Worst Human being you've ever known?

[thebatman]

After life saving surgery at the start of the year I've been doing some soul searching and re-evaluating a lot in my life, and looking back it astonishes me that I put up with some truly awful people for so long, even when I knew what complete and utter unrepentant shits they were, so, can I ask, who is the worst Human being you have ever known and why?

My ex boss, an NHS manager, who bullied me and accused me of all sorts of things I didn't do. She is definitely a psycopath and hated by all her staff.

The boss of a water company I once worked for. He was an out and out bully, and regularly reduced some members of his staff to tears, including several grown men who had worked there for years. He did it because he enjoyed it, and nearly destroyed at least one of them who had a breakdown as a result. When I returned to work after severe depression, I was called in and told I had pull my socks up and I would not get another 'chance'. (I was the lowest of the low office worker at the time so my job was hardly crucial). He was the tyrant of his own little empire, answerable to no one, but what pissed me off most was that he received a 'gong' - MBE I think - for his services to the water industry.

My sister in law. She's a truly evil person. Stole off her mum ( who had advanced dementia) tried to convince her brother that there was no money in her mums account after death. Her brother was next of kin so soon found out the lie. She lies about everything all the bloody time. I'm nc now, she's toxic.

My father. He was a violent, alcoholic, psychopathic sadist. The greatest pride of my life is the resilience and love that exists within both me and my brother, fostered by our mother, because without this he would have ruined us both for life. When he died neither of us shed a tear and I've never felt a second's guilt.

The two monsters who raped me when I was fifteen. Not content with humiliating me to that degree they mocked me all the time they were doing it and made me feel like a malformed freak.

I'd been a virgin until a few months before that event. It was many years before I realised the occasion I lost my virginity couldn't by any reckoning have been called consensual. I'd thought I loved him, young through I was, and that realization hurt.

Abusive men have caused me so much pain in my life but I refuse to carry the weight of their behaviour. I've been treated for cPTSD and for the first time in my life can say I'm really free.

A school run mum. She’s a really fucked up and vile person who tried to cause so many issues for me and DC. Anyway we moved out of area due to her and it ended up being the best decision ever so she did us a huge favour
I’ve seen her once or twice since when I’ve been back visiting and she almost ran away.

@RainbowBriteUk

My most recent ex-manager. She is the CEO of a small charity. Most of the employees were close family. For some reason she took a real dislike to me. I think it was because I was quiet. I was going through an awful time in my personal life anyway which she knew about, but even though I worked my arse off, she turned things back on me all the time. I got the blame so many times for so much that wasn't my fault. She used to tell me to brag about the work I was doing in the weekly staff meeting but then would also tell me that her and my colleagues didn't know what I was doing, if anything. I told her that the weekly meetings and relationships between the (eight) staff were toxic but she turned that completely around on me! I would tell her stuff and she would say a few weeks later that I hadn't told her. A safeguarding issue came up that made me question my sanity. In fact, I was questioning my sanity every day. She made me work from home (not Covid related) and literally ignored my emails for a month and got a close family member of hers/someone I reported to, to do the same. It was awful. When I went in the workplace for something I saw another of her close family members (and colleagues) and he pretty much blanked me. We had always got on before that. I had several breakdowns in the space of a few months.

I was doing an amazing job looking back but for some reason, they hated me. Upon her asking me to return to the office, I had a meeting with her and manager (her family member) to which they completely burned me. Anything I said they put the fault on me. I was completely and utterly broken and contemplated suicide every night when I returned home. I then returned to the office and she completely changed her tune and said I was doing an amazing job. I mean, what the actual fuck?! How to mess with someones head!!! They also broke covid regulations and put their staffs health on the line all because she didn't want to close the doors of the charity because she would lose face with other services doing similar work to us. Fucking egomaniac!!!

Their fucking faces when I put my notice in!!! I'm now in a new job and working incredibly hard and I love it!!! My manager and colleagues are wonderful and supportive and my manager is full of praise for me. I often wish I would bump into her so I could give her a piece of my mind now that I am strong and mentally well again. Twat!

This is the problems with bullying bosses. I had one who reduced me to tears and humiliated me over something I didn't know. I ended up going off sick with anxiety and ended up on anti-depressants. When I was well again and felt mentally strong I desperately wanted to give her a piece of my mind and was almost embarrassed about how I had cried in front of her even though that was what she had reduced me too,. Awful woman.

