Worst Human being you've ever known?

[thebatman]

After life saving surgery at the start of the year I've been doing some soul searching and re-evaluating a lot in my life, and looking back it astonishes me that I put up with some truly awful people for so long, even when I knew what complete and utter unrepentant shits they were, so, can I ask, who is the worst Human being you have ever known and why?

My best friend, who I have known since we were 5 years old, her father. He has passed away now, but he was an absolute monster. He beat her mum up causing irreversible brain damage and both physically, and emotionally, abused my friend. I also have my suspicions that he sexual abused her but she won’t talk about it. She had a breakdown during her gcse’s and ended up in hospital. He always gave me the creeps and I remember my parents banning me from going to their house so she always came to mine. My family tried to help her out many times when she was younger and after her breakdown, she lived in with us until we both left for uni at 18. He was a gynaecologist and we found out that the reason he’d left his home country is because he’d been doing illegal abortions and the authorities were closing in on him, so he fled here. Awful, evil man. I just remember he always had a cold look in his eyes. I can’t describe it but I couldn’t hold a conversation with him because he made me so uncomfortable. Sadly, her relationship with her mum has never recovered because she feels like her mum didn’t do anything to protect her. She now sees my parents as hers and her dc call them granny and grandad.

My mentor when I was in my first year of teaching, doing a school-centered primary PGCE.

She would undermine me in front of my class, gaslight me, make me feel paranoid, nitpick away nastily at every decision I made, come into my classroom and start criticizing everything I’d done. Whisper horrible things in my ear when I was on playground duty or leading a school trip. Mock me. She really seemed to take pleasure in it. I think she is the one truly evil person I’ve ever met. It completely ruined my self-esteem and I still feel so insecure about my teaching.

When I just couldn’t take any more, and confronted her about it at the end of the year she started crying! (When I’d spoken to her about it before she told me I was being unprofessional and that she wouldn’t sign off my PGCE - but finally, at the end of the year, I explained everything to her calmly in no uncertain terms, and laid out exactly why she had been unacceptable). I’ve heard this is very common behavior in bullies when confronted. She was a complete sociopath.

An ex friend. She was a compulsive liar and narc, she lied about having a miscarriage and about a boyfriend being violent to her. Every other word that came out of her mouth was a lie, she has a very charming personality though so makes friends quickly but loses them once they realise what she's all about. She said some vile things about me when I cut her off.

Someone I had to work with. Same level as me but the most hateful bully I've ever come across. Made worse by my boss who allowed it. I was told she was homesick (from NZ) so I had to be understanding! Her hatefulness in the office lasted 18 months but the effect it had on me lasted years.

A "gentleman" who had 28 illegitimate kids, and "kindly" offered to give me #29. I declined. Loudly. The sheer, uncaring pride in his voice, and he supported not one of them. He was also a serial abuser, and I'm told that some of his daughters later had his children. What a mess.

An ex of mine who forced me into prostitution with him as my pimp. For two years, then tried to kill me when I tried to get away. It took me a very long time to be normal after that and he's still walking round free.

Too many to mention. One recent example was a guy who, I found out, was physically and mentally abusing a friend of mine, and he was a nice middle-class vicar's son so he got acquitted when the case went to court. He'd do things like poke holes in the sheets and claim mice did it, or set up an app on her computer that meant he could stalk her. Thankfully, he's dead now.

I also met a guy at synagogue who thought black people were inferior and that over 1000 Arabs dying in the Lebanon conflict was a good thing. A real charmer.

My step daughter is vile. Name changed for this.

She got pregnant deliberately aged 19. She hid it as she loves the drama and wanted to humiliate and punish her parents. So she didn’t tell them until a week before the birth. She didn’t go to the doctors either so no check ups.

The child was born very small and had to go into the special care baby unit. She caused a huge fuss in the unit, about how it wasn’t convenient for her, so much so that the consultant had to take her to one side and tell her to stop thinking of herself and start thinking about the baby’s health.

Her parents were good people and she had a pretty privileged upbringing. She always got more than her younger sister, who she still treats as a bit of a skivvy.

