Worst Human being you've ever known?

[thebatman]

After life saving surgery at the start of the year I've been doing some soul searching and re-evaluating a lot in my life, and looking back it astonishes me that I put up with some truly awful people for so long, even when I knew what complete and utter unrepentant shits they were, so, can I ask, who is the worst Human being you have ever known and why?

My eldest brother.

He sexually abused me when I was ten, several times. And I found out, only a few years ago, that he also did it to one of my brothers.

He is violent, thinks nothing of hitting women, used to shout and rage at my mother when she was alive, threw crockery at her wall because she hadn't tidied enough for his visit (she was 82 ffs).

He has never showed any remorse for what he did, in fact tries (apparently) to brush it off as not as bad as I and my other brother 'make out'.

I have had no contact with him for a decade or so and never will do. And I have no compassion for him- his childhood was in no way worse than mine or any of my other siblings. There is no excuse for how he is and what he has done.

I met that bloke who kept a nurse in his boot for 9 days, she was almost dead when she was found. I had to visit him in prison (work related). Well, he was handsome, charming, friendly....you would have no idea that he was capable of such a crime. Scary really.

@Movinghouseatlast

My next door neighbour (ex) who raised a boundary dispute the day he moved in. We had lived there 20 years with the same fence in the same place. He knew we couldn't afford to fight for the land in court. He destroyed my beautiful garden border and laughed in my face ( literally) when I cried.

He should not have laughed at you, that’s horrid. However it was his land.

A vile builder I have just had to fight in court over some terrible building work. He lied in court to such an extent that I was left absolutely speechless. He told the judge that his daughter had killed herself, which she hadn't.

Surely fact his daughter was still alive or had not died in this way was very easily proved as a lie and his entire case would have had doubt cast on it.
Also - how serious was the dispute that I made it to a court case in front of a judge?!

I've come across a few nasty people in my time like unpleasant bosses, and bitchy girls at school (and women in the school playground) but nobody that I would describe as evil. Although my father had his moments, and by all accounts so did my grandmother. Examples include financially abusing my mother, beating up his boss (!) because he didn't get the promotion and his boss did (amazing he got away with it, even in the 80s) and tapping our home phone when he thought my mum was having an affair. Grandmother walking into hospital after I'd been born and telling my mum my dad wanted a son! Stupid mare.

I can relate to the unsporting sporty parents - when ds played football years ago we had our own experiences with them (and a completely useless welfare officer at the club concerned). I think football brings out the worst in people but it sounds like tennis may be similar. He's done athletics since he was 12 and it has been a much nicer environment for him and us!

Headteacher of a school I briefly worked in. That woman was evil. I’ve encountered a few difficult heads in my time, but this was on another level. She made her staff’s lives hell and they were all absolutely terrified of her. She seemed to enjoy making things as difficult as possible and would frequently humiliate them. Anyone who stood up her was either made redundant or had their lives made so difficult they had no choice but to leave.

It even extended to the kids as well. It was an outstanding rated school but was also very highly pressurised. Very, very academic with very little time for the none core subjects of English, Maths and Science. Of course not all children are academic and there was a lot of kids who school refused and had anxiety issues. She had no warmth towards them and would do these epic, long winded assemblies where she would deliver a monologue and then get cross when the reception aged children didn’t sit and listen intently to her. The children weren’t allowed to run in the playground and had to eat their lunch in silence.

The staff were some of the loveliest people I’ve ever met and she’d broken them all. I long for the day this evil witch gets her commuppance.

@Siblingquandary

My school bully. She persecuted me for years and destroyed my self esteem. She ruined my faith in human nature, ravaged my friendships and manipulated me to make herself feel better. I don't care that she had a difficult home life it doesn't excuse the mess she made of mine.

And my brother. He's an arse.

Yep, this the school bully bit. Unfortunately she was at my primary secondary and sixth form college. Couldn't get rid of her, she infiltrated every single new fledging friendship I endeavoured to make and trashed it for me. Saw her a few years ago, still a horrible toxic mess. Feel sorry for her children, seeing her all over social media with my once best friend (who she manipulated against me) still feels like a twist of the knife. I'm generally a very empathic person in terms of other people's behaviour. But with her I have an empathy vacuum!

The SENCO at my DS2's first school. She took an instant dislike to him as he didn't have a connection with her. She gaslighted me several times, wrote false statements in his EHCP reviews, told other parents about my DS2's disabilities and bullied me into retracting a letter of complaint I'd written to the governors and local authority by threatening to make my younger DS's relationship with the school. She's a dangerous woman.

