Anyone else’s DH this disgusting or just mine.

[LunaMuffinTop]

My DH and I have 2 dogs and the youngest was sick the other night DH used a sponge to clean it up I have just gone into the kitchen and noticed a sponge in the washing up bowl I text my DH to ask about it hoping that it wouldn’t be the same one that he used the other night and got told that yes it is the one that he used the other night to clean up the sick and he has been using it to wash the dishes he apparently cleaned it before he used it. I have no words is anyone else’s DH that bloody lazy and disgusting or is it just mine. most definitely not envy.

Not now as I have taught him how to appropriately clean up shit like this. It's taken approx 15 years mind you, when we first met he had terrible cleanliness issues. Unfortunately his parents live in a very untidy and dirty way and so I have had to teach him an alternative way that thankfully he has seen is better for all of us. If he hadn't 'converted' then it would be a massive bone of contention for our relationship as things like this are non-negotiable for me,

@Namechangeme1 I’m glad it gave you a laugh. Oh god I’m sorry that just sounds like my DH he would do the same thing I would love to know where the get this stuff from.

@billy1966 I’ve been with him nearly 4 years I thought I had taught him enough to know better than to use a dirty sponge to wash the dishes but apparently not.

@EnfieldRes I know it’s a new lever of disgusting for my DH I never thought he would do something like that.

@TheLovelinessOfDemons I wish mine would do that.

@dizzydizzydizzy 🤢 that’s rank why the hell would anyone do that.

@randomkey123 wow really he sounds like the only person who thinks he’s been helpful my DH will just take the mess from one area and put it somewhere else and then tells me he’s cleaned 🙄🤦🏻‍♀️

@Daphnise your probably right and I’m now seriously thinking about getting a dish washer and all new plates.

@notanothertakeaway I know it’s the first time I think he’s truly shocked me with his idea of washing dishes not sure I want him to wash anymore plates.

@Fleetw00d I now wish he hadn’t helped to clean it up and had just left it to me to deal with.

@seepingweeping starting to think the same thing about my DH.

@AmIPeriOrAreYouJustAnnoying for the first time in nearly 4 years I’m seriously thinking about it this has to be one of the worst things he’s done.

@Rosebel at this stage I wouldn’t put it past my DH to do the same thing.

@Daphnise

I should imagine at least 80% of men would find this quite OK!

And the women who insist their DHs would never do it- well I'm afraid you just don't know who many vomit sponge/brushed dishes you have eaten from, and obviously survived....

I know for sure my husband wouldn't do this. I've seen him clean plenty of dog and kid sick up over the years and not once has he grabbed the washing up sponge, he gets a rag from under the sink, hot water and soap/disinfectant to clean carpet/sofa and dirty rag goes straight into bin and soiled clothes/bedding straight into the wash.

My Fiance would not but his mother would.

My DP does do gross stuff and I hate it which he finds highly unreasonable of me.

I don’t think he would do that though.

@DrManhattan you don’t have to believe it if you don’t want to that’s fine but trust me it’s real.

@partyatthepalace I’m not sure but I really wish he hadn’t done it.

@GreyhoundG1rl there is nothing entertaining about that it was just funny that she asked if they where lunatics because yes they are.

@EKGEMS he will be cleaning everything in that kitchen when he gets back.

@ClairKingston 🤢 sounds like something my DH would do. Oh god don’t think I have ever come across someone that sneezes into the towel and then carry’s on drying the dishes 🤮.

@toolazytothinkofausername haha glad it’s made you happy can we swap DH’s think I would rather have one that isn’t disgusting.

@MarieKlepto I’m no neat freak not by any stretch of the imagination but I never thought my DH would be that dirty.

@SisterMonicaJoansHabit I’m sorry that made me laugh sounds like something I would expect my DH to do as well. I would love to know why men think it’s ok to do things like that.

@grapewine I don’t know but he definitely knows now that it’s not ok and it’s gross.

That is beyond disgusting, he could make you all really very ill indeed.
Mine would get a serious bollocking over this and told to grow a brain cell.

WHAT THE FUCK????

Omg,

@FluffyMcWuffy how did you manage to change your DH’s cleaning habits I’ve been trying for nearly 4 years and I thought I had cracked it but I was massively wrong have you got any advice that I can use to train him. My DH’s parents live the same way so he’s watched them living in grime and does the same thing but I really thought I had got on top of his dirty ways.