She decided that everyone had to take turns childminding. Her mum refused. Her Dad works all the time. She didn’t speak to me because, even though I had 3 children of my own, I declined to look after the baby 3 days a week. She got her sister to take care of the baby every weekend and a few evenings after school. I don’t know how her mum allowed that to happen but I think her parents are a bit afraid of her.

She then split up with her boyfriend and insisted my Ex, her father, pay for an expensive solicitor to pursue maintenance and residence. She said her BF was abusive and had tricked her into pregnancy by sticking pins in the condoms. (Even though she had told me at the time that she’d stopped taking the pill). She said a lot of very nasty things about him, which I don’t know whether it’s true, but I suspect wasn’t.

Ex, understandably was very angry with her BF. The whole family cast the BF out. He had to move to another town because she then said he’d raped her. Step daughter then complained that he was too far away as she needed him around more for the child, and that perhaps it wasn’t rape.

She has little interest in her son. She posts pictures on social media. However she’d come to our home and sit at the table and totally ignore him. The child never asks her for anything, and even though I don’t know him that well he’d ask me for everything when he visits. He’s outwardly looked after and she has had social services, he’s clean, fed and clothed well. However when he started school and got bullied she laughed that it ‘was because he’s so small’.

I found it so hard to be in her presence I’d busy myself with the child or housework, as all she’d do is bitch about others. So then she started saying that I was awful to my Ex, and then lies about things I’d done. She stopped coming to the house and said it was because I wasn’t welcoming enough. Her lies got bigger about me to my Ex, and she was one of the biggest factors in our marriage breakdown.

Since then, she’s been out of my life so I don’t hear so much about her. However she is one of the worst people I’ve met in my life.

A mother and her daughter. Wealthy, privileged women who used their money to belittle and bully. Two faced and bitchy, they were never satisfied with all that they have. They took advantage of people’s good nature and helped put my husband in an early grave with all the stress they caused us. I will dance on their graves.

My PE teacher at secondary school was nasty to many pupils but very much more so to me as I was small, shy and quiet, wouldn't say boo to a goose. I've met quite a few horrible bullies but if she was the worst then by comparison to many posters on here it wasn't so bad. I still harbour fantasies about revenge.

@Sometimesfraught82

Actually it's been mostly positive and life affirming, I have the best people I could hope for in my life, now, and I'm so grateful for the support they've shown me during my recovery from the surgery, but there is a shit list of people who are going to get told exactly what I think of them if our paths cross again.

My ex SIL. The list of awful things she has done is long but includes telling my FIL that DS wasn't DH's child (a lie), telling the whole family including BIL that her own eldest DD was BIL's child (also a lie), bullying me at a family function to celebrate FILs 70th birthday when she knew I wouldn't make a scene in case I upset the ILs, introducing BIL to heroin, refusing to acknowledge me at DH's funeral and telling anyone who would listen that it was a good thing he was dead because he was finally free of me, and then when BIL died this year, after they had separated acrimoniously as he had found out the truth of the eldest daughter's parentage, stealing all his possessions and telling the hospital that he had no family, so his sisters didn't know he had died for a week, and only found out when one of the daughters posted on Instagram. She really hated the family and succeeded in isolating BIL from everyone he cared about. When his eldest daughter (from a previous relationship) managed to access the cloud where his phone was backed up, she found really awful text messages and photos of BIL covered in bruises, which she suspects his ex was involved in somehow.

My mother for controlling the life choices of my sister and myself in order to live out her dreams. She cared more what other people thought, rather than her own children's happiness.

My neighbours - horrible, horrible people who complain about everything we do even though others around us could do the same things and they wouldn't say a thing. I'm waiting for karma to bite the old bastards on the bum. If only they knew that everybody hates them and laughs about them behind their backs

My most recent ex-manager. She is the CEO of a small charity. Most of the employees were close family. For some reason she took a real dislike to me. I think it was because I was quiet. I was going through an awful time in my personal life anyway which she knew about, but even though I worked my arse off, she turned things back on me all the time. I got the blame so many times for so much that wasn't my fault. She used to tell me to brag about the work I was doing in the weekly staff meeting but then would also tell me that her and my colleagues didn't know what I was doing, if anything. I told her that the weekly meetings and relationships between the (eight) staff were toxic but she turned that completely around on me! I would tell her stuff and she would say a few weeks later that I hadn't told her. A safeguarding issue came up that made me question my sanity. In fact, I was questioning my sanity every day. She made me work from home (not Covid related) and literally ignored my emails for a month and got a close family member of hers/someone I reported to, to do the same. It was awful. When I went in the workplace for something I saw another of her close family members (and colleagues) and he pretty much blanked me. We had always got on before that. I had several breakdowns in the space of a few months.