My daughters controlling abusive boyfriend

My old boss - I worked in a nursery and she was not only hateful to staff but also to parents.
She hugely disliked one family after the mum disagreed (rightly) with her about something. She then made a series of allegations to social services about the mother and told them about 3 made up incidents where she said she had witnessed the mother abuse the child. She was believed as was ‘a professional’
That poor woman was taken to hell and back because of it. I was the child’s key worker and when I was spoken to I gave my honest opinion and that was not in line with anything my manager said and I was then removed from being his keyworker and also then bullied at work

I contacted Ofsted and the LA safeguarding officer. I tried every way to whistle blower about what she did and nobody wanted to listen to me kept saying ‘she’s a professional and she saw these incidents’

I quit in the end. She was absolutely relentlessly hateful to me

@Pebbledashery

It's a sad state of affairs when you wish death on someone and that would be more valuable than winning the lottery. I could never ever feel that way about anyone else in my life. If someone gave me a choice of him dying and a million pounds I'd take the former all day long as that's worth more than a million pounds.

Contradicting yourself.

I vote we light a bonfire and stick effergies of each and every single vile person listed on this thread on to it.
The only place destined for them.

Get over yourself.
I meant I never thought I could wish that onto someone but I do, very much so.

Setting aside those with criminal tendencies, and Geoffrey Archer, the worst for her deep and abiding delight in upsetting people is the woman who taught PoisonousSIL how to up her own nasty communications.

Her most polite chat with me was the day we got engaged. She approached me and asked to see the ring then boomed "call that a ring? THIS is a ring" and flashed her own enormous rock.

As I said, that was the nicest exchange I ever had with her.

Oh, maybe PoisonousSILs mum. Who, in a room with DH, his DB (groom to be), me and other SIL, introduced my husband to the priest who was to marry BIL to Poisonous "... and this is the brother she should be marrying"

We never mentioned it, we were too stunned.

My ex boss, absolute monster. When my baby was diagnosed with a life threatening illness and had to have emergency brain surgery, they made me redundant, 2 weeks later just before Christmas.

One of the founders at the company I worked at for over a decade. A lot of us never saw eye to eye with him and many people left because of him. I didn't work directly with him so escaped much of the wrath.

But then when I returned from mat leave he decided - without consulting me - that my job just couldn't be done to the same level in 3 days a week. So despite already being prorated, he cut my salary by a significant percentage and I found this out by way of pay cheque.

Of course I kicked up a massive stink and got all partners involved - salary was reinstated and lost earnings reimbursed immediately.

Thought that was that, and then a month into the pandemic, shortly after it was announced that our shares were halved in value because of covid, he started up again with the salary nonsense - this time blaming the pandemic even though there was no sign of business dying down and I was one of the cheapest due to being part time.

My love for the business had already taken a huge hit so I managed to escape with a huge settlement because of his discriminatory sexist pig behaviour. Horrible piece of work.

@RuthTopp

Monica - she started at our place of work as a manager, who couldn't even manage herself. She played on a minor illness and couldn't do a long list of things because it would cause for xyz to flare up. She used to what only could be described as ' simpered ' and every male she came across be them married or not. Evil to every woman, tried to bully loads. Eventually higher management ' sidelined' her and off she went to a far flung part of the company.

Was this an adult care facility by any chance? 🤨 shouted a lot?

Oh the relief to not go back there again.

A bonkers friend who leaves a trail of destruction in her wake.

She doesn't have much of a life, no job, no career, husband hates her and spends his life at work or holed away on his computer. The devil makes work for idle thumbs they say, she spends her days on social media professing how bored she is interspersed with destroying the lives of those who've dared stand up to her. A compulsive liar, she has tried to get peoples children taken away from them, pets taken from them, spreads vicious gossip to anyone who'll listen to her, complains endlessly about everything.

She once asked if she could have a bag of things I'd sorted for the charity shop. As she's always pleading poverty, I duly handed the bag over. She sold it all on marketplace and thought I wouldn't find out! Basically stole from charity.

We were friends for a time. She's a data gatherer, taking information from me and using it against me. Told me people hated me over and over again until I snapped, then told the person what I'd said. Things like that.

It was when she started gleefully regaling how she'd 'ruined her ex bosses life' and 'called social services on X, Y and Z' that I realised I had to distance myself from her pronto. She revels in creating chaos and is seemingly devoid of empathy.

The people she has chewed up and cast aside have been left traumatised and damaged by her. One in particular having to delete her entire online presence to escape the constant bombardment of abuse.

She's an incredibly manipulative and frankly dangerous person. If I hadn't seen it with my own eyes, I'd never have believed it.

NC for this as it would instantly out me to anybody familiar with the case.

Also TW as this is about horrific child abuse.

Quite a few years ago now I was involved in a non profit UK wide countryside organisation. I thought it was a great idea and was amongst the earliest people to join and one our focuses was to try and get more youngsters out and about and excited about being in the countryside.

Great idea and we really did help to get people of all ages more involved in the great outdoors.

One of the other members that had joined up early started voluntarily pouring their own money into paying for stands at local agri shows and country fairs in their area (South of England).

He then started demanding that everyone involved had to do things his way because he had invested so much of his money in the organisation. He was a real creepy, nasty dude in general so myself and several others that had put our hearts and souls in ended up pushing the founder to kick this person out of the organisation.