@ForbiddenAppleEatingShits I do the same thing it’s cleaned up properly and the dirty rags are put in the bin and the things that can be washed are put in the washing machine not my DH though and god knows why he thought it was ok to do that.

@fantasmasgoria1 I wouldn’t put it past my DH’s parents to do the same thing.

@Rainbows89 my DH knows I hate the way he “cleans” at times but I never in a million years thought he would do something like that this.

No DH wouldn't. We have a cat. If the cat is sick DH will cover it with tripled sheets of kitchen roll until I am able to deal with it. Once I have dealt with it he checks that I have swabbed with disinfectant and have run the steam mop over it once disinfected - he is able to remove the towelling thing from the bottom of the steam mop and to look imploringly at me to pop on a 90° wash.

I feel sick having read that

If it's any consolation, when I first set up a shared flat with my now-DH, he thought it was excessive to buy more than one sponge (he hates spending money 'unnecessarily'). I had to explain to him at some length that using one sponge for the toilet and the kitchen sink would not be a good idea....

I'm not sure what he'd do about a sponge with dog sick on it, but I wouldn't trust him 100% to chuck it out. DH considers himself quite the feminist, but he simply wasn't socialized into cleaning and it shows. I suspect that goes for a lot of men.

@Inthesameboatatmo I know this and I thought he would have enough brain cells to know the same thing but he apparently doesn’t I’m still trying to get my head around why he thought it was ok it’s like he just doesn’t think before he does something I despair at times I really do.

@showerbeer that was the reaction I had when I found out when I text him about it I fully expected him to say no that it was a new sponge but part of me knew it was going to be the same sponge.

@Hawkins001 and @Mangofandangoo I know I really don’t know what made him think it was ok to do that.

Does he have a brain?

I’m glad my husband is a fully functioning intelligent person.

[quote LunaMuffinTop]@Inthesameboatatmo I know this and I thought he would have enough brain cells to know the same thing but he apparently doesn’t I’m still trying to get my head around why he thought it was ok it’s like he just doesn’t think before he does something I despair at times I really do.

@showerbeer that was the reaction I had when I found out when I text him about it I fully expected him to say no that it was a new sponge but part of me knew it was going to be the same sponge.

@Hawkins001 and @Mangofandangoo I know I really don’t know what made him think it was ok to do that.[/quote]
He needs a refresher course in basic and advanced hygiene standards.

Please tell us where your DH works as a chef Luna because with hygiene standards like that I definitely don't want to eat there...... 🤢

I discovered my DP would put the used dish towel under the sink with the clean ones and rotate them around.
They would never see a washing machine - just rotated round and round, as if hiding them under the sink was some sort of magical cleaning regime…….. I now keep a very tight rein on them…….

Why would anyone do such a gross thing. Common sense that the cloth gets chucked away surely ?

Wait…. Wait…. Wait…

HE’S A CHEF?

Surely he must have had food hygiene training?

Trying not to think too hard about this….🤢

‘What is it with men and being disgusting’
your man, that you picked. Don’t assume the majority of women have such low standards, how embarrassing. Same for the women commenting about the absolute losers they picked-mortified for you 😂

@RosesAndHellebores I wish my DH would do that but he’s not that neat and tidy. Would you like to swap DH’s yours sounds a lot neater than mine obviously that’s just light hearted and I don’t seriously want to swap DH’s.

@TailFeatherz sorry I felt sick as well.

@ThreeLocusts thank you that makes me feel better about my DH and his antics. Oh wow that’s gross what is it with them thinking one sponge is good to be used for more than 1 thing. From no on I won’t be trusting my DH 100% to throw the sponge out either think I will have to start making sure that he’s throwing dirty used sponges away and not using them for something else.

Can I just say I’m sorry if this post had horrified anyone or made anyone feel sick that wasn’t my intention and I certainly don’t think everyone’s DH is as dirty as mine it was just a light hearted title and more of am I alone here with the dirty DH or do other people have the same problem as me. Sorry if I have caused any offence with this post.

I don't know really.

To be fair though, if the sponge still had a lot of life in it I'd be OK with using it again if it had been soaked in bleach water afterwards. Bleach kills everything.

Honestly, the logical part of me doesn't see a problem with that. I practically sterilise rooms when people have been sick in them... so I'm not that casual when it comes to bacteria, I just have a high amount of faith in bleach.