To ask if you were genuinely surprised when your partner proposed?

[summersun20]

Were you genuinely surprised when your partner proposed? Or deep down did you either know on the day that they were going to, I.e came across nervous/ you were in a certain location or place and knew what was going to happen in advance?

I always wondered whether it was obvious before hand, on social media some of the videos I have seen, there is a genuine element of actual surprised and shock.

I have been with my dp 6 years and we've discussed getting married and what our wedding would be like a lot recently. I can read him like a book and I genuinely don't know how he will surprise me with a proposal without me twigging on before hand!

Also rings!! Did they get the ring size right? This baffles me, my dp would never be able to guess my ring size and I don't usually wear rings.

I very much welcome any stories on how they proposed too - a nice pick me up after a bit of a rubbish week.

Just a fun light hearted thread =)

Anyone had a surprise proposal from someone they most definitely did not want to marry?

Those aren't fun.

I had no idea. We had been seeing each other for about six months. We had been out for a meal and when we got back to mine, he suddenly became serious and got down on one knee! He said he wanted to propose at the restaurant but wimped out. I was gobsmacked -and utterly delighted- to say the least! We were married a year later and have been married 23 years.

Completely surprised as he did it in such a ridiculously mundane manner so i would never have suspected. He knew me well enough to know not to choose a ring for me too so we went shopping together the next day

We had talked about getting engaged. We'd walked past a jewellers and seen a lovely ring and went in and tried it on.

We were in the process of buying a house and I totally forgot to be honest.

We moved into our house a few days before Christmas. Christmas Eve night he kept having to clear his throat, he was doing my head in 😂

The next morning I had this huge box, opened it and it was full of books he'd already read, I was a bit he said to keep on looking through the polystyrene pellets and there was this ring box! I was totally surprised.

Oh and it was said ring from the shop we'd seen it in. Turns out both his dad and brother had bought their wives' rings from there, too! He didn't realise at the time.

Hand on heart I didn’t know it was going to be that day so I was genuinely surprised.

Yes I was totally unaware. We were away for the weekend, sat in front of a roaring fire in this quaint little B & B in the welsh hillside when he said "so shall we get married then". He hadn't got a ring as he wanted me to have one made so we went to a jeweller the following week.

I was amazed, we'd never talked marriage or anything. Still together nearly 30 years later. Christ knows how, he drives me mad most of the time

I knew it was coming because he followed my instructions subtle hints to the letter - a weekend in my favourite city and a "spontaneous" walk to the perfect spot. A beautiful but understated ring, a very sweet declaration in English (his 2nd language) and then a lot of wine and lovely food.

Thought he was splitting up with me, we'd gone on a night out with friends and he avoided me all night and was bit moody when I did speak to him.

Turns out he was nervous about messing it up, and didn't come near. I was getting upset thinking why is he being like this and his best friend (like a sister to him) knew and was reassuring me that wasn't the case and let's enjoy the night blah blah blah.

Got to the nightclub & off he disappeared again but joined us on the dancefloor later on. Whilst boogeying away oblivious to the world, I saw my friend bouncing around like she was possessed & telling me to listen.
The DJ had put an announcement on saying "TLKloverDP would like to ask TLKlover to marry him? Is it a yes?

I obv said yes & we handed a massive bottle of champagne that we subsequently drank between 6 of us and urm I was slightly ill the next day....had to tell work he had proposed however I'd got food poisoning! Was sent home and my then DP stayed in work cursing me haha (we both worked together doing customer service for a short period of time).

I told him under no circumstances was I getting married in a pub/nightclub and we got married in a church few years later.

I was. We both knew we wanted to get married and have children from our first date, though of course not necessarily to and with each other, but the day he proposed I was not expecting it.

He bought me a ring for Christmas but gave me it on Boxing Day because, in his words, ‘Christmas Day would be too cliche’. He didn’t get down on one knee or anything, he just handed me the ring on Boxing Day and said it was a ‘late Christmas present’. I was expecting it at some point, I just wasn’t sure when.

I was completely surprised that it happened when it did.

DH proposed on the walk home from a night out 6 months after we met. I laughed at first as I thought he was joking. 🤭
Anyway two proposals later and now 15 years we’re still married. 😁

We had discussed marriage for a while so I though it was just one of those things we'd do one day, however, we were on holiday and saw a "love tree" with messages hung on them like "Fred ❤️ Wilma 2011" etc.

DH spent the holiday hunting for a shell (and driving me mad because he wanted the "perfect" one and kept rejecting any I found - to be fair I had no idea what he was up to!)