I was doing an amazing job looking back but for some reason, they hated me. Upon her asking me to return to the office, I had a meeting with her and manager (her family member) to which they completely burned me. Anything I said they put the fault on me. I was completely and utterly broken and contemplated suicide every night when I returned home. I then returned to the office and she completely changed her tune and said I was doing an amazing job. I mean, what the actual fuck?! How to mess with someones head!!! They also broke covid regulations and put their staffs health on the line all because she didn't want to close the doors of the charity because she would lose face with other services doing similar work to us. Fucking egomaniac!!!

Their fucking faces when I put my notice in!!! I'm now in a new job and working incredibly hard and I love it!!! My manager and colleagues are wonderful and supportive and my manager is full of praise for me. I often wish I would bump into her so I could give her a piece of my mind now that I am strong and mentally well again. Twat!

@ShamrockHillz

My best friend, who I have known since we were 5 years old, her father. He has passed away now, but he was an absolute monster. He beat her mum up causing irreversible brain damage and both physically, and emotionally, abused my friend. I also have my suspicions that he sexual abused her but she won’t talk about it. She had a breakdown during her gcse’s and ended up in hospital. He always gave me the creeps and I remember my parents banning me from going to their house so she always came to mine. My family tried to help her out many times when she was younger and after her breakdown, she lived in with us until we both left for uni at 18. He was a gynaecologist and we found out that the reason he’d left his home country is because he’d been doing illegal abortions and the authorities were closing in on him, so he fled here. Awful, evil man. I just remember he always had a cold look in his eyes. I can’t describe it but I couldn’t hold a conversation with him because he made me so uncomfortable. Sadly, her relationship with her mum has never recovered because she feels like her mum didn’t do anything to protect her. She now sees my parents as hers and her dc call them granny and grandad.

Such a sad story , but so heartwarming to know that you and your parents were able to provide the family she needed. I would hope that if it came to it I could do something to help like they ( and you) have.

My bil who is the most chillingly evil person I have ever known. He started seeing my sister when I was only 11 and groomed me for years, sneaking up to my room when I was getting changed etc. I was afraid to tell my parents as I knew how much trouble there would be. He's controlled my dsis for many years but at last karma has bitten him on the arse and he's got end stage cancer. I shed no tears.

My abusive step father. Or my vile bully of a boss.

A manager of a nursery I worked at. She was a horrible bully and used to throw the laundry basket at the young staff, shout at the two year olds, shame them for pooing their nappies, she once turned the lights out and shut me in a room while I was still in there. Despite promoting me to pre school room leader the week before she gave me a bad reference for the job I left for.
It was the most miserable time of my life but I know that the best revenge is success so I went to uni, trained to be a teacher and now work at a beautiful private school. Every now and again I drive past the nursery in the summer holidays and see her sweating in the nursery and I’m
Sorry to say it but I inwardly smirk!

A former colleague who described himself as "gay best friend" after a few months of meeting me as I was the new girl on the block.

He turned out to be a narcissist and sociopath. Told lies, had no empathy, ignored the fact I was married with ds and pregnant with dd when I turned him down more than once, gaslighted me, would switch from being nice and nasty, manipulated everything in his favour, would go ballistic if I ever said no to anything and assaulted me when I said no again when he propositioned me.

He had a high opinion of himself and appeared to not get on with quite a few people from work, especially senior female workers and unsuccessfully tried to make a formal complaint against them when he eventually got sacked for gross misconduct? left the place of work.

I was on my way to a funeral of a dear relative and he called to talk but I told him it wasn't the right time, and instead of waiting for me to explain, he snapped "just forget about me!" Still tried to hoover me months later, turned up outside my house as a "surprise" and harassed me on my way to work.

