Worst Human being you've ever known?

[thebatman]

After life saving surgery at the start of the year I've been doing some soul searching and re-evaluating a lot in my life, and looking back it astonishes me that I put up with some truly awful people for so long, even when I knew what complete and utter unrepentant shits they were, so, can I ask, who is the worst Human being you have ever known and why?

My ex next door neighbour. Absolutely vile person, so glad he finally moved but I pity his new neighbours. When he eventually moved loads of people said to us you must be so happy he has gone!

@IMNOTSHOUTING

Didn't know them well but a friend's DC was very very intoTennis and played at a fairly competitive level (althoughstill unlikely any of these kids are going to win Wimbledon). There was a parent who would try to put off other children by shouting derragotory remarks at them (e.g. 'don't worry Harry this one can't hit) or couching loudly when they were trying to serve. I didn't believe it until I saw it for myself at a match.

Dh's family had a close family friend (let's call him Ben) whose kids played tennis competitively in another European country. One of their opponents crashed his car and died driving home from a match. Turns out he'd been drugged. Ben was spiking the drinks of all his kid's opponents so they'd win. He went to prison for several years.

Too many to count, I seem to be a magnet for them. Two mad housemates (separate times in the same house). One tried and failed to bully me into submission the other hated me for unknown reasons. Another employee at my first job molested me all the time I worked there. Uncles molested me for years until mid-twenties. Various other men molested me for years on different occasions. I was very small and thin for my age and it came against me. My mother, whom after today, I have come to realise, is simply a arcissistic , selfish and mad.

My old manager. She is pure evil. Very few people seem to see it unfortunately. She pretends to be a practicing Christian as another stick to beat people with I expect to see her on the news for something heinous one day.

Thankfully, I think most people do their best. We aren't going to be to everyone's taste and people may not like each other. But the truly awful are far outweighed by decent people.

My mentor when I was in my first year of teaching, doing a school-centered primary PGCE

She would undermine me in front of my class, gaslight me, make me feel paranoid, nitpick away nastily at every decision I made, come into my classroom and start criticizing everything I’d done. Whisper horrible things in my ear when I was on playground duty or leading a school trip. Mock me. She really seemed to take pleasure in it. I think she is the one truly evil person I’ve ever met. It completely ruined my self-esteem and I still feel so insecure about my teaching

There are sadly quite a lot of people like this in teaching. My NQT mentor was exactly the same. Everything I did was wrong. She reported every little thing to the head who was nearly as bad as her. She undermined me at every single turn.
She kept information from me about things which were happening (we were in parallel classes) and would then say "Oh dear, you've forgotten AGAIN". To deal with this I then insisted on having a morning briefing with her each day and wrote everything down in a notebook which she hated as there was then evidence of what had and hadn't been said.
At least once a week she'd scream at me about my "stupid notebook" and say I should get on with some work instead of writing in my notebook.

She got me into trouble with the Religious Education inspectors as it turned out she was doing loads of extra work with her class in RE beyond what we had planned. I had done the planned work. I got hauled into the head's office after the RE inspection and screamed at as to why the children didn't have enough RE work in their books as the RE inspectors had commented on it.

Awful awful woman. And the worst thing about her was that she was permanently at church, was on the parish council, was soooo religious and regularly went to a developing country in her holidays to help the children there. She also constantly raised money for the projects she was involved with so the vast majority of people thought she was a saint.
Though when I left the school after one year people started coming out of the woodwork to tell me what an awful woman she was and how she'd done the same to them.

I can't believe I forgot about my old next door neighbour. He poisoned one of my cats (he had to be put to sleep), kicked another of my cats in the head (she had to be put to sleep) and kicked my other cat in the kidneys (she survived it). I very rarely see him now but if I do come across him I get this feeling of rage that just takes over.

I'm not ashamed to say that I got him out of that house. He wasn't going to get away with that.

My sister.
Treated my elderly, frail mum like a piece of dirt. Could not even be bothered to check on her when she was poorly, to the point of when my mum phoned her to ask if she could possibly drop her in a pint of milk she screamed abuse at her. She was cold, heartless and cruel.
There is no backstory btw.
What scares me is my sister is now a carer for the elderly. The irony ☹️

@Pebbledashery, @bounce89 all of what you two said.

When I worked in a law firm, one of our clients was a bloke who turned the garden hose on his young son (or possibly stepson) when he'd peed in a drawer. The scene was discovered by a woman visiting the neighbourhood who thought the sounds were an animal in pain: neighbours themselves apparently knew this bloke was an abusive bully and did sweet FA. We had armed robbers and murderers pass through that office and I'd've taken all of them over him any day of the week - no-one who worked there could their utter disdain for him, and didn't try every hard. Child's mother was a useless cow who embraced him in the dock when he avoided a custodial sentence, although I believe the child was removed from the home. Yet another woman failing to prioritise her child over her partner. Absolute shitcunts, the pair of 'em.