On the last day of the holiday we went for a walk and ended up back at the tree and he hung a "mrchips ❤️ chips 2019" shell - then flipped round and it read "will you marry me?" on the other side - I was so surprised I forgot to answer him, but six months later we were married.

It's okay to want some thought and effort to be made in a proposal, and to want it to be a memorable, special moment, more than 'discussing and agreeing to marriage.'

Yes, but then he did it spurt of the moment in a conversation we were having about daft people we were watching on TV. I said I'd be a better wife than that, and he agreed and then asked me to marry him. We picked out rings a month later. That was almost 20 years ago.

We'd discussed marriage, children, life plans and such before I'd come to stay with him for the summer, more after I was there. The proposal was about a week before I was meant to be going back Stateside. I guess it had been on his mind as it seemed the one topic we hadn't discussed at length. We talked about it on and off for the rest of the day as it was such a big change of plans before I agreed while we were walking along the harbour. I was a bit naive on the immigration front, but that teenage certainty of things working out actually did this time.

Bonkers.
My now dh and I chatted about when we would get married and when we would like to share that news. I had a ring anyway so we didn't have to buy one. We picked a wkd 5 months before we planned to marry and announced our plans to both families.

Yes, completely taken by surprise. We’d been together years and discussed it plenty of times but I thought he saw it as just a piece of paper and wasn’t that bothered. He had swiped one of my rings and used it to get my size. But he didn’t propose with the “real” ring, he had a cz one (which is actually very nice and I wear on holiday so the real one can’t get lost/stolen/broken). We went shopping for the real one together after he proposed.

We had been discussing it for a long time, designed and paid for a ring together, and pretty much had a wedding date set (needed to marry for visa reasons so that I could move with him, even though obviously we also genuinely wanted to be married too, it wasn't a sham wedding!). So it wasn't a surprise that a proposal was coming. I think I sort of had a hunch on the day, because the day before he had been acting really odd. He had the keys to my flat (was visiting me - LDR) and I had been at work, but I needed to come home early because (sorry, TMI!) I'd developed really bad diarrhoea. But he kept stalling and telling me to just say at work a bit longer and I ended up having to just hide in the toilets. I was a bit weirded out why he was being so shifty about me coming home, so I thought he must be up to something. The next day we had a walk planned up a big hill/mountain that had a nice view. I thought maybe he was planning to do something. But then he had been making a big deal all week about how we needed to be home from this walk by 1pm because he had some work-related seminar to go to (it was a Saturday) that he couldn't miss. So I was pretty annoyed that he was thinking about rushing me up a hill to propose and then buggering off to some work gig the rest of the day! It turns out the 'work seminar' was the time we needed to leave to make it to the weekend away he'd booked us to celebrate our engagement.

I was in my 30s and we’d been together for over three years, and I basically told him my biological clock was ticking so he needed to shit or get off the pot. I was literally packing my bags when he produced a ring. So of course I said yes but I was angry that he had put me in that situation. He had known for some time that three years was the max I was willing to invest in a relationship that wasn’t going anywhere, and there’s no reason why he couldn’t have made up his mind in a timely fashion long before the deadline. He should never have let it get to the point where I was packing and crying. With hindsight it was a mistake to say yes because I’ll never forgive him for that.

I knew we would get married at some point, but he surprised me with a gorgeous ring and proposed about a year earlier than I expected. I was doing a graduate degree and had pictured a proposal on graduation. It was a lovely surprise. We didn't get married for 18 months, so the timing still worked out the same.

I was quite suprised and relieved he hadn’t bought a ring. He knew I was way too fussy and would want to choose it myself

@LuckyWookie

I was in my 30s and we’d been together for over three years, and I basically told him my biological clock was ticking so he needed to shit or get off the pot. I was literally packing my bags when he produced a ring. So of course I said yes but I was angry that he had put me in that situation. He had known for some time that three years was the max I was willing to invest in a relationship that wasn’t going anywhere, and there’s no reason why he couldn’t have made up his mind in a timely fashion long before the deadline. He should never have let it get to the point where I was packing and crying. With hindsight it was a mistake to say yes because I’ll never forgive him for that.

Oh my goodness. Did you marry him yet?

I was surprised at the moment but knew we would marry eventually. I was hot & tired & grumpy so not ideal but the setting was perfect - on a balcony in Rome

@summersun20, aw... That would be a lovely proposal. I hope it happens for you soon 🙂 I love couple rituals like that.

We're also quite outdoorsy and so I'm not surprised my now husband proposed outdoors. We then managed to find a wedding venue in a middle of a forest which really suited us. Ah, the memories ☺️