random

[hullabaloo68]

@youOKhun sorry I see what you mean now

[BadNomad]

@Sparklesocks

And her address?

Google your own name and town. You'll be surprised at what you can find online.

[Snugglepumpkin]

Has there been someone elses car parked outside your house a lot lately?

A man once kicked in my front door late at night expecting to find his other half having a torrid affair in my house.

She was actually having a torrid affair with someone else who lived close by but parking outside my house (which I knew nothing about.)
I don't drive so there was always a space there.

It was a little awkward to say the least. (actually very frightening at the time but weird in retrospect)

[babbaloushka]

Scam or troll.

[Rangoon]

I was helping my son study for a psychology exam and this very thing was mentioned. Schizophrenia with erotomania. Apparently the person believes they are having a romantic relationship with somebody who is totally unaware of their existence. They can be very persistent - more common in women than men - and can lead to stalking.

[KangarooSally]

@hullabaloo68 she could easily know your name by looking in your mailbox and any letter that was addressed to you

[Standrewsschool]

If you work in a cafe, then she’s probably learnt your name through that. If you go somewhere regularly, it’s easy to learn people’s names.

[Mojitomumma]

Very odd

[musthavebeenlove]

Sounds like a scam (unless there’s a massive backstory). I would tell her firmly to leave you alone and call the police if she (or God forbids, the husband) shows up. Since you don’t even know them, it’s not your problem and you shouldn’t get involved in this scam/ messy marriage/ whatever this is. No good is going to come from it.

[AngelDelightUk]

Did she just go after you shut the door?

[ThumbWitchesAbroad]

Yeah, knowing your name isn't that difficult if you have listings in the phonebook (if that's even still a thing!) or if you are on the electoral roll and crying woman has access to them (can pay for this); or even if you are careless with your paperwork/envelopes and put them out in the bin/recycling with your name on.

I'd go with scam as being the most obvious option here. And yes to the ring doorbell and not answering the door to random people (assuming you can see through the door to know who they are/aren't!)

[bevelino]

This makes absolutely no sense at all.

[Whydidimarryhim]

I’m thinking along Rangoon track - either the wife is delusional or her husband is. Some people get very fixed delusional beliefs.
You’ve done the right thing reporting it.

[JSL52]

@SurelyNott

Hang on wasn’t there a thread a few weeks back about some woman messaging and calling the OP about her husband being in love with her, and she refused to believe OP didn’t even know him.

Ended up with police getting involved with crazy woman.

Seems a bit of an odd thing to keep happening!

Yes. I was just thinking that. Couldn't remember the outcome.

[expat101]

@TriteMale

If it's a random scam, how would she know the OP's name? Although I think a scam is probably less creepy tbh than the dude stalking her which is presumably the case if he knows her full name etc.

From her mail in the mailbox possibly?

Neighbours approached earlier. ?

School Parent?

some twit pointing the finger at OP ''thinking it must be her'' and it isn't..

People are so quick to give out information without establishing why. We just had this talk on our community page, where someone asked for directions to a particular person's house and was given them, rather than the house owner contacted first.

[StuffinThePuffin]

From her mail in the mailbox possibly

If OP is in the UK then her post will go through the slot in the front door, straight into her home. So you wouldn't have any joy with this idea, unless the person you're trying to scam has a window you can peer through to see the post on the floor.

[TatianaBis]

I would assume she’s mentally ill as she didn’t attempt to extort money.

She may not even have a partner.

[Thatswatshesaid]

My friend had someone break into her house and leave her a note. He was ‘in love’ with her. Knew where she lived, her name etc. She didn’t recognise him at all but he told police they were in a relationship. She hadn’t noticed being followed or anything.
Another friend had some one show up on the door step and accuse her of having an affair with her husband. She’d never heard of him. This one didn’t know names so probably just a wrong door. But these things do happen.

[LunaNorth]

A lot of troll-hunters on this thread.

Easy for the wife to find out the OP’s name. She works in a cafe! If the husband told the wife he was in love with the woman from Jim’s Cafe, all the woman has to do is turn up a few times and use her ears. Or ask someone.

[LunaNorth]

@StuffinThePuffin

From her mail in the mailbox possibly

If OP is in the UK then her post will go through the slot in the front door, straight into her home. So you wouldn't have any joy with this idea, unless the person you're trying to scam has a window you can peer through to see the post on the floor.

I live in the UK and I used to have a mailbox.

[StuffinThePuffin]

That's such a surprise to me! I'm originally from the uk and I never knew anyone who had a mailbox outside their house. I only encountered them once I left.

You live and learn