An old manager, called everyone names when they left the office so I knew she was doing it to me too. Created two teams within what should've been one, it just never stopped. Went to hug me on my last day there and I refused then left. Hateful woman appalling manager

@TonkaWakan. That is horrific.

Probably my mums ex boyfriend. He was just a vile misogynistic piece of shit.

He was emotionally abusive to my mum and me and siblings. He racked up loads of debt in my mums name. He had an affair with a disabled woman that lived up the road. My mum only found out because she came to our house looking for him as he'd stolen loads of her money.

When my grandma died a few years after she finally got rid of him, he wrote 3 letters. One for my mum. One for my mums best friend at the time. And one to my nan -- pretending he didn't know she was dead. All to try and get in on the inheritance she would receive from the sale of her house.

I don't even know how to explain just how awful a person he is. But he preyed on vulnerable women and took whatever he wanted from them. He made my teenage years hell and completely changed the way I viewed my mum. I don't necessarily blame her for it all, but she has five kids and it still hurts now knowing she allowed him to take us all for mugs. She won't even talk about him now and gets highly defensive if he is brought up. But actually, even though I know she was as much of a victim as we were, she needs to take responsibility for allowing him into our lives and to let us express to distress it caused us. I fucking hate that guy.

@HopeWish - the vinyl figures and lego made me snort. From my own experience of exdh into this stuff (well into his forties), it should be listed as one of the relationship red flags.

It's a toss-up between my son's former landlord (a thoroughly nasty piece of work, who threatened to take me to court when I dared to stand up to him) and someone I once worked with who suddenly accused me (incorrectly) of professional incompetence in the middle of a project we were both working on. In both cases, the offenders went very quiet when I presented them with irrefutable proof that they were wrong!

The horrible parents who told their children to bully me because they were jealous of my parents. I was 4. They encouraged their children to spit on me, insult me, and attack me for my entire childhood, so I grew up afraid. I loathe envy and jealously to this day.

So many.

A girl called Sonia at my college. I was a very naïve 16 year old and in a group at lunch she told me she had been raped. Everyone was laughing and I had no idea why as I totally believed what she had said. I had no comprehension someone would lie about something that serious. Later on I was told she said it because I was so gullible she thoroughly enjoyed making me think she had been raped and basically was making fun of me.

My ex best mate. Took everything I confided in her about my marriage, my ex husbands depression etc and then twisted it, used it against me, made out that no one apart from her cared about him and ended up fucking him behind my back whilst lying to me saying I was paranoid, and pushing him away when I pulled her up on it. She wrecked my mental health, my marriage, my life and my kids lives. And by proxy his life.

She is a pure evil manipulative bitch. And I found out later its not the first time she's done it to people either.

My sister A textbook narcissist, who has determinedly removed me from the family because I finally stood up for myself when she was yet again trying to kick me down.

None of my extended family talk to me anymore, because of her tales of woe and "bullying". Which is more fool them. But I'd be lying if I said it didn't fucking hurt.

Well as I've always thought I was a genuine decent person, I'm thinking now it must be me who is the worst person I know. I've given everything to everyone and nothing is appreciated anymore so I'm surmising it must be me

These posts are very sad.

Our headteaacher died in service of cancer and a local head came in as a 'consultant'. She was one of the vilest people I have ever met. In one of the first meetings she went around the room and demanded to know people's star signs - and seemed to decide whether she liked people or not based on this information. She would watch us on CCTV and then invite us into her office to ask why we were speaking to colleagues. After one INSET she insisted that everyone stay and put up a reading display which she would come and check at 6PM. She would ask for meetings with individuals at her school down the road at 8AM then ring up and ask the office staff if we'd said anything on our return. Everyone in a meeting had to be on a lower level than her or else. She would threaten, shout and bully everyone including senior leaders. Awful woman.
Also the total narcissist who bullied a lovely TA and rearranged the room so that said (disabled) TA couldn't navigate it any more. Was a total suck up to senior management and made the most excruciatingly inappropriate comments in meetings such as 'give me a higher target - I really want to stretch myself' and promising to have work finished which surprisingly never materialised (and others had to pick up the pieces). She didn't care about the children and it was a relief when she got a job in another country. Before she went she accused me and a couple of others of bullying her - because we had tried to hold her to account for the subjects that we were responsible for. Dreadful waste of skin.

@TonkaWakan bloody hell! That’s a shocking story.

An ex boss who worked at a recruitment firm in Leeds. Absolute bitch. Lazy at the job but got away with it because she was onside with the management. She moved from an office where the work was easy as the service they offered was in demand but when in Leeds the competition was stiff and our company just couldn't compete with the established firms. She wanted to move me to another office when I was 7 months pregnant which would have been a fucking nightmare to get to and she constructed a story where I had apparently slagged another member of staff off so I got managed out. I hadn't at all. She was horrible to work for. Sly and just backstabbing.

Funny thing is she is now into mental health and promoting positive attitude etc. What a fucking joke.

What scares me is my sister is now a carer for the elderly
I presume for the same reasons sexual predators are attracted to professions which give them unfettered access to children?

My step mother. Too much to get into - I could write an essay.