To ask if you were genuinely surprised when your partner proposed?

[summersun20]

Were you genuinely surprised when your partner proposed? Or deep down did you either know on the day that they were going to, I.e came across nervous/ you were in a certain location or place and knew what was going to happen in advance?

I always wondered whether it was obvious before hand, on social media some of the videos I have seen, there is a genuine element of actual surprised and shock.

I have been with my dp 6 years and we've discussed getting married and what our wedding would be like a lot recently. I can read him like a book and I genuinely don't know how he will surprise me with a proposal without me twigging on before hand!

Also rings!! Did they get the ring size right? This baffles me, my dp would never be able to guess my ring size and I don't usually wear rings.

I very much welcome any stories on how they proposed too - a nice pick me up after a bit of a rubbish week.

Just a fun light hearted thread =)

We'd been together for a few years with no particular plans to get married but DP had an emergency health scare which thankfully he is over now though the outcome could have been scarily different. It was a wake up call reminding us how important we are to each other so we discussed getting married and booked a small wedding, we also had a jeweller make our rings. But DH is a romantic who felt a bit robbed of the grand gesture so surprised me with a beautiful proposal written in the sand on a lovely beach in Devon. Beloved DDog was in the photos too though no longer with us now.

We had talked about marriage. But he proposed at the top of Empire State building and it was a surprise as I hadnt been expecting it.

Getting married was never important to me but my now husband is very traditional in some ways, so I knew it was something he’d want. He’d always told me he would wait until 5 years into our relationship before proposing though.

We were staying in Melbourne, Australia with my Godmother, when we made a last minute plan to go to Sydney to see the NYE fireworks. Our 5 year anniversary was a month later, but I had a feeling he was going to propose while we there. My godmother had dropped a few hints as well, which made me more sure. I didn’t expect him to ask the way he did though.
I was standing in front of him waiting for midnight. Once the fireworks started, he told me to turn around and he was down on one knee with the ring. I was a bit mad about missing the start of the fireworks (he’ll never let me live that down), but couldn’t say no with all the people around us. 😂
The ring ended up being way too big, but it was the only size the shop had. We got it resized but it still didn’t fit. The design doesn’t really allow for it to be resized again, so I ended up putting it on a necklace until the wedding. Now I just wear my wedding ring.

yes.

I was totally convinced he'd ask me on my birthday but he proposed much earlier.
I had no clue.
he outfoxed me!🤣

No.

he went down on one knee and asked me while presenting the ring, but I was so worried it would fall in the river I picked it up and shoved it on my finger without saying a word.
so he went "so is that a yes then? my knee is hurting"
🤣🤣🤣
I said yes

oh, we were on a friend A's boat with friend B (DH's best mate) and it turned out the whole of friend A's boating community knew about "the proposal plan".
So as soon as I said yes friends A & B started shouting "She said yes!" and all these voices and clapping and shouting "Congratulations!" "Good Luck!" was following us on our way back. it was incredibly lovely.
there's no way I could've ever imagined that.

Very surprised. I knew he wanted to get married but I said I wasn't fussed.
We went to a fancy dress party, and complety surprised me that he got down on 1 knee.
Having said that everyone else at the party knew apart from me and now I know why they were acting all weird 🤣

I was totally thrown. We’d been together about six months, but I thought he was losing interest as he seemed a bit withdrawn the previous few days. I’d never thought he was interested in marriage.

Actually he asked, in a hesitant roundabout way, if I’d like us to live together. I was so startled I said “What?”. He was embarrassed, so he tried asking again even more clumsily, and I was still baffled. Finally he did the full proposal thing, down on one knee, and I burst out laughing. Realised I might have hurt his feelings, so I said OK, still laughing.

Happily married for many years now. I wish the same for you and DP, Summersun.

No I wasn't surprised, I always knew we'd get married as we always talked about it and was relieved he finally got round to proposing and that we could start making plans

@summersun20 Very surprised here! We had planned to get married when we had our first DC but I was never expecting a proposal and a ring. He proposed a few days after DC1 was born. No fuss, just at home, cuddling on the couch with our new baby ❤️
He did make me cry when he started his “speech” because I thought he was just being a d* and was being nasty (I was hormone central obviously) 🤣😅

Out of the blue he gave me a traditional thing that men give to women when they want to marry them in his family culture. Think something practical for cooking. Where his family is from this is a recognised ’thing’ and now just symbolic. If the woman accepts the item, then they’re agreeing to marry.

Over dinner one night at his grandmother’s in his country he and granny told the story of her item, sitting on the shelf in her kitchen. A couple of months later he presented me with mine. He’d bought it there (traditionally they’re handmade and personalised) and kept it until he thought I’d accept it.

