To ask if you were genuinely surprised when your partner proposed?

[summersun20]

Were you genuinely surprised when your partner proposed? Or deep down did you either know on the day that they were going to, I.e came across nervous/ you were in a certain location or place and knew what was going to happen in advance?

I always wondered whether it was obvious before hand, on social media some of the videos I have seen, there is a genuine element of actual surprised and shock.

I have been with my dp 6 years and we've discussed getting married and what our wedding would be like a lot recently. I can read him like a book and I genuinely don't know how he will surprise me with a proposal without me twigging on before hand!

Also rings!! Did they get the ring size right? This baffles me, my dp would never be able to guess my ring size and I don't usually wear rings.

I very much welcome any stories on how they proposed too - a nice pick me up after a bit of a rubbish week.

Just a fun light hearted thread =)

Total surprise here, dh is usually crap at surprises too.

He had been working abroad for a few months and was due home and we were meant to be meeting at 2pm however he phoned and said his flight would be delayed and he would be later but that he had booked a table out at my favourite restaurant and would pick me up enroute, where he proposed! No huge romantic gestures but a beautiful “speech” about how he loved me etc etc etc and we went out drinking to celebrate with a late night visit to see my mum at midnight.

Unbeknown to me flight wasn’t late but he had been to my mums work to tell her his plans and to see if that was ok and he went and picked my ring! Which I loved, it was too big but got it resized.

No, not surprised at all, I knew it was coming - we had discussed it from early days in the relationship (but we are categorically not one of those couples who has a perfunctory discussion about it, and then that’s it, we’re engaged), including me drawing a diagram of the ring I wanted. That was on a holiday to NY in winter - I still remember sitting in that bar with it snowing outside, and we were so caught up in each other. He still has the diagram of the ring.

He was disappearing at weekends, which I knew was ring shopping, and then he whisked me away to a posh hotel (old stately home) in the country.

It was lovely - such a fun weekend.

Total surprise.

I was divorced, he'd never been married. He'd told me lots of times he didn't 'believe' in marriage and wouldn't be asking me ever. I was ok with that, even though i would have loved to marry him.

One sat night just before xmas (living together 3 years at this point) we'd had a couple of drinks, flopped together on the sofa and watching Micheal McIntyre on TV. He suddenly turned TV off, sat up bolt upright and asked me to marry him. Knelt down in front of me and asked again

I said yeeeees ... with hesitancy because i thought it was the drink talking. We 'celebrated' ...

In the morning i said nothing about it - thought he wouldn't even remember! Wrong! He came downstairs cold stone sober all happy and excited and buzzing. Full of chat about wedding prep!

We were married 4 months later. That was 9 years ago. Still blissfully happy :)

Yes but he was too He blurted it out when we were quite drunk! I did get a proper proposal and a ring a few weeks later.

I was once told no one should ever propose without knowing the answer.

But the moment can be a surprise. Or handled well. A bit of romance, but none of that cringe "look at me" public silliness

I was absolutely stunned!

We had been together since we were very young and it had been 10yrs! We had bought a house together and being living there for 5 yrs. After a couple yrs in the house I did expect a proposal...but it didn't happen. I used to think maybe Christmas, maybe on holiday etc. We went to Dubai and it's known for its diamonds, thought I might get one then but nope.

We had talked lots about marriage and having a family but I was more keen than him on getting we'd. Everyone of his friends were already married and some had started having kids and we had been together the longest!

He only showed the box when he asked me but it wasn't open and I honestly thought he was winding me up and there'd be a pair of earrings in it. I just kept saying what, what, what u kidding, for real? I was so confused 😂 Think I had the ring on without even saying yes 🙈

Total surprise. We knew we were planning to stay together long term, had been living together several years but marriage hadn’t especially been on our radar although I quite fancied the sense of a threshold crossed in declaring our commitment in front of the people we love best and then having a party all together.

We’re outdoorsy too and he proposed when we stopped for lunch by a tarn on top of a mountain. It was lovely. Was so excited/chuffed that I didn’t really manage any sandwiches and mostly had wine for lunch, which I cannot in all honesty recommend as fuel for a long descent with scree and scrambly bits 🤣.

Not at all. My dh is the worst person when it comes to surprises. The being a terrible liar though I think is a good quality in a husband even if surprises are pretty non existant

Totally and utterly gobsmacked.
We'd been dating for 18 months and I thought we were just fwb. I was thinking of dumping him because I'd started to get the feels and knew I'd end up hurt but while it was still fun I just went with it.
One evening, over a curry, he said he loved me and I told him off for taking the piss.
A week later, again over a curry, he said that he really did love me and would I marry him. In a heartbeat I said yes, so 6 months later and 35 years ago we did.
No fancy, down on one knee, foot of the Eiffel Tower bollocks, just "I've got a couple of hundred quid for a ring, shall we go shopping?"
I still love him more than my life.

No, it wasn’t a surprise but he doesn’t know! I was doing the washing on Christmas Eve, pulled his jeans out of the basket along with everything else and while emptying pockets (he always leaves things like radiator keys in them) the info for the ring was in there too. It was a thick card wallet thing folded in half. I just shoved his jeans back in the bottom of the basket and carried on with the evening.
I would win an Oscar for the shock i feigned on Christmas Day!

@summersun20

In keeping with your lovely cocktail tradition, your engagement ring will no doubt be a ring pull from one of those cans!!

I had no clue my now husband was going to propose it came as such a surprise to me. He had got my ring size by trying a ring of mine on his baby finger and gauged the size from that and it was a perfect fit!

Dh came home from work v serious, then prefaced his proposal with "sit down, we need to talk."

I was mentally packing my bags.

When everything settled down again, I had to explain that nothing good EVER follows "we need to talk."

He then told me all about the lovely way he had planned to propose - but hadn't.

My husband (boyfriend at the time) and I had been together 7 years when he proposed . We talked a lot about our future ( where we want to live , kids, house etc ) so I always knew we would get married . 2 months before he proposed he asked me about ring preferences so I knew it was coming. He’s a bit traditional and we had talked about the proposal . We travel often so I was certain it would be on one of our trips . We were in Greece for a wedding and I didn’t suspect it would be this trip . We had a few trips coming up that would have been more relaxing/romantic. I booked a nice restaurant with a view our last night of our trip in Greece. He proposed that night at sunset. I did not suspect a thing that evening , especially as I booked the restaurant myself . I wasn’t shocked he proposed though but the moment felt surreal. That was 6 years ago . We’ve been married for 5 years with 2 kids now !

So to answer your question , I wasn’t shocked in the slightest that he proposed but I was surprised all the same!

@3scape

I was once told no one should ever propose without knowing the answer. But the moment can be a surprise. Or handled well. A bit of romance, but none of that cringe "look at me" public silliness

I agree. Elaborately staged public proposals are more about the proposer than the proposee.