He went nuts, went on a proper hate campaign against all of us which in fairness was to be expected. He then set up his own organisation and set about luring our members over to him.

I ended up stepping away from all of it but a couple of years later one of my friends from our organisation phoned me to tell me that this man had been arrested for the most horrific child abuse offenses. I was physically sick and all these years later am still not over it tbh. In fact I've been so messed up by it that until now I have only ever told one person.

I'm in Scotland so never met the man in the flesh and I'm not trying to claim some sure and certain preknowledge that this man is a monster but he gave me the judders from the get go. His wife seemed lovely and I am so glad now that she died of cancer before it all came out. Oh and he was milking her dying with all of his cronies and getting all of the sympathy and fuss while still doing horrific things to little children and animals.

Hindsight is always 20/20 and now it is obvious that he was spending his money to get access to children - no wonder he flipped out when we cut his supply off.

TRIGGER WARNING AGAIN - these links are fucking grim. His name is Nicholas Cordery.

www.wiltsglosstandard.co.uk/news/9762965.farmhouse-near-crudwell-at-centre-of-major-paedophile-investigation/

www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-england-19947914

www.independent.ie/world-news/europe/paedophile-ring-held-sex-parties-at-farmhouse-in-british-countryside-26864982.html

My (not so D)M. She is one of those who would fit perfectly in the stately homes thread. Narcissistic. Very very poisonous. Violent. Never shown any interest in me except as a reflection of herself. Truly awful woman to the extent in years gone by she would receive anonymous hate mail. So there must be more than just me who felt this way about her. I always found that strangely comforting. Even though I never worked out who sent the letters to her. In real life nobody knows how I feel about her but I wish she was dead.

@Alcemeg

I woke up to find him boiling my African land snail that I kept as a pet and then a while later I caught him smashing one of our pet mice to death with a bottle of my perfume.

Sorry for your loss, @GypsyWanderer, but that's surreal as fuck.

Thank you. It was a long time ago and looking back it was probably the time to leave but I was only 17 or so and he made it seem like I was just overreacting.

@zingally

I'm a primary school teacher, and the worst person I met was the head teacher of a school I worked at.

I don't throw the term around lightly, but this person was an honest to goodness sociopath. And like all sociopaths, she didn't know her behaviour was weird, dangerous, and damaging to others.

When she finally retired, we had a staff party to celebrate the fact she was gone!

And one day in the future, I fully plan to go dance on her grave.

Oh how I'd love to dance on the grave of the head of the primary school I went to! I remember leaving year 6 and saying "goodbye and good riddance" all the way to the car!

She'd made my life a misery, especially in the last year when I was in her class. She retired at the end of that year and I just said it was 5 years too late. We only found out years later that almost every year group (60 per year) had had a student have a breakdown due to her policies. Apparently she told staff that the playground was a microcosm of society, and they were forbidden to interfere when there was bullying going on. So serious nastiness of the kind that girls are sadly capable of was going on unchecked and I was one of the victims. She also played favourites massively, especially with families who gave her massive Christmas presents every year. My sister and I were constantly told our hair was unacceptable and had to be plaited (if it was shoulder length - collar length had to be tied back and our hairlines were below our collars). Others could have shoulder length hair completely loose and not get sanctioned.

My year 5 teacher was lovely and tried to extend me a bit. Apparently I was several times given detentions by the head because she walked past the classroom and heard me saying "but" to the teacher in a conversation. That was answering back = immediate detention! The following year the head tried to get me put into the lower class (we were streamed from year 4), because she insisted on teaching the upper class. That not being successful, she still managed all sorts of pettiness like making sure her favourite could go through to a spelling competition (I never heard anything about it until said favourite was in a regional final), and preventing me using an extension maths programme we had through the school - but if I was away sick everyone complained they'd been required to do it almost all day!

If she'd been remotely reasonable I might have considered staying to the senior school. She'd told the head there so many tales of our family that he apparently phoned my parents and said "unfortunately we have to offer your daughter a full scholarship" (private schools where we were - not UK - had a common scholarship exam process). I went to a much nicer school that also offered me a scholarship. And achieved several things while there that brought kudos on the school.

When I was a medical student I suddenly realised with horror that she could potentially turn up as a patient or relative at the hospital I was at. I actually worked out what I might say in order to do only anything immediately necessary and then back out of having anything to do with her.

Too many but my mother comes close. She was an abusive bully.

When my parents split, she returned to her native France and took us with her and my father relocated to New York. I was 5. After years of being slapped around, kicked and abused I finally snapped and at the age of 14 I attacked her with a knife. She hit me with a meat tenderizer, broke my nose and knocked my teeth out. Neighbour called the Police and I was taken to hospital. Lots of legal mucking about followed but being as I was born in London and my father was British, I was sent back to the UK to live with my grandparents on their Dorset farm.

They were totally amazing; hardworking and kind. I learnt so much from them and it was the first love I had experienced since I was 5. I miss them dreadfully.