Very surprised and not in particularly romantic circumstances, but very 'us'! He'd been married before, we'd been together 7 years and he'd always said he wouldn't get married again.

Sat in the garden one warm sunny Monday evening and he said "I've got something to ask you". I replied that I didn't want to go to the pub that night. He laughed and said "OK, I'll marry you - but only if it's at Glastonbury". We'd not talked about marriage for ages and it's not like I'd pestered him about it, so the 'ok I'll marry you' was a bit But we'd been to Glastonbury Festival for the past 4 years and had considered giving it a break for a year. This was basically a bribe.

13 years later, I have an eternity ring, a wedding ring and still no engagement ring! We did marry, at Glastonbury Town Hall, in 2009 and went to the festival for our honeymoon. Michael Eavis personally congratulated us when we bumped into him

First time round total surprise it was freezing cold in our flat we were eating Chinese in bed when he got down on one knee. With hind sight it was all a bit quick and a method to trap me.
With DH we talk and agreed that we would like to be married- we were engaged, we then went together to design my engagement and wedding rings - much more me than last time, I am a small subtle person, but the design and stones are filled with meaning.

Yes totally out of the blue.
It was the 2 year anniversary of when we met, but we were still students so hadn't really thought about it.
It was 8.30 am and I'd just dropped in on the way to a lecture. (I missed the lecture 🤣)

I was very surprised. We had been on holiday in Cambodia two weeks earlier and it had been my birthday while we were away. I didn't expect a proposal on the holiday but the fact that he proposed to me in our kitchen two weeks later felt completely out of the blue. Apparently he had thought about doing it on holiday but got into a panic about travelling with the ring and then bottled out.

Yes, I was surprised. We met in one city and then I left for work, which had been arranged before I met him, to a city on another continent. He came and stayed with me for a month, and we agreed on a LDR.

We used to speak on the phone every night and do a crossword together. One day, about a month into this, we were solving a crossword and the clue was "Words with a ring to it". I blurted out: "It's Marry me!" and he said, cool as a cucumber, "How about that?"
It wasn't planned for that day, but he was going to propose. He brought the ring when he next came to stay with me.

We will have been married for 14 years this summer, now living in a third city (and country), and planning to stay here.

We already knew that we wanted to get married, i checked out rings and sizes beforehand but said to him I would leave it to him to propose which he did when we went on a weekend break to Northern Ireland so whilst it wasn't a surprise it was still lovely 😊

I think it’s odd for a proposal to come completely out of the blue. You should know which way the wind is blowing surely?

No. We'd been together for a month and I was talking to a colleague about my "dream" wedding. I suddenly had a very strong feeling and said "he will propose and it will be tonight" and he did!

(And our wedding was exactly as I had imagined)

Yes - we had talked about it but we were quite young so I thought it would be a few years before we got engaged. Someone asked me earlier that day if I had got engaged at Christmas and I replied no, it would be a few years yet. So yes, I was very surprised!

I didn’t have any idea he was going to do it.

The whole thing was such a shock and overwhelming that it was just AMAZING!!

DH2 asked me several times, but not as a "proposal-event", just asking me if I'd marry him. I always said no. He stopped asking.
I think when I changed my mind and asked him, again not an "event", he was pretty surprised.

We’d discussed marriage but we were mid buying a house so assumed we had other things to think about and put it to the back of my mind. On the day we completed on the house he was really quiet and disengaged when we went to pick up the keys and I got a bit upset that he didn’t seem enthusiastic and I was really worried he was having second thoughts about the house. We decided to go by the place on the way back from the estate agent and he proposed in the living room of the empty house turns out he wasn’t grumpy about buying the place just insanely nervous about proposing, so me getting grumpy at him hadn’t been great timing but honestly it meant it was a total surprise!

Firstly having that little control in something which is going to shape the rest of your life, and the idea of having to sit passively by and wait for something you really want

This. I’ve always found the idea of “proposing” quite at odds with how the majority of women live their lives. DH and I had been together a long time when we got engaged. We had already decided and discussed it together. I think we had already pencilled in a venue actually (although I never told anyone that part!). We chose the ring together - because I wanted a ring. DH wanted to “surprise me” with it because we both knew our parents would expect a more traditional story so he “proposed” on a holiday but we both knew the logistics of it and it wasn’t a surprise. Bit like choosing your birthday present then waiting a while to receive it but still being happy and excited to open it on the day.

I can’t imagine being proposed to spontaneously. It would really challenge my control freakery.

No surprise as we had discussed it. Was also highly suspicious that he made a huge fuss about an anniversary by surprising me with a break to a very swanky hotel (when I hadn't even bought him a card!) 😂 So all night, I knew what was coming but didn't make it any less special. He also didn't propose with a ring as we'd also discussed I'd be picking my own as I'm so fussy! He proposed with a costume type ring as a placeholder!