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AIBU?

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About MIL's weird reaction?

107 replies

Ohitsgrace · 05/06/2021 22:15

Just want some perspective on the situation really. The other day I had an accident. I fell quite a way with my 7month old in my arms. I was fortunate enough that neither of us were seriously harmed, but it could of easily gone the other way. Luckily I held onto my ds otherwise he definitely would of flown further than me and suffer more serious damages. The thought of how easily things could of gone really wrong has shock me up. I landed on my back and hit my head but didnt do any serious damage, just had a bad headache and soreness for a couple of days. It was no ones fault and that's okay. What I dont know is okay is my mils weird reaction. It happened in her house and when I was finally able to get off the ground and tell her what happened her first instinct wasnt to ask if me or baby was okay but to say something along the lines of "well at least it wasnt me could you imagine!" Aibu to think this response was insensitive, and made my incident about her rather than the two people that were involved? Yes I understand it would of been ten times more horrific for her giving her age but it could of been just as bad for my baby with his tiny soft skull. The more I think about it the more odd of an approach I find it. I laughed off the fall but in all honesty I was generally shaken up and thought I'd done damage to my spine. Maybe if it wasnt so might hearted about it or mil had witnessed it it would of been different?

OP posts:
Freddiefox · 06/06/2021 14:40

Is your friend your sil?

AnUnoriginalUsername · 06/06/2021 14:55

I see where you're coming from, the not checking you're OK is really wierd to me, its a normal automatic response to say "are you ok" when someone has an accident. But I do think I've said quite a few times when someone gets hurt that I'm glad it wasn't someone else, although that's usually a child. Like if my sister had a car crash I'd say I was glad my niece wasn't in the car. I don't think I'd say I was glad it was them and not me.

But if I'd have been you I'd have just said "oh thanks!" When they said that.

BIWI · 06/06/2021 16:00

@Nuggetnugget

I can't believe your horribly ageist post has been allowed to stand.

How dare you make such sweeping generalisations?

BIWI · 06/06/2021 16:09

Oh - and as if by magic, it's been deleted! Thank the fuck for that, @MNHQ.

GoodbyeToCare · 06/06/2021 16:39

Did you fall from a horse OP? I'm trying to imagine a 'chair' that is high enough for you fall a distance and need checked before moving.

Bluntness100 · 06/06/2021 19:08

@GoodbyeToCare

Did you fall from a horse OP? I'm trying to imagine a 'chair' that is high enough for you fall a distance and need checked before moving.
I reckon she fell of her stena stair lift…
MaliceOrgan · 07/06/2021 15:06

clown car with an ejector seat?

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