My aunt, who is an alcoholic and has no problem with attacking three year olds and screaming obscenities in their faces.

A woman I worked with who bullied me at work and turned my whole team against me, for no reason other than me being part time and offering her any help should she need it when she joined our team. Management didn't believe me as she was only 18 and I was in my 30s. It was only when she got moved to another department that they realised what she was doing as the same thing happened to another lady in the new department.

Post divorce I had an interview for a rental property.. Owned by a trust. Passed and paid fees and deposits etc. Home changed owners but still under the same trust. New owner visited and gave me reassurance we would be staying he would just be our new ll.
Spent time and money in the inside and out as it was quite run down. Didn't even have a loo seat!
Had an emcs in the September.. Notice to quit arrived in the January...
No evidence I had had any such conversation about being able to stay so had the legal 10 weeks to rehouse.
The man in question is a highly respected man who owns most of the local town.
Top twat ime.

@BiscoffAddict Bloody hell. I can't believe any parent would want to send their child to such a school, ofsted outstanding or not.

A headteacher who knew a staff member was in a fragile state of mental health. She offered no support to this staff member, she put pressure on her and gaslight her, until she quit. She did this because ahe didn’t want the staff member around when the school inspectors came around.

My father. I use the word loosely. He was physically, emotionally and sexually abusive to me growing up. He’s a bastard. I’ve been no contact for 15 years. I will dance on his grave when he’s dead. Hopefully it’ll be slow and painful when it happens.

An absolute bitch of a TA at the school I work at. We had a personality clash which I accepted as we can’t get on with everyone. But she took it to the next level bitching about me to anyone who would listen. She got a group of her friends to join in as well, none of whom had even spoken to me! She refused mediation to resolve the issue and fortunately I haven’t had to work with her since. This was 10 years ago and she still gives me dirty looks in corridors, if she walks into a room and sees that I am there she will pull a face and walk out. I was heading to my car in the carpark a few years and I could hear someone revving, I thought it was one of my friends messing around but when I turned round it was her and she had a psychotic look on her face! I haven’t said anything about this incident because I honestly don’t think people would believe me! The weirdest part of it is that we never even had a disagreement, she just decided that she doesn’t like me and when asked for a reason she couldn’t even give one. Luckily others have witnessed her actions and my other colleagues are lovely.

@Sometimesfraught82

*I'm a soft touch so I mostly have compassion for the bad eggs. Something awful must've happened to them to make it that way.*

Even when these “bad eggs” you affectionately refer to them harm totally innocent and vulnerable children?

Yes, the "Something awful must have happened. . ." defence stretches only so far.

Godwin's law here but: Hitler's father was a violent alcoholic. So was Stalin's.

More generally, as some other posters have already said, I am reading a lot of these posts and wondering sadly where the other adults were. (Something I have also wondered when looking back at my own childhood in the house of two disturbed and damaging parents.) Sometimes, genuinely, no-one knows about abuse until afterwards but, far more often, they do know. Or thay at the elast suspect.

Lots of bystanders in the world. Cowards. Often telling themselves "Oh, I expect someone else is dealing with it" or "I don't want to make a fuss."

My ex father in law now deceased the sick crimes he did for money where nothing on how he destroyed his own family from his children’s to his grand children he suffered terribly at the end of life but it won’t come close to the suffering he’s caused and he was never and now never will be held accountable. If there’s a bell he’ll be there but I think he’ll be the one doing the torturing

@Namechangedandoverwhelmed
Sadly I’ve seen this a few times 😔

I’m a criminal barrister. Have met a lot of people who have done awful things. Have met few awful in themselves.
One client who had very badly injured his partner springs to mind. He spent the whole trail issuing further threats and then threats to kill. Far worse than eg murderers I’ve represented. Few and far between.
In my own life I’m lucky in that worst I’ve come across tend to be lazy/unprofessional/unethical - that at work is really rare and very shocking when come across.
Private life I don’t know anyone unpleasant (one who is has significant mental health probs so I don’t count that at all)

[quote Sometimesfraught82]@Movinghouseatlast

My next door neighbour (ex) who raised a boundary dispute the day he moved in. We had lived there 20 years with the same fence in the same place. He knew we couldn't afford to fight for the land in court. He destroyed my beautiful garden border and laughed in my face ( literally) when I cried.

He should not have laughed at you, that’s horrid. However it was his land.

A vile builder I have just had to fight in court over some terrible building work. He lied in court to such an extent that I was left absolutely speechless. He told the judge that his daughter had killed herself, which she hadn't.

Surely fact his daughter was still alive or had not died in this way was very easily proved as a lie and his entire case would have had doubt cast on it.
Also - how serious was the dispute that I made it to a court case in front of a judge?![/quote]
This is people's space to vent, @sometimesfraught82. It's not your call to challenge the veracity of what people are saying.

I am fairly jaded to be honest. I have spent my entire working life with people who have done awful things and so I am viewing ot through that lens. But I think some people are evil. I don;t buy the 'deeper inner pain'. Alot of the people I work with have done literally the worst things known to human kind, which I can never express here what they have done (because i have nigthmares, no need for anyone else to now what I know or see what I have seen). Some of these people are evil to the core. (And almost all of them think of themselves as victims).

SIL. When we lost our baby at 16 weeks, said "well it was just going to get in the way anyway."

Whatever that means! Absolute dumpster fire of a human.

Lots of choice here. But I am going to pick a woman called Jackie.
When I was in my mid 20's I had a friend who had a solid group of friends from school. One of these friends was a woman (who I suspect had a mild learning disability of some sort). She was quiet and a bit socially nervous, tended to listen not talk, but was perfectly nice and completely inoffensive. Someone who would be regarded as a bit odd but nice enough. These were her only friends and I suspect it would have been very hard for her to make new friends. Jackie joined as a new friend in this social group. Once she had established herself she started what was clearly a deliberate attempt to ostracise the quiet woman from the group, constantly slagging her and encouraging others to do so too and cut her out. And it worked. One night the quiet woman absolutely broke down, really broke down in heart wrenching sobs as her best friend in the group no longer called her. Shortly afterwards I met my friend from the group and she picked me up with the quiet woman in the car and dropped her off at her house. Then she said to me ' Don't tell Jackie I saw the quiet woman. Its just not worth it, she'll give me hell for seeing her'.

So this poor woman, a bit socially odd, but nice, was singled out and left friendless because this SHIT BAG wanted to assert her own power and position by being able to do this. I was disgusted with her, but disgusted with the others for going along with this.

My SIL. Similar situation to the OP. Apparently I was doing it for attention.

A boy from my class at school served a life sentence for setting someone on fire as a 'joke'. His co accused said he laughed as the man died. He was high on drugs and drink, and he had an appalling childhood, this boy, but does that begin to excuse it?

Two other boys from my year poured petrol through a letterbox late at night and killed a family who lived near me. This was during the NI troubles. I don't know what was wrong with their fucking heads, but conflict in a society gives people who are deeply damaged or psychopathic an opportunity and an excuse to make others suffer.

My husband's former female best friend.

I call her the wrecking ball because she destroys anything and anyone she comes into contact with.She's utterly toxic.

She has ruined people's lives,relationships,friendships and careers.On her wedding day her own mum even asked the groom if he was sure he wanted to go through with the wedding.

Unfortunately the MOB was right to ask;not even 3 years into the marriage she's ran up thousands of pounds of credit card debt in her husband's name,developed a raging drugs (well she already used but not daily like she does now),is a alcoholic,lies compulsively (she told people she had cancer when she doesn't) and has had an affair.

She left husband number 1 for her current husband and abandoned her children from her 1st marriage.

She also tried to destroy my marriage because she's a bitter jealous cow and hated that my husband wouldn't leave me so he could lavish all his attention on her as she thinks she has to be the centre of everyone's world.

It took a course of counselling for my husband to realise that she wouldn't really his friend but a user who wasn't supporting him his struggles with depression but using it as a tool to drive a wedge between him and myself/our children/our families and was manipulating him so he's cut her out of both his and our lives.

We're still friends with her husband;he's a nice bloke;we wish him the best but he's going to have a shitty future if he remains with her.

@BlueLobelia

I am fairly jaded to be honest. I have spent my entire working life with people who have done awful things and so I am viewing ot through that lens. But I think some people are evil. I don;t buy the 'deeper inner pain'. Alot of the people I work with have done literally the worst things known to human kind, which I can never express here what they have done (because i have nigthmares, no need for anyone else to now what I know or see what I have seen). Some of these people are evil to the core. (And almost all of them think of themselves as victims).

It is not a popular view, but I agree some people are just evil.

@Sometimesfraught82

A lot of these ghastly people are allowed to continue because so many just stand back and hope someone else deals with it

Can you stop policing everyone’s posts?

Multiple comments like “I hope you reported it/him/them” are not very helpful when people are sharing deeply traumatic and personal things.