This person was emotionally, mentally, psychologically and sexually abusive to me but I kept denying it to myself especially whenever he "apologised". The trauma bond meant that I was emotionally tied to him but knew logically that this person was a danger to me. I have no idea what he is doing now. I don't wish him ill but I hope for his sake that he is on his own and not causing pain to others like he has done before.

My current line manager (I’m having to spend 3 months in another department as part of training:development. As someone whose been in employment for more than 30 years without once getting into trouble and always being liked and respected, she is without doubt the worst person I’ve ever met. Rude , lazy, constantly accuses me of ‘lying’ micromanager, incompetent. She also openly belches in the office, eats with her mouth wide open and incorrectly corrects the way others speak. I can’t wait to be free of her.

An ex friend/acquaintance. It's nothing compared to so many here bit she genuinely is a vindictive, poisonous, horrible person. She took against me for a very minor reason, and since then has tried to get my child in trouble via her child, tried to sow seeds against me at my work etc. I blocked her in the end so she still tries any which way to get at me via my work etc. Luckily they have the measure of her and take no notice, but given this genuinely blew up out of nothing it is quite scary. She seems to want me ruined, and my children humiliated.

NC for this as to type it makes it all real and I'm not even sure he was that bad compared to others.

My uncle was a well-known and respected Publishing Director who had also been active in Labor politics in our country. He had a reputation of being highly intelligent (numerous degrees) and well-travelled. I was a quiet, sincere and intellectual person as a teen and often discussed and debated politics with him and we kept in touch by writing to each other and he'd often send me various books, political biographies, history books and such at Christmas.

I was severely bullied in school due to me having a very large nose and being very quiet and shy. I was too ashamed to admit it to my parents or anyone that I was teased and bullied everyday. I was too humiliated. I always had wanted to go to an all-girls school (to get away from the bullies at my school) and my uncle was always saying it was a waste of money (despite his wealthy and several degrees double Doctorate wife and his step-daughter both having been to one).
Anyway, it eventually came out and I told my uncle what I had gone through for years at school (I guess I was looking for some kind words, some love, some support) and he didn't understand why I hadn't told anyone before, like, 'why did you wait 7 years', almost victim-blaming me. I felt devastated and alone. It broke my heart when I just really wanted some soft words and somewhere soft to (metaphorically) land on, and my whole attitude changed toward him after that. 2 years later I went to my school formal, which I felt I really had to do. I had a (I thought) lovely royal/electric blue ball gown on. My mum who went to visit him a few years later, he lived in another state, took my formal photos down to show him.

Apparently he said I looked fat in the dress. It was a size 12-14, and I am short and very big breasted, so am not size 8 like his step-daughter who everyone loves (who I hear has now enrolled her daughter in an exclusive private school, lol), but I wasn't overweight or obese. So, yeah he said I looked fat.

I've never looked at those photos since. That was 23 years ago.

He also made his sister my mother cry once when she rang him up wish him happy birthday, when he went on about a comment my dad made about my grandmother at a previous gathering (dad called was referring to beating the 'poms' at cricket, a word my grandmother used to describe herself, anyway, my uncle took umbrage at that and lectured my mum who only rang to wish him happy birthday, and she hung up the phone in tears.

He died of cancer back in 2002. But his eulogies and praises from past colleagues state he was a 'compassionate' man.

I could never say a word against him to his family or my mum, I would never have been believed but he was able to break my spirit and my heart. While I would never describe him as the 'worst human being' I've ever known, I was relieved when he died that I would never have to converse with him again. Sad to say, but I felt relief that he was out of my life.

I can't really say on here because it's too outing but this one evil person left me with a life long mental health disorder to remember them by just to ensure I still suffered after their death.

I woke up to find him boiling my African land snail that I kept as a pet and then a while later I caught him smashing one of our pet mice to death with a bottle of my perfume.

Sorry for your loss, @GypsyWanderer, but that's surreal as fuck.

The mother of a dd’s friend. Poisonous woman, who’s screwed up all her kids, belittled them, sapped their confidence - and taught them to measure people’s worth purely by their money, designer goods, flash cars, etc.

Plus in the past she’s been vile to both my dds. For that alone I would